How do I walk away from someone I love so much?
Q. hey, i wrote in a cuple weeks ago asking should i stay or walk away from my married boyfriend, the thing is. i got 1 reply saying stay, i saying leave and 1 saying run. the thing is i no he's not happy where he is. i no he's not. if you read my f...
A. 8 February 2008: I think you should love YOURSELF more and take your life to a higher ground. You will always be sloopy seconds, I'd find a better love who will put me first if I were in your shoes.... (read in full...)
We are co-workers--he's married and has a crush on me. Should I avoid him?
Q. Recently my best friend let me know he has a crush on me and cannot stop thinking about me. Problem is, he is married. I am single and I find him atractive, if only he were not married... I let him know I would like to keep being his friend but ...
A. 15 January 2008: I'd do him a favor and avoid him for a while. I don't mean being impolite but try avoid being in his company as much as possible. He needs to sort himself out and you don't want to be a distraction.... (read in full...)
How do I walk away from someone I love so much?
Q. hey, i wrote in a cuple weeks ago asking should i stay or walk away from my married boyfriend, the thing is. i got 1 reply saying stay, i saying leave and 1 saying run. the thing is i no he's not happy where he is. i no he's not. if you read my f...
A. 15 January 2008: You know exactly where to go with this and what your future will be with this loser, you've been living it. You say you love him but it's all one sided, your side. If he truly loved you he would leave his wife for you, pure and simple. Dump the ... (read in full...)
I feel like an adult trapped inside a little girl's body...
Q. I am really getting upset. I am a 15 year old girl, I feel trapped inside that number. I feel like an adult trapped inside a little girl's body, it is driving me insane, fighting between being a child, and being an adult. When I look at males my age ...
A. 15 January 2008: Chlez's advice makes me very uncomfortable, I don't think it's a very wise idea. However I do agree that perhaps talking to a counselor would be a great idea, they will not patronize you but perhaps truly give you some comfort. Time is your best ... (read in full...)
My husband insults me and seems to use me for sex! I found over 50 texts to another woman on his phone. What do I do?
Q. hi i need your help i have been marred for 3 years my husband never kisses me he says its because i smoked ,so i gave up.he allways pulls me down about what i wear i was 14 stone now im 9,and he still pulls me down.he says we will not go out on our ...
A. 14 January 2008: He needs to move out immediately. You mustn't live in the same house. Go ahead with the divorce. That is the only way you will find the peace of mind you so desperately seek. You are a very lovely person, friends won't be a problem. Good luck honey, ... (read in full...)
21 with a little girl and pregnant with twins. Help!!!
Q. hi its me again im the 21 year old with a little girl who has just found out im pregnant and was not sure what to do keep it or get rid of it well i went for my scan yesterday and found out its twins im having so im not going to be a 21 year old ...
A. 10 January 2008: If you are sure you don't want them then contact an adoption agency. They may able to help you out emotionally and financially. There are plenty of childless couples that would love to have a set of twins. Children deserve to be wanted. Once you ... (read in full...)
The whole school knows I love my teacher but every time I try and get over her it doesn't seem to work.
Q. I really really love my teacher. Im almost 15 and shes married and 26. I have loved her since Feb 2007. Everytime i try to get over her it makes it even harder, and i was so convinced that she liked me that i told her how i felt and i acted on it ...
A. 10 January 2008: You would be doing yourself a huge favor by switching schools. Check into it immediately.... (read in full...)
Is it best to pass your driving test before having a baby?
Q. hi there, as you know i asked previously that i would like to have a baby with my new boyfriend and i am considering it as we are getting our own house and ive got my driving test at the end of the month and my boyfiend earns alot as he works two ...
A. 8 January 2008: You say he's a NEW boyfriend and you are already thinking of having a child with him?! Slow down, you need to see how your relationship develops before you bring another person into the world! You have lots of time so what's the rush? Babies ... (read in full...)
Should I let her move in next door with her roommate?
Q. My husband owns the house next door to us. Our friends are currently moving out and purchasing a house. A girl (whom my husband liked and lusted after 10 years ago wants to move in there). She is single and will have a girl roommate. He has told ...
