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writes:I am stuggling about turning 30 this saturday.I dont know why but i cant get excited. Im kinda sad and feeing down about this situation.I guess a part of me doesnt want to grow up.I am so used to being in my 20s and im not looking forward to my 30s at all.Any advice??Chyna Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): Well, I mind being older for tangible reasons. I don't mind hitting any one specific awful number.
Really, what's the number? If we humans kept track of our ages with some other counting method than years, then it might be all different. The next "big number" might have come 3 years ago or 3 more year from now. It's arbitrary that being alive for 365x29 days makes you one category but being alive for 365x30 days puts you in a different one.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 September 2009):
 It's funny but I had a hard time with my 30th birthday too. In fact it was much harder than when I turned 40 or even 50. I don't know why either. Looking back, I actually enjoyed my 30's much more than my 20's so all of that dread was for nothing. Oh and I recommend you have a fifth of Johnny Walker on hand on the big day, helps with the coping mechanisms but watch out for a crying jag. Suck it up babycakes, and once you consider the alternative, turning 30 doesn't seem so awful!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): think of all the people that are turning 40, 50, 60, 70 etc
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 September 2009):
The post below really sums it up. :). Read it and just relax. Age is a number, that's all. Enjoy being a woman! And have a great birthday too!
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (29 September 2009):
 Age is only a number. If your issue is about losing your looks and your health, remember that if you keep yourself healthy and trim by eating right and exercising, you will always look better than most women your age, especially as you get older, because in the United States a full two-thirds to three-fourths of the US population is overweight or obese, and most of those people are older. And if you stay healthy you may be able to dodge a lot of the typical medical bills that pile up with average older Americans who did not try to lead a healthy lifestyle. Yes, you CAN beat the system by trying to stay healthy. No, you DON'T have to lose your life savings over a heart operation, because you can prevent that heart operation by taking care of yourself starting from a young age. Which you still are! If your issue is about losing your youthful exuberance about life, you need to remember that whatever feelings/attitudes/emotions/lifestyles you lose with time are always replaced by new and different ones. It's called getting older and wiser. You may end up "just like your mother" in the end, but once you are there you will sursprisingly like and be ok with it. Or you may end up nothing like your mother. Whatever. You need to focus on every new phase of your life as the adventure it is. Mentally, the older you get the better you get, because your life experience only makes you mentally richer and wiser the more you age. So age in this respect is a very good thing. The more experience and knowledge you have the better decisions you make and the easier to live with yourself and your decisions, the more peace of mind and serenity you acquire about your life in general, etc. But then you ask, so what? Even if I still stay in shape mentally and physically and keep up the optimism all the way to the end, in the end I die anyway. That one I cannot help with, we are all in the same boat with that one :) Personally, I believe in an afterlife so that helps me a lot with that one. Go to this link http://www.near-death.com/evidence.html You may find it inspiring or you may think that it is a bunch of malarky. Either way, I hope I have helped a little bit.
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