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51-59,
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writes:I have been married for almost 20 years.I began an affair with my first true love 6 months ago. I can't continue like this. I am so torn. I don't want to hurt either, I love both. The person I am having the affair with is out of state. We have met only once, but talk to each other all the time. My husband is a good man, everybody loves him. I just feel like something is missing in my life. I don't deserve either. I am so afraid of hurting one of them. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): what should you do - you know the answer to this. the question is will you?
if you want this other man, do the honorable thing, without any drama, and release your husband. simple, no fuss. your husband is also young enough to start over so it shouldn't be a problem. i have always said good men are hard to find, you say your hb is a good man, so release him to find a good faithful woman for himself. life is too short to mess people around, especially so called loved ones.
affairs, no matter how old or young the person is, indicate some moral malfunction in their lives. they hold too many aces and what is so sad they play them. thus bringing untold pain, untold devastation and betrayal.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 October 2009):
 I think you should knock off the nonsense with the ex-boyfriend and focus on your marriage. Your husband is the one you vowed to honor and cherish. An affair is not going to fill any void in your life, it will only cause more problems and pain. Every marriage need readjustments from time to time, see if you can get yours running smoothly. Don't throw 20 years away.
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