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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Recently my boss' wife, who I have never met came into my workplace. I was in the middle of something when she walked in and she came up to me immediately and introduced herself and in turn I introduced myself as well... of course. During that initial meeting she made it a point to say she was his wife two or three times, which I found strange. She was average looking and quite older than I. However, after she introduced herself I went back to work only to glance over a minute or two later and find her standing across the room just staring at me! I mean she had been standing there studying me and she finally walked away once she realized I noticed this! I felt extremely awkward over this incident! It really bothered me! That day I was wearing a very appropriate, office-like dress and conservative heels. Fashionable yet classic. At the end of that day my boss' assistant came up to me and asked me to not wear dresses or high heels anymore. I think his wife had something to do with that! Then she came into my work again a week later and was observing me again! Why do you think she did that. It's very awkward I think she may have felt threatened. Whenever I see her with her husband they look as if they have just met, there is no connection or emotion in their interaction with one another. I sense marital trouble but it isn't my fault! I just don't know why she has her eye out for me in particular when I am just doing my job!-Confused!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (20 December 2007):
 His wife and their marital situation should not concern you. They may or may not be having problems, some couples save the intimate behaviors for the provacy of their home and do not show them in public. She may or may not be threatened by you, it doesn't really matter one way or the other really. You don't have to work with her every day so just ignore the stares. As long as you are dressing appropriately for the work place, wear whatever you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): Hmm, pretty strange behavior, I will agree. I would ask yourself some questions about how you dress that you may be missing that are office inappropriate. I don't know you or am saying that this is true of you, but I have noticed many women your age think they are dressing conservatively at the office, but they are either showing too much cleavage or too much leg or both....shouting your sexuality is not ever business like and can be well, distracting....she may have been staring because of that, that you are trying to be sexy in your manner of dress, of course she might feel threatened having you dress like that around her husband, but it is also unprofessional in offices especially where you have a lot of working class men....could this apply to this situation?
If you dress impecably, no tight fitting clothes that show off your entire package, no cleavage baring blouses or dresses, not mini skirts with conservative heels, then, yeah she sounds a bit over the top. There isn't anything you can do about that except act confident and don't let it get to you.
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