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writes:I'm 32 she's 48, we have 6 year old daughter and I want one more with her. She doesn't! In fact, when ever I ask, we end up having a huge fight. I know I'm partly wrong for asking, but is it unfair that I want another one before it's too late. I feel as though she's been selfish, this has created a lot difficulties between us, but I keep thinking that her attitude is selfish. HelpGreg Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): no your not being selfish but I agree 48 is a bit old to have another baby ans that assuming at her age that she could even have one ! if you're not gonna let this go then perhaps you should try to get her to consider maybe a surrogate mother to carry the child! and then once the kid is born maybe if you can afford it maybe get a nanny to help take the work off her! hope it works out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Greg, I would NEVER have a baby at 48..I am 47 myself, and my youngest child is 21. Just the thought of being pregnant at my age scares me to death! Do you know the risks involved? For your wife? The child? I think you're asking an awful lot from your wife. Please be happy and cherish the child you have..asking a woman at 48 to have a baby is potentially VERY dangerous to her and the child.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 October 2008):
 Well Greg, 48 is pretty old to start over with a new baby. See it from her stand point, when the baby is 10 she'll be pushing 60. I think you should just be happy with the lovely daughter she's given you already. Shower both of them with love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Never try and force a woman to have a baby. If she doesn't want one, she doesn't want one, and if she feels that way, you should respect her wishes. Why is she being selfish? Have you ever had a baby?? We woman get all the brunt of it (I'm a mother of 2, I know). Please don't be angry and think she is selfish. Perhaps she has reasons that you don't know about. My husband did this to me when I was 35, he was 10 years older and really wanted a baby (our youngest was 10). I just really didn't want another child, the pregnancy, diapers, feedings, we had everything in our life just perfect. Eventually he came to understand that I just plain and simple didn't want another child, and he accepted it. I'm sorry, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but take it from me, don't push her into something she really doesnt want. You think you fight now? It'll get worse if she doesn't willing want another child!
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