A. 7 January 2008: I think it would probably be wiser at this point to have someone else rent the house next door. Your marriage doesn't sound strong enough to handle the added stress. I'm sure your husband will be able to understand this since he knows you had issues ... (read in full...)
My mother controls me. How do I get her to stop doing this?
Q. Me and my ex have been talkin again and we want to get back together the only thing it long distance plus an age difference of 4 years and it only ended a month ago but my mum is refusing to let us get back together and wont let us to it till i'm ...
A. 4 January 2008: Once you are legal age, she has no say over your moving out. If you can afford it then do it, but if you are underage and can't afford it then you have to follow the rules she sets up in her house. It's not controlling on her part but simply being ... (read in full...)
My mother controls me. How do I get her to stop doing this?
Q. Me and my ex have been talkin again and we want to get back together the only thing it long distance plus an age difference of 4 years and it only ended a month ago but my mum is refusing to let us get back together and wont let us to it till i'm ...
A. 4 January 2008: If you don't like your Mom's rules then move out. As long as you live under her roof you have no choice but to do as she says. She isn't trying to be mean, she is just doing her job as your parent. But if you can't accept her authority then you have ... (read in full...)
She was my first, I was not hers... should I "get even" by experimenting with somebody else, as the thoughts about my wife's past haunt me regularly?
Q. Married for 7 years with 2 chilren, have had normal ups and downs but very good marriage. My wife had been with 6 other men before me, and I was a virgin. We got married right out of high school so I know these encounters she had were just "dumb ...
A. 3 January 2008: This is an unfixable problem. There is no getting even either. The past is past. You either decide to put it out of your mind and move forward or leave your lovely wife. She can't change what happened in the past and neither can you. I'd seek ... (read in full...)
Is God the reason my answers aren't being posted?
Q. I don't understand. I've responded with reasonable answers to reasonable questions on this site and my answers are not being posted. Has anyone else had that problem? I've responded to some questions that are very meaningful to me becuase I've ...
A. 3 January 2008: Heck fire my ratings were in the toilet after a couple of weeks on this site, who cares?! I calls 'em as I sees 'em. Contact Andrew maybe he can tell you what's going on with your responses, he doesn't drop people because they are unpopular or I'd ... (read in full...)
He broke up as I did not respect my promise of visiting dating sites. Now he avoids me, what should I do?
Q. Has anyone got any ideas how to get out of this sticky situation? After making a promise not to go on dating sites again,my boyfriend showed up suddenly whilst i was in a dating chatroom. He has caught me for the sixth time. He just walked out ...
A. 3 January 2008: You've lost him leave it alone and stop calling. Now you can chat all you want on those sites and not have to break promises or cheat on anyone, works out perfectly in my opinion.... (read in full...)
I just don't know what to do. I feel like I've got nothing to live for any more.
Q. My mum isnt lettin me and my ex get back together cause she think i will just get hurt again and i know she never liked him in the first place and the fact that it long distance doesnt help but the thing is it caused alot of prolems betweeen her and ...
A. 3 January 2008: Sorry you are feeling so down right now but I have to say that you are living under your mother's roof and are her responsibility until you are legal age. She rules the roost at this point in your life. Believe me as a mother I can guarantee she ... (read in full...)
I need a woman. How do I find one?
Q. how can i find a woman in my area fisrt to like me and then to get intimate. i respect all woman and need one. i have been alone for so long. the woman should be truthful and loyal. no lies and truly needs a relationship. ...
A. 3 January 2008: Do some volunteer work at your local hospital, join a club, get involved with your community, be out there and visible. You'll meet people and sooner or later find someone. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Who gets the best orgasms - men or women?
Q. Im not sure if there is an actual answer to this, but do both sexes get the same amount of pleasure during sex? for example if they both reach their 'peak' orgasm. in other words, wat sex overall recieves more pleasure?...
A. 3 January 2008: No gender receives more pleasure than the other but it's the females who get stuck with the resultant pregnancy if they don't use some form of birth control. Responsibility is the key word to remember.... (read in full...)
