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My best friend was molested as a child and has deep emotional issues because it. I'm in love with her, but don't know how to help her. Please tell me what to do!
Q. I'm struggling with a problem that's destroying me. I'm helplessly in love with my best friend. She's everything I ever wanted in a girl. Unfortunately, she's extremely broken. She was molested on different occasions by her brother and her uncle and ...
A. 26 June 2013: I urge you listen to fishdish. Far as I'm concerned that is the truth. She needs a lot of help from professionals who can help her in the best way she needs.
I, myself, was sexually assaulted by a family member (no where near the kind of trauma she ... (read in full...)
Is this really cheating?
Q. I'm separated for 3 years now. I ran into my high school sweetheart a few weeks ago and made a lunch date. At our lunch we discussed everything. I told her about my cheater wife and she told me about her bad marriage. Long story short, she asked me ...
A. 23 June 2013: It's not water or money or shelter that she NEEDS. She does not need you to step in and have sex with her. You probably know this and have been pushing it to the back of your mind because of desire. She is married. Her child will be affected... (read in full...)
Will I measure up OK for upcoming one-night stand?
Q. Hi, my mates girlfriend is coming to visit him in a week (she lives in another city) and we are going clubbing when she comes, she is bringing her mate with her to set her up with me (just for a one night stand), now I'm just a bit anxious as I ...
A. 23 June 2013: 6" is actually average size so you're fine :) and remember, the tightness of a girls vagina doesn't determine whether she was a good one night stand or not. Sex in the one night stand context is about positions and angles that push your penis ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to obsess about the person I gave up my virginity with?
Q. up until last week i was a virgin. Im 18 and wanted it to be with someone special and it wasn't, i lost my virginty on a 1 night stand. I regret it so much but i know theirs nothing i can do. But now i am obsessed with the guy i lost it to, i ca...
A. 21 May 2013: To a certain extent, yes it is normal to form a big