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writes:To make a long story short, there is this guy that I met and I think I am starting to fall for him. I get a really emotional feeling every time we part ways after hanging out and I am starting to really care about him. The very very tricky part is that he is mormon and have different religious views. He will not do anything but kiss me, and thats fine. However, I don't ever plan on converting, nor am I even close to thinking of marriage because we are on very different time schedules and live in different places during the school year because I go to college somewhere else.I just don't know what to do. I don't want to get too close, but at the same time I do because I want to grab a hold of what I have with him (I don't get it often and its such a good feeling). Am I foolish for even becoming slightly involved? It will never work. This is basically just a summer fling, but naturally turning into something more feelings wise for me. Am I wasting my time? The thing is that I know its probably not going to go anywhere past this summer, but while its happening I dont want to get hurt or waste my time. Should I just cut it off while im ahead?Has anyone else had something like this or similar happen to them!? Helpp!! I need answers! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 June 2012):
 I agree with Eyes Wide Open.. if you are having fun it's not a waste of time...
I think your fear is that you will fall harder for him and when you have to leave you will not be able to and then you have a problem...
you will then do an LDR until neither of you can bear it any more.
IF he's religious and won't change and you won't convert then you know there's no hope of this working out... especially if religion is important to EITHER of you...
so you are asking if you should go out have fun all summer and run the risk of having to walk away from something that you won't want to end...
hard choice but only you can make it.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (20 June 2012):
 If you already know it won't work because of your differences, it will just cause you more heartache in the end to keep spending time with him, building the relationship, and getting more emotionally attached. I am not against you two having fun, but the problem with having fun is that the more you do together, the more emotionally attached you get to him, the more you like him, and the more you want to be with him. On the other hand, if two people like each other, want to be together, and can accept each other's religious differences...they can make it work. It just depends on whether or not he would expect you to join his church. If you are planning on going to college, I would wait and see how things turn out. You don't really want to jump the gun. You might just have a nice summer romance and then lose touch with one another for awhile. I just know that anytime I told myself I was just having fun, my feelings were also getting deeper, so sometimes it is hard to know what to do.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 June 2012):
 If you are having fun, you aren't wasting your time, especially at your age. If I were you I would enjoy my summer and just relax.
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