Why did he do that?
Q. My ex dumped me for another guy, but then she told me that she got pregnant with his baby; she came down here to have an abortion, all he did then was text her once, didn't go to see her at all, and that's how she ended it with him. Two question...
A. 3 January 2008: Handle what? He knocked her up and moved on, obviously it was a totally one-sided relationship. If you want to get back with her then give her a call and see if she's interested.... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to stay friends?
Q. i am 31 married wth kids. The problem is the love has gone out of the relationship. Over the past 5-6mths i have ben seeing someone else and have fallin in love with him, (he also feels the same) we both feel the same about each other. (he also has ...
A. 2 January 2008: You get over him by focusing on your own family and your problems with your marriage. That will leave very little time lusting for your ex lover who obviously values his other relationship over the affair he had with you. Wake up before you lose ... (read in full...)
My boss's wife stared at me and gave me indirect orders of what I should wear! She is probably threatened by me, having a fragile marriage, but I am only doing my job. Any ideas?
Q. Recently my boss' wife, who I have never met came into my workplace. I was in the middle of something when she walked in and she came up to me immediately and introduced herself and in turn I introduced myself as well... of course. During that ...
A. 20 December 2007: His wife and their marital situation should not concern you. They may or may not be having problems, some couples save the intimate behaviors for the provacy of their home and do not show them in public. She may or may not be threatened by you, it ... (read in full...)
I deceived a married man to get me pregnant and he wants to be there for us, but I don't want him near us unless he leaves his wife, what is the right thing for me to do in this situation?
Q. I'm a single mom who had been seeing a married man for two years before his wife found out. After she found out, he broke it off with me, and we were both devestated. Then I called him a few times, and we started to see each other again, but ...
A. 18 December 2007: The first poster is all wet. Of course you have done something wrong and you know it. You tricked your married lover into fathering a child by lies and deceit. You did it in hopes that you could hang on to him and used the poor baby as your carrot. ... (read in full...)
Why do I look ok at home but different at school etc?
Q. i am 14 year 10 when i look at myself in the mirror at home i am happy with my appearance.but when i look at myself elsewhere like at school i always think i look really ugly and foul.why do i look diffrent i know it is a silly question is it to do ...
A. 18 December 2007: Yep it's probably the fluorescent lighting at school. Very unflattering but it's shinning on everyone else as well so I wouldn't worry about it.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man!
Q. I am a 17 year old and I'm in love with one of my 30 year old managers...We've been seeing each other for a while...we've even had sex. But there is one problem he is married and has 2 kids of his own. I really want our relationship and love to ...
A. 18 December 2007: You've more than just one problems here my dear. Try more like 5. His poor wife, an innocent child, another innocent child, a lying, cheating, using, a-hole, an your lack of good judgement. Wise up and take off those rose-colored glasses. This will ... (read in full...)
Am I a lesbien and should I tell her.
Q. I work at an all girls school and this has not been a problem until now. I have always been in straight relationships, but recently - since the start of the year - I have had feelings for one student in particular. I can't understand it as...
A. 14 December 2007: Ignore your feelings and control yourself, she will be moving on with her academic career and eventually your problem will solve itself. Be professional.... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 14 December 2007: Andy Honey, it will get better I promise. Little steps for baby feet, Buddy. I'm sorry she didn't see you for the great guy that you are, but we do here at DearCupid. Know that great guys get grabbed up sooner or later.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with another woman but don't want to break my wife's heart!
Q. im a married man of 22 years i recently met a woman and fell deeply in love, she is not married but has two children. i cant seem to leave my home or wife but want to be with her she is the other half of me. my children are grown hers are still ...
A. 14 December 2007: I hope you haven't PHYSICALLY cheated on your wife albeit you have emotionally. If you haven't then you can sit back and do some evaluating regarding your feelings towards this RECENTLY met woman. Like the others said, it does sound more like lust ... (read in full...)
Once a man has a history in Cheating, is it statistics or signs he will continue on this pattern?
Q. If a man has cheated on his first wife and divorces her. Then marries the Gf he had the affair with and cheats on her and divorces her.Will he continue this pattern with the current Gf?...
