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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 4 March 2016: I would not follow your friend's advice to make the dog vanish suddenly , behind your husband's back. Trusts issues ? I think that could be the kiss of death for any couple .
How come it's all HIS dog this and HIS dog that , HIS pet, HIS prop... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 2 March 2016: Wait a minute ; I am getting confused !
"When my husband came BACK, he stated he would rehome the dog ":
So, isn't this much ado about nothing ?.. Your husband accepted AGAIN to rehome the dog. Just as you wanted.
Now just let him the mate... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 2 March 2016: Right, it is your husband who allows the dog into the house- but he can do that because you allowed HIM into the house, when he showed up with the dog after , what ? 24 hours ? 48 hous ?... from your "ultimatum ".
My personal surmise is that... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 1 March 2016: You can't " make" anybody do anything which they do not want to do, unless at gun point- so you should check first if there's room for compromise. I.e.
- Would he be willing to let go of the dog instantly once an unbiased professional assess her ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 28 February 2016: I think you misunderstood me, OP: I never said, nor implied, that you should accept shoddy treatment or prevarication by your partner just because he was generous enough to accept, and love, someone else's kids.
( Although, let me be brutally hone... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him finally?
Q. There's this guy who knows how to flirt really well with women...I don't think he's ever cheated, or that he's really a player, but he's good with getting women comfortable with him. So like everyone else I think I may be really starting to like...
A. 26 February 2016: No, I don't think that if you tell him how much you like him that would reduce your risk of being a pump and dump.If he has in mind to pump and dump you, - do you think he would care a whit about what your feelings could be ?
It all depends from... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 26 February 2016: OP, I do not intend to "unleash " ( very fitting word, in the situation :) upon you . Everybody can make a wrong judgement call , hindsight is 20/20. Moreover, I like dogs but I like humans more, so if I had a "difficult " dog and children at ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 25 February 2016: That's the problem with giving ultimatums. That you have to be totally convinced about their absolute necessity, totally aware of the consequences if the ultimamum is not accepted, and totally prepared to enforce it if needs be.
You said " eith... (read in full...)
How do I find enjoyment in life?
Q. How can I find enjoyment in life? People say find a hobby, but I don't seem to want to do anything. I feel that feeling passionate about anything at all could help me pass the time but I can't find anything remotely interesting. Every day I just ...
A. 25 February 2016: First thing I'd do , if I were you, would be to consult your doctor , or even better directly a psychiatrist.
The condition you are experiencing is called "anhedonia " ( the incapacity of finding pleasure in generally enjoyable activities ) . In y... (read in full...)
What do you think of men who swear in front of ladies?
Q. What do you think about people (especially men) who swear in the presence of ladies? (swearing not targeted at the ladies, but rather at things or situations). Having been brought up with high regard for politeness and good manners, if a ma...
A. 24 February 2016: I find a bit curious that you mention " in front of ladies ". Not to pass myself as a second wave feminist, or uber-PC, but... what has it got to do the gender of the swearer with that of those who hear the swearing ?
If you dislike the use of p... (read in full...)
He just wanted to hook up...why is he texting me ?
Q. I posted a thread about a guy who was giving the impression that he just wanted sex and subsequently disappeared when I made it clear that I'm looking for someone to date . Here is recap of this saga -I met a guy when I was out and he gave me h...
A. 23 February 2016: He wants to hook up, - what else:) ?
In the light of his past actions and responses, that would seem the most logical answer.
In the improbabale case that he had been stricken by guilt like St. Paul on the road to Damascus, and wanted to make ... (read in full...)
She said she didn't want to hang out any more and I'm scared! A part of me wants to make some gestures so she knows how much I care!
Q. So I'll start first by stating that some of my friends and even adults while growing up have asked me again and again if i had ASD (Asperger's Syndrome Disorder) though i never saw any professionals growing up (they say it shows vividly in my ...
A. 23 February 2016: Any approach that does not work for you is " wrong ".
Any behaviour that does not bring into your life what you wish for, is "wrong ".
Not wrong in itself, or wrong morally.... wrong insofar it does not function.
Your way to relate to wo... (read in full...)
Was it reasonable for him to get that worked up because I looked so upset by how bad I looked on a photo?
Q. I had an argument with my boyfriend yesterday and I'm wondering if people agree he did it as an excuse not to see me today. We took my daughter out for her birthday yesterday and he ended up taking photos of me when I wasn't looking, he took...
