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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (4 January 2008):
 Once you are legal age, she has no say over your moving out. If you can afford it then do it, but if you are underage and can't afford it then you have to follow the rules she sets up in her house. It's not controlling on her part but simply being in charge of her surroundings and she has every right to do it.
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reader, lil-angel182  +, writes (4 January 2008):
lil-angel182 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the advice but when do u think will be the best time to tell her i want to go to college as if i tell her the now i will make things worse, i have been thinking about it for a few months now and i need to apply quite soon if i want a place and to sort out finance and accomidation? i still know that she will not like me movin out and will probably refuse as she is that controlling even if i did tell her i need to grow up
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (4 January 2008):
 just say u need to grow up that you want to move on and be inderpendent xx
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reader, lil-angel182 +, writes (4 January 2008):
lil-angel182 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni would move out and i'm planning on doing that this year when i go to college the thing is though i dont think she would let me leave, she would think i'm not ready and say no so how am i going to get her to let me move out?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 January 2008):
If you don't like your Mom's rules then move out. As long as you live under her roof you have no choice but to do as she says. She isn't trying to be mean, she is just doing her job as your parent. But if you can't accept her authority then you have no choice but to move out, support yourself, and make your own rules.
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reader, lil-angel182 +, writes (4 January 2008):
lil-angel182 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all ur advice but thigns still not changed i tried talkin to her and all i got was my fone taken off of me and she still not going to let me talk to him till i'm 18, the thing is she doesnt even seem to care that i'm heartbroken over this she just thinkin about the trouble it would cause her
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): Don't give up on him if he is what you want in your heart. I have just come back from lunch with my sister and she is 39 in March and is not over the fact her first proper 'love' relationship at about your age was destroyed by my parents. It kicked off a series of bad relationships and decisions.
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reader, lil-angel182 +, writes (3 January 2008):
lil-angel182 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits doesnt matter anymore my mum got her bf to shout down the phone at my ex to tell him to back off so he dont want anymore contact with me again:( i'm heartbroken all over again )
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (3 January 2008):
 have you sat down and talked calmy... without raising your voice, shouting, screaming bloody murder and being respectful and asked her why?i mean just straight up and outright "why do you feel the need to be so controlling over the relationship"i'm guess the answer will be " because you're too young, you don't know any better. i don't want to see you get hurt.. blah blah blah"if thats the case reply with"how old were you when you had your first relationship"and for the love of god and all that is holy. buy some rubbers.
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (3 January 2008):
well basically you are over 16 you can do what you like with a boy just tel her straight you love him and your going to get back with him but say you dont want her stressing or being mad over your choices just say mum im almost 18 i will be able to do everything let me grow up now and i might just find the one for me just ask her to stop it all if not go behind her back say your going out with mates it worked with me yes she did find out but my mum understood really so i hope this helped xx
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reader, giftrap +, writes (3 January 2008):
This is called life. When you become old strict you will understand the responsibilty of raising kids. She has the right to controll you until you are grown and out of the house.
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