A. 14 December 2007: Yes, steer clear.... (read in full...)
Together 12 years, 5 kids, and split up in October. I want him back!
Q. Hello I was with my man for about 12 years we have five children which we recently had twin daughters about 5 months ago, we broke up last October, and he just recently got in another relationship. But he still calls me, we still sleep together, and ...
A. 30 November 2007: First off stop sleeping with him. If he loves you so much he wouldn't need to "try something new" while at the same time having sex with you. How absolutely callous of him! Tell him he can take his "one day a time" some place else. Make sure you ... (read in full...)
We are of different nationalities and our parents do not allow us to date. How to handle this?
Q. I've been in a relationship with an Asian girl for about five months now and I have two problems in one (*gasp*). First is that her parents don't want her to go out with anyone until she's 18 (she's 14 and I'm 15) and the fact that she's Asian...
A. 30 November 2007: Nothing can be done about it until you are both older and no longer under your parent's control. Until then you have no choice but to follow your parent's wishes on the matter. Sorry but that's the way it is and should be in my opinion.... (read in full...)
What can I say to my teacher, when he confronts me about my crush on him?
Q. Sorry if this is long... Right, On monday i made an appointment with the school nurse to discuss my problem over a teacher. I just went into details of how this situation is affecting me emotionally and also having such an impact on my life, etc....
A. 27 November 2007: My husband taught high school chemistry for 30 years and believe me when I say this, I highly doubt that he will discuss this with you. I know this is a big deal to you right now but it really isn't to a teacher. Students get crushes so often that ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and he says he wants to give me a baby for Xmas... what does he mean?
Q. my b/f is 17 and im 14 and we have had sex a few times and now he said he wonts to give me a baby for christmas wat does he mean...
A. 19 November 2007: Good lord, you are having sex and you don't know what he means? Unbelievable!... (read in full...)
Why does he he give me all this access to him if I'm not what he wants? He depends on me like I am his woman without giving me the title.
Q. I have a friend with benefits that I have been involved with for at least a yr and a half. We hang out and spend alot of time with each other he say's that i'm different from other women. He trust me enough to have his cars in my name even have let ...
A. 19 November 2007: You may not be the one he wants to marry, or he may not feel comfortable about making a commitment yet, but he has you right now so he's just covering his bases. Friends with benefits relationships apparently rarely work, someone always ends up ... (read in full...)
Can we restore our family unit or even our marriage or is it only a matter of time before he builds up the courage to leave me?
Q. I have recently caught my husband having an affair, we have been married 14 years and have 3 children. I told my husband I still love him and want him to stay, he said he would stay only to be with our children who he loves more than anything and ...
A. 19 November 2007: It's just a matter of time, I'd prepare myself for the worst if I were you. You are sitting on a time bomb.... (read in full...)
I don't like his attitute towards money, so parsimonious. Will this relationship work? Going different places costs, and I like variation.
Q. I am 47 in the middle settling my divorce. I end my unhappy marriage of 22 years. It is a relief to me as I dont love my husband any more and feel great to be on my own again. I am so desperate to find someone else. I want to make up for the ...
A. 16 November 2007: If you and he have talked about this and he insists he isn't going to change then you have to make up your mind whether you can accept his stingy ways or you will have to part ways.... (read in full...)
Can we restore our family unit or even our marriage or is it only a matter of time before he builds up the courage to leave me?
Q. I have recently caught my husband having an affair, we have been married 14 years and have 3 children. I told my husband I still love him and want him to stay, he said he would stay only to be with our children who he loves more than anything and ...
A. 16 November 2007: Eventually he will get fed up with you controlling him and you will be exhausted. I'd tell him to leave, the finances will work themselves out they always do. You need to think of the welfare of ALL the children involved and that includes the ... (read in full...)
Can we restore our family unit or even our marriage or is it only a matter of time before he builds up the courage to leave me?
Q. I have recently caught my husband having an affair, we have been married 14 years and have 3 children. I told my husband I still love him and want him to stay, he said he would stay only to be with our children who he loves more than anything and ...