A. 22 February 2016: I think like Ivyblue , that the photo might have been just the catalyst, or the tip of the iceberg.
Taking your post at face value, out of a general context and with no background story , one should conclude that your bf has a very short fuse... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign or does she think I'm not well dressed?
Q. I was on a second date recently. We both travelled into town together to see a show. We had a really good time and after the show we had some time to kill before the train back home arrived. We decided to take a look at a fashionable new store that ...
A. 22 February 2016: Maybe a bit of both ? One think does not exclude the other.
I mean, clearly she is into you, - women do not go around giving image makeovers to perfect strangers they have no intention to ever hang out with in future. Then again, maybe she thin... (read in full...)
Did his being under the "influence" bring out his true feelings?
Q. I recently had an odd experience with my BF. He went out to meet a couple of friends for a few drinks (he rarely drinks... maybe 2 or 3 times a year). Anyway I joined them during the evening at his request and long story short. My boyfriend ended up ...
A. 22 February 2016: I think he was DRUNK.
Now it is true that alcohool disposes of inhibitions and brings up thoughts, feelings and sensations that lurk somewhere down there under our conscious level- but it does it in a casual, haphazard, stream -of-... (read in full...)
Should I leave home because of my mom? She expects me to clean and help with bills and I think she needs to be told off
Q. I need some help dealing with my mum. I moved back home a couple of years ago and she makes me contribute financially and she complains when I make noise and wake her up but I am nearly 30 so I need to be able to come and go as I please and I don't ...
A. 21 February 2016: Yeas, I am 99,5% convinced too that this is a big fat troll.
There 's always a 0.5% of doubt, because some posters at times do come up with strange , yet true, stories and bizarre, yet sincere , questions.
So ,in the very off chance that thi... (read in full...)
I believed my married boyfriend's lies until I could no longer deny the truth. Now I am broken!
Q. Recently broke up with my boyfriend after two consuming and loyal years.I was bought up with utmost moral but seemingly started my relationship with my ex while he was separated from his wife.The constant struggle between my inner conscience and ...
A. 20 February 2016: Do you know the saying " Discretion is the better part of valour "? . It means that it's better, and more commendable, to think carefully before acting than just to be reckless and take risks.
You now are questioning your judgement, because it N... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for over reacting when my ex asks me daily whether I'm on my period?
Q. My ex asks me every single day whether I am on my period yet. He butters me up before he does it, asks me how I am, calls me beautiful, says he wishes we were still happy together before he pops the question. Its either: "Are you on yet?" "Are you ...
A. 20 February 2016: I think all this drama is totally unnnecessary and if you indulge in it, both of you must get something out of it ( attention ? passive aggressive revenge ? )
There's a very simple , efficient way to deal with this and it is :
- if your period i... (read in full...)
He's in a relationship but has feelings for me. What should we do?
Q. I have feelings for a guy - but he is in a relationship. However yesterday he told me he has feelings for me aswell. What do we do?!...
A. 19 February 2016: There is no "we" here. HE needs to leave his gf and come to you as a free,single guy, if he really has feelings for you. You do nothing but staying clear of any further involvement ,which includes any romantic talk, before he is indeed single.... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting with my fiance's behavior?
Q. Okay so a little background, we have been going out for three years, engaged for six months and getting married next year. We do have a great relationship and I know he is the one for me. We do have our small arguments like every other couple. ...
A. 19 February 2016: Yes. Sensitive does not have to mean touchy, ego-centered, and drama-loving. A sensitive person is also sensitive toward other people's feelings and reasons, and is capable to put themselves in their shoes .
You say your bf is not supportive ; we... (read in full...)
My future MIL thinks we should get checked out because after 3 years together we still haven't gotten pregnant
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years now we are getting married this year... We have had unprotected sex for at least 3 years. If we get pregnant that great if we don’t that is still okay as we are 25 and 26 so there’s time. But his ...
A. 18 February 2016: Your MIL gave you a good advice, and it is still a good advice even if you dispute her right ( or her sensitivy ) in advising you about intimate matters.
It's the same advice any doctor would give you. If you have been having unprotected sex ... (read in full...)
I feel like his mom always comes first!
