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writes:I found various birth control pills in my wife’s drawer. I had no idea she was taking them. I have wanted to have a baby for some time now. Is there a way to medically confirm she is indeed on the pill? Any other way? She won’t admit she took them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): Just count the pills bro. It ain't orcket science. Just count the pills on the beginning of the week, proceed with sex as usual and at the end of the week check if the remaining number of pills correspond with the number of times you had sex or didn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): sometimes women go on the pill because their period is too heavy or painfull and the pill regulates the flow.
u shouldnt be snooping- things like this are way tooo personal for a woman--- communication...calm...loving and aceepting approach would be ideal here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): First of all, no offense, but how old is your wife? Is she close to your age? Age plays a HUGE factor in having a baby for a woman. My husband wanted another child when I was 32, and I said no, too scared. Please talk to her..don't assume things, and for God's sake, don't tell her you were in her drawers. Definetely a trust issue can start from that! There could be medical reasons, or perhaps she really truly just doesn't want a baby/is scared ect..Approach her with an open heart/mind, like a friend. Don't assume! And no, I don't think there is a test to tell, and how could you do that anyways without her knowing?? TALK TO HER!
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reader, abby5000 +, writes (14 October 2008):
maybe she doesnt want children, there is nothing wrong with that. men are pretty selfesh about wanting children because they dont have to birth or take care of it, Talk to her,
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): The way you say "I have wanted to have a baby for some time" tells me you have a view that perhaps your wife does not. Have you been making assumptions? It's time for an honest talk with her but surely your relationship is more important than babies.......?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): I agree with all the above answers. But because your question is very brief, I thought of telling you something which might be the reason....If you guys were trying to get pregnant and her periods are irregular, it's possible that the doctore recommended her to take these pills to regularize her cycle for few months before trying to get pregnant.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 October 2008):
 If your wife says she isn't taking them then drop it. If she is lying to you it's because you sound like a control freak and she knows you will get freaked out. What were you doing going through her drawers anyway, looking for trouble? Maybe she doesn't want to have a baby. How old is she anyway, because if she is anywhere close to your age I sure as heck wouldn't want a baby. As far as testing her to see if she is on birth control, that's wacked. You have much larger problems Buddy.
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (14 October 2008):
 Im not sure there is a way to confirm whether or not someone is on the pill and its probably not a good idea to prove it without her knowledge. One way you could tell if she was taking them is obviously if there was one missing out of the same pack each day. But that is being deceptive on your part and instead, you two should be able to trust each other.
You should probably talk to you wife about this. Dont go in to it, accusing her of taking the pill. If having a child is important to you, then you should be open and honest about it. And also you should ask her if that is really what she wants, does she want a child as well?
Take Care!
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (14 October 2008):
If there are pills missing from the pack them she more than likely took them. I think instead of asking if she took then ask why. She must not want a baby and doesn't feel like she can tell you so find out why.
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