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writes:What makes a man unable to keep an erection, could it be nerves?
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reader, igotapochahontas +, writes (25 June 2009):
That and alotta other things. he needs blood flow to the penis. he needs testosterone, stimulation, blood flow and actually alot more complicated things than that. basically testosterone and blood flow are the main things though. if ur having problems making your man erect theres basically 3 remedies. men need visual stimulation(u dont have to b a movie star to visually stimulate a guy) and they typically need change. (i.e. the same moves wont always work)in fact if u only do the things u know he likes, he will b disinterested. u still need to do those things but add alotta of new things b4 u do. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Over exposer to pornography is known to cause this problem in some cases. I had this problem and after i stopped using porn the problem disapeared, it took around 6 months though. Just a thought it may not be, so don't go attacking him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008):
I dont disagree with any of the other answers but I do have to add that the type of stimulation can also be a problem.
It could be that in the way your two bodies combine some positions just dont offer him the right type of stimulation.
Or it might be that the type of stroke you like isnt good for him. I dated a girl for a while who like very fast but shallow strokes, while my favorite f' motions did nothing for her. We'd do it her way because she loved it, but humping away like a blur desensitised everything for me and I'd lose an erection eventually.
You may have to lose the assumption that both partners orgasms will have to occur in actual intercourse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Number one on the list would have to be if he's ejaculated! It could be that he's holding back and waiting for his partner to 'get there' and overdone the holding back. Fear of losing an erection can cause a loss of erection, it's called performance anxiety.
If he gets a good erection at the appropriate time or sometimes has an erection in the morning upon waking there's nothing wrong with his plumbing as such, and the chances are it could be psychological - which, of course, would include nerves.
The following conditions / problems / procedures are all causes of erectile dysfunction. If these are ruled out there's not much physically wrong.
Diabetes, kidney failure requiring dialysis, kidney transplant, multiple sclerosis, parkinson’s disease, polio, prostate cancer, removal of the prostate gland (prostatectomy, including men who have had a transurethral resection of the prostate), radical pelvic surgery, severe pelvic injury, single-gene neurological conditions, spinal cord injury and spina bifida.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Eyeswideopen is so right.
If he's taking any medications, do a little search in the internet and check the "side effects". You will find that perhaps inability to sustain an erection is one of those "rare" side effects that affect everyone, I mean, "less than one percent of users".
If he's not taking any medication and you want a tried-and-true way to know whether his penis works as it should, but he's too nervous or worried or whatever, stay up for a while and check whether he gets an erection while asleep. If he does, then the problem is not physiological.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Your lady just doesnt do it for you. like myself you probably watch too much porn and when it comes time to have sex you are expecting to SEE all the things that turn you on. This doesnt happen and you cant keep it up
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): it probably is nerves so maybe you should have a chat he will feel less nervous the closer you are and he will feel as if you love him no matter what this will get him to relax and should fix it, but he might not be ready how long have you known him?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Could be nerves, could be erectile dysfunction, could be medication he's taking. He should be checked by a doctor so you can rule out the variables.
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