Q. Please can I have advice on how to deal with my husband and his mother, she has always been very reliant on him but in the last few months since he became a house husband, he spends all his time on the phone to her and going round to her (she lives ...
A. 18 February 2016: I'd say it depends . Are you a housewife , are you at home with him too ? Then , if his mom becomes his reason for not keeping you company, not going out to places with you, not helping you around the house,etc. you are right, he needs to ... (read in full...)
My husband has started texting women he's met through facebook. Should I worry?
Q. My husband and I have been together about 7 years and he has recently been texting women through Facebook. He says it’s all innocent flirting. These women are in other countries. I expressed to him that I was uncomfortable with him talking to these ...
A. 18 February 2016: Whatever his reasons are, surely your husband has got some cheek, I agree.
It may be "innocent " in the sense that it will never lead to actual intecourse, but certainly flirting with strangers is not the most appropriate hobby for a married man.... (read in full...)
No sex and he's suffering
Q. How important is sex in a marriage? I suffer from dyspareunia and because of this I'm not interested in sex at all. My husband understands my situation but I can see that he is suffering. What should I do? I don't get horny at all. The thought of ...
A. 18 February 2016: You suffer from dyspareunia...so what did the doctor say ? Did you consult an OB/GYN ?
Dyspareunia is not a life sentence, is a condition, in fact a symptom, related to physical or psychological problems, and it's far from incurable, in fact ther... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend is acting distant but he still wants to be with me. I am not sure what's going on?
Q. Please no judgment. I have been having an affair with a married man for close to 3 years. It's been amazing. But lately he seems a little more distant. His texts are less frequent and shorter. He says he is just being cautious. He sexted me ...
A. 18 February 2016: I don't think anything special is happening.
You are his good times girl, and , as strange as it sounds, nobody wants good times 24/7. When he wants wild sex, entertainment, a change in routine ... or whatever is it that he came to you for , he p... (read in full...)
Hw came in my mouth and it left a burning sensation. How long does that last?
Q. Hi, I'm 22 aND my bf and I gave our virginity to each other last yr. We only have had sex once sinxe and he pulled out before he ejaculatd. The other night I gave him a bj and he came in my mouth. He didn't givea warning aND held my head down so ...
A. 15 February 2016: Maybe you are allergic to semen ( and if he has never ejaculated inside you, you would not have noticed ). That's the only thing I can come up with, since no, semen does not give a burning sensation.
Or , do you have food allergies ? Are you ... (read in full...)
Help me with my foolish feelings
Q. I don't understand myself. Why do I keep thinking that someone who didn't consider my feelings/wants when we were together for four years, would consider them now that we broke up one month ago. I have not seen him and contact is minimal. There is ...
A. 15 February 2016: Hang on to that sentence. " There is no future with him and there is no trust "
In this light, what difference should it make whether he misses you or not ?
The missing probably will also depend from who dumped whom. If he dumped you, and mayb... (read in full...)
Should I worry about his Valentine blunder?
Q. My BF of 3 years had to work all day on Valentine's Day. He gave me my gift and we celebrated on Friday. Yesterday we had a quick chat while he was at work. He texted me, "Be my Valentine?", and I said "Yes" and asked if he will be mine. He sai...
A. 15 February 2016: You are not taking too personally, you are taking it too insanely. And if you carry on like that, you risk losing your marbles totally pretty soon.
If you are, as I think you are, our recurrent poster with trust issues toward her still marr... (read in full...)
would you be checking out hot babes on the internet while your girlfriend is sitting next to you?
Q. Guys, help me out here. I know men are visual, I've heard that many times. They like to look at the female body, my question is, would you be checking out hot babes on the internet while your girlfriend is sitting next to you? and making comments, ...
A. 15 February 2016: Sageoldguy always likes a good quip,... but he jokingly exposed the core of your problem :
i.e. , not so much that your bf is crass and pathetic and drools over hot babes just while he is sitting right there beside you , but that you are stil... (read in full...)
Does it sound like I'm a difficult person?
Q. I wrote some months back about my relationship, and whether I should keep going and continue to try, or that was it. Here is the link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/without-passion-is-it-worth-it.html I appreciate all your answers to my fi...
A. 15 February 2016: You do not sound like a VERY difficult person- at least, you are nothing compared to me, LOL.
But.. I can sort of see where this guy is coming from.
