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writes:my husband left me 2 weeks ago.he has his own place that he never gave up the entire 2 years of our realtionship.anyway,i went over and went in without permission and although i didn't find proof of infidelity,i found out he had a pay increase by 4k a year. he founbd out i had went in his apartment and called the police.he had me arrested and has since taken out a restraining order.i still love him but it hurts.i can't even call him.my friends said he is trying to impress the new love interest.what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Well, you seem to be in the same boat as me. My husband and I had an argument over one of his ex's contacting him via email. I asked that he reply and tell her that she should stop being such a bitch and leave him alone. He refused to say this because he does not use these words when refering to any women. However, he left my house and then proceeded to contact the police and tell them that I was suicidal and wanted to hurt myself and our son. He further told the police that I had attacked him. I was arrested and now have to go through the courts to see what my fate will be. I will never forgive him for this and our marriage is over! How can a man who claims to love you do such a thing! I am still in shock!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008):
I think you are nuts.
There is a 90% chance you two are going to break up. Acting like a psycho, which is probably what drove him away in the first place, is just going to get you arrested and a criminal record.
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reader, Paula4u  +, writes (15 October 2008):
 Walk away, start afresh. Relax and try to find nice things to do. When you feel happy, everything will sort itself out. If a husband can do this to his wife, he isnot worth having. No matter what you have done, boundaries of love and respect should have been there.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 October 2008):
 I guess you are SOL. You may still love him but he sure has made it clear where he stands. Make sure you get a really good divorce lawyer, things are going to get ugly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): What do I think? That's a tough question for someone who isn't in the situation.
I think if I was him and there was a chance you might come snooping again I'd booby trap the apartment so that it did you some severe damage rather than calling the police. Electrification of doorknobs, bucket of battery acid above the bedroom door, crossbow drawn and its bolt set to go straight through the door at chest height as soon as it was moved - that sort of thing.
But I'd warn my new love interest not to go in there without I disarm it all first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): Stay the hell away from him , why would you want anyone that would do you like that! you deserve better. just cut your losses and move on! And besides as far as the pay increse goes, more than likely your going to get alimony for a very long time and now you know that he got a raise so you'll get a hell of a lot more! and besides odds are he'll do the same thing to his new girl!
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