A. 15 November 2007: In all fairness to the unborn child, he/she deserves the right to know his/her father. To forbid him from ever seeing his child is probably unrealistic and probably should be.... (read in full...)
Can we restore our family unit or even our marriage or is it only a matter of time before he builds up the courage to leave me?
Q. I have recently caught my husband having an affair, we have been married 14 years and have 3 children. I told my husband I still love him and want him to stay, he said he would stay only to be with our children who he loves more than anything and ...
A. 15 November 2007: If he loves the other woman and is father to her baby I fear he will indeed eventually leave you to be with her. He will have to pay child support for the baby as well so even if he stays with you he will have some contact with the baby and it's ... (read in full...)
Unrequited Love
Q. I have a problem and I'm so tortured. I am suffering from unrequited love with a co-worker. He flirts with me constantly and I turn into a giggling blushing teenager whenever I see him. I know he knows I like him because I feel like he enjoys ...
A. 15 November 2007: Since you asked him out why don't you say something along the lines "Hey Buddy I still owe you a birthday date, so when shall we go?". See what transpires after that. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Will he ever leave his wife for me???
Q. I'm in a relationship with a married man 25 years older than me. I fell in love with him almost 3 years ago, and tried (clearly unsuccessfully) to forget him. Then I gave him a letter in which I said that I feel something for him, ie love. His first ...
A. 15 November 2007: You can dream all you like but he will never leave his wife for you.... (read in full...)
Husband is Deployed, and I'm lonely. Is online relationships and flirting as a coping method...advice?
Q. Im 22 Happily married and have a beautiful daughter whose now 8 months old. My husband is deployed atm, and i find myself very lonely, and i am seeking comfort in online flirting, and i now have 3 friends who think they love me ( all met online). ...
A. 14 November 2007: Glad to hear it. Good luck and I hope your husband has a speedy return to your loving arms.... (read in full...)
I feel as though I lose everybody close to me through my tantrums. Please help.
Q. My partner (of 1 year) has just left me because he can't deal with my severe PMT (which I've suffered with for 15 years). I get very stroppy and quite aggresive - I have lashed out and hit him on 3 occasions. I have 2 children who have become very ...
A. 14 November 2007: First make an appointment with your doctor and discuss this. He/she can direct you to the help you need whether it may be medication or counseling or both. This is a serious problem and should be addressed immediately especially since there are ... (read in full...)
Husband is Deployed, and I'm lonely. Is online relationships and flirting as a coping method...advice?
Q. Im 22 Happily married and have a beautiful daughter whose now 8 months old. My husband is deployed atm, and i find myself very lonely, and i am seeking comfort in online flirting, and i now have 3 friends who think they love me ( all met online). ...
A. 13 November 2007: You are playing with fire. I'm sure the military base he deployed from has all kinds of group activities for the spouses left behind. Just stay busy, take up a hobby, go volunteer at a soup kitchen, write hubby lots of letters. Remember he's over ... (read in full...)
My husband insults me and seems to use me for sex! I found over 50 texts to another woman on his phone. What do I do?
Q. hi i need your help i have been marred for 3 years my husband never kisses me he says its because i smoked ,so i gave up.he allways pulls me down about what i wear i was 14 stone now im 9,and he still pulls me down.he says we will not go out on our ...
A. 25 April 2007: I know it was hard to do but I think a divorce is probably for the best looking at his track record.I wish I could be there when he gets the letter and see the look on his face. You will patting yourself on the back in the near futre, I'm sure.... (read in full...)
My husband insults me and seems to use me for sex! I found over 50 texts to another woman on his phone. What do I do?
Q. hi i need your help i have been marred for 3 years my husband never kisses me he says its because i smoked ,so i gave up.he allways pulls me down about what i wear i was 14 stone now im 9,and he still pulls me down.he says we will not go out on our ...
A. 18 April 2007: Your husband is treating you in this horrible way because you've been allowing him to. Tell him in no uncertain terms that his treatment of you is unacceptable and that the phone calls and text messages to another woman must stop. If he doesn't ... (read in full...)
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