He is basically telling you that you are fussy, not easy going, not flexible enough
Now, ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex (now friend) how his past behavior affected me?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles I reacquainted with an ex boyfriend last year and its been great reestablishing our friendship again. I dont ever want to lose it again. We had been intimate but I am going to make it clear the next time i see him that I d...
A. 15 February 2016: Maybe I did not quite understod the situation, or your actual question, ... but, as it is, I don't see why you would talk to your ex about these episodes.
I mean, it's not forbidden of course, he's your friend and you can tell him what you want... (read in full...)
She doesn't seem into me at all, constantly talks to her ex'es, no intimacy with me, yet talks of "our" future. What's going on?
Q. Hello, I wondered whether somebody could help me with what may seem to be a small problem, but to me is massive. I recently started going out with a girl that I have known for around 20 years. We had a couple of brief sexual encounters a few ...
A. 13 February 2016: What's going on , is that you are being taken for a big long ride. She has found a nurturer / companion / helper / egobooster / Santa Claus ( and who knows that she has not appointed you as future daddy for her child ) and , although her ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to mess up your chances with the right guy?
Q. MOD NOTE: This has been submitted in a very similar way the other day... recently went on a first date with a guy that is seems so awesome. He's funny, sweet, handsome and fun. I think he had a great time with me and even texted me after the...
A. 13 February 2016: "He was just a nice guy who was kinda clueless and maybe a little excited "- how do you know, OP ? You knew this guy since all of one week, - and through text.
Yours is a guess, but , in the light of his following actions ( to block you on Face... (read in full...)
How does he get away with cheating and then get the perfect girl and relationship and I'm left looking like the big bad wolf.
Q. I'm probably going to get a lot of hate over this but this is why I'm writing, for help and advice. Around 19 months ago I had an affair with a guy 11 years younger than myself who was in a relationship with an extremely beautiful girl a...
A. 12 February 2016: You've got good answers already, I just want to touch on a point that I don't understand : "You are left looking like the big bad wolf ". In the eyes of whom ?? You said nobody in town knows anything of this story.
You won't mean... in the eyes... (read in full...)
Could he be cheating while away? He said 'Good Night'.
Q. My husband is away on an overnight business trip. Let's say he cheated on me that night. Would he text me "Good night" or would he avoid texting me altogether? Which would be more likely? Texting Good night is not something he does every night whe...
A. 12 February 2016: Impossible even to offer a guess, because there's no regularity in his behaviour pattern.
A change in a pattern always means something ( what precisely, that's open to debate ).
But here there would be no change. Your husband either texts yo... (read in full...)
Wouldn't most parents be thrilled to have a kid like me?
Q. My mom and I are having problems right now and I don't know why. I will probably graduate at the top of my class in May. No drugs, gangs, or anything I like that. I am managing money for my dad and his partners and collecting nice management fees. I ...
A. 12 February 2016: No, I would be worried sick.
Online trading is illegal for minors in my country, if you were my son and something went pear shaped with your trading, - your disgruntled " investors " would sue ME to the gills , that's for sure ( at the very leas... (read in full...)
Is he waiting for someone better? If he knows he is not going to marry me then why so much effort expended?
Q. My boyfriend told me he sees a future with me, but he is scarred of marriage and is still sorting out things in his life and does not want to get married when things are not where he wants it to be. Now he called to tell me he is going to buy gif...
A. 11 February 2016: What about something in between, - he wants to be with you ( he IS with you since the last 2 years ) but he does not want to get married ? Not for a gooood while , at least ?
Not that everybody must get married at 30, but his statements, at leas... (read in full...)
How can I be calmer? Should I be beating myself up about getting blocked on FB after my first date with a guy?
Q. Hello everyone! I had gone on a date with a guy on Saturday that I had been talking to for about a week. I am a confident woman and know that I have a lot to offer to a man, however... He was so attractive and a bit older than me, so I had gott...
A. 11 February 2016: Uhm. The guy may be funny , smart, and handsome... but he is not very kind hearted , or tolerant, or even polite.
Yes, blocking you on Facebook is a harsh and unnecessary move. The date may not have been a total success in his eyes, still you ... (read in full...)
2nd time wedding blues. His wants vs my wants
Q. My fiance and I are starting to plan our wedding. This will be my second marriage and second wedding. I had the traditional wedding experience with my first wedding and am unsure of the proper etiquette for a second wedding. His family wants to ...
