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writes:I am 41 years old, and i have been picked on by my mother and one of my sisters. it is like if they think they are more supirior. they will pick on every little thing possible, from the way i talk to my dog, to the way i walk , to the way i raise my kids, to the way i do dishes..... in only a half hour i will be critisized at least 15 times. this past week-end i finally decided to tell them, that for one day in my life, i would like to be left alone and keep there critisisism to themself. so my mother answered that maybe for a few hours, but not a full day. then i answered her again, and i said (no) i want a full day of peace. so my father wasnt happy that i opened my mouth and he started on me and i told him the same thing, so my sister started on me later on in the evening, and i got up and through her out of my house. it seems that what ever i do, they just wont stop, (help me please, what should i do at this point, because i have enough) Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (15 October 2008):
 I guess I'd make it clear to your mother that you will stop attending family gatherings unless they start acting like adults and stop this nonsense. It isn't good for your children to hear such disrespect from their grandmother and aunt. Let them hold their gatherings some place else. Does your husband stand up for you? To tell you the truth this would drive me up the wall, I wouldn't be able to stand it at all.
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reader, briron +, writes (15 October 2008):
briron is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am not completely sure how this program works, I have been trying to answer the people that write to me and it has been going into answers, so sorry, I will get the hang of it.
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reader, briron +, writes (15 October 2008):
briron is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno my parents dont live with me, i live with my husband and my 3 kids, but it seems that any family gathering has to be at my place because my house is big enough to have all the family.
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reader, briron +, writes (15 October 2008):
briron is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you yum-yum, it feels good to hear from a neutral person, somebody from the outside of my family, thank you
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 October 2008):
Are they living in your house?
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (15 October 2008):
 Hi dear, in my opinion there could be many reason's that they are constantly critisizing you. They could be jellous of you. Did you ever think why they could be jellous??. There could be infinite amount of reasons. If you believe that your mother and sister are small minded it is therefore possible that you could not see why they could be jellous of you (because they could have petty reasons as they are small minded). It seems obvious to me that they are small minded if they critisize on how you wank!?? and the way you do your dishes!??. You asked your mother to give you a brake for a day and she siad ''that may be for a few hours but not a full day. That tells me that they are really looking for something to pick on. You also mentioned that they are giving you the impression that they are supirior than you. That's the impression that they are giving you from the outside. From the Inside its a phycological compensation for the infiroirty that they have day in and day out. (People who feel supiroir don't need to put people down). If your farther seems disapointed at you for opening your mounth that seems like he does not want to get involved with having an issue with your mother, so due to his weak charicter he goes along with the majority. In my opinion you should sit down and talk with them, make yourself very clear that you are unhappy about the way they are treating you. State exactly what is making you unhappy. If they don't change do everything possible to have little contact with them, even though this sounds harsh. What they are doing to you is not good for your well being. At the end of the day if they don't change it will be their loss. You would have valid reasons for keeping your distance so there would be no reason to feel guilty. Good luck!!
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