A. 11 February 2016: I think a reasonable compromise coud be this :
he gives up the destination wedding in favour of a local one, where your family and friends could intervene without breaking the bank.
In change, you let him and his family go all Groomzil... (read in full...)
I found dirty underwear in the car that wasn't mine. Threw them away and now wondering if my husband is cheating
Q. Hello, this is actually my first time posting on social media. I just feel I have no where really to turn to. Last week I found dirty underwear in my car that weren't mine. When I found them I thought nothing really of it and threw them away ...
A. 10 February 2016: Yes, very red flag.
The fact which make me feel that your husband must be up to something, is no so much the finding of the dirty knickers , as their disappearal later.
I.e : Yes, actually it makes no sense that your husband would bring a... (read in full...)
I was ready to move for her then she starts a relationship with another guy. I don't know what to do. I'm heartbroken.
Q. I've been in love with a specific girl since I met her two years ago. She's everything I ever wanted. We've never been out of contact with each other, even when we both had significant others. Those relationships ended badly for both of us. I live ...
A. 10 February 2016: OP, I know you won't like to hear this, but to be honest, ... I can see this girl's point.
She did not have to choose you and she did not.
You had no promise, no committment, just some interlocury, " let's see how it goes " talks. Maybe sh... (read in full...)
Guy touched butt on 1st date. Will he not call me again because of how I reacted?
Q. I went on a first date with a guy on Saturday. He was nice but he touched my butt.Not grabbed, but knowingly touched it. Aafter we kissed, he tapped it. Not slapped it but tapped it with his hand. Nervously, i didn't know how to react and didnt ...
A. 10 February 2016: Let him put his money where his mouth is.
He said that he understands perfectly where you are coming from, right ?
He said that he is not just looking for hook ups either, right ?
Well, if this is true, he will come back around.
On the other... (read in full...)
Older sister is turning family wedding into kids talent show as a surprise for the bride!
Q. I'm in a really awkward situation with my sisters at the moment and I don't know what to do without upsetting one of them. My twin sister, Natalie, is getting married this year and my older sister, Joanne, thought it would be a nice idea if her...
A. 10 February 2016: No OP, what you say does not make you or Natalie sound like awful child-hating persons. Only as two sensible , reasonable adults who realize that there's a proper time and place for everything , and that a wedding is not any party whatsoever, ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep flirting with me when he is married?
Q. Guy at work was flirting with me for about 6wks then I asked him out for a drink. He refused stating if he was not married he would, than proceeded to let me know how flattered he was,and lets continue to be friends. So I said I was sorry for ...
A. 10 February 2016: You may also be confused ....nonetheless he is always a married man.
Put a stop to the confusion by ignoring his attempts to flirt, and if it's not enough, tell him to go flirt with his wife.... (read in full...)
Friend's wedding plans will break the bank
Q. My best friend is getting married in May this year and has asked my 5 year old daughter to be a bridesmaid. Of course my daughter is excited as this is her 1st time. We went looking for bridesmaid dresses and my friend is having to them m...
A. 9 February 2016: Sorry, I feel I have to insist and play devil's advocate for the poor Bridezilla. She is taking really too much flak. This was basically a misunderstanding, and a very awkward and unpleasant one. Sure , I myself or Slippers or Honeypie would have ... (read in full...)
Older sister is turning family wedding into kids talent show as a surprise for the bride!
Q. I'm in a really awkward situation with my sisters at the moment and I don't know what to do without upsetting one of them. My twin sister, Natalie, is getting married this year and my older sister, Joanne, thought it would be a nice idea if her...
A. 9 February 2016: I disagree with the anon female. Weddings are not supposed to be about " families "- not in Western cultures, at least. Maybe Christmas, we can make it about families, and what every single member of the family wants , and try to make them all ... (read in full...)
Friend's wedding plans will break the bank
Q. My best friend is getting married in May this year and has asked my 5 year old daughter to be a bridesmaid. Of course my daughter is excited as this is her 1st time. We went looking for bridesmaid dresses and my friend is having to them m...
A. 7 February 2016: Ouch.
Technically, your friend is right.
Just as adult members typically pay for their own attire , the same applies for the youngest attendants i.e, the children's parents pay for the outfits.
That's the general way things go, so I can bel... (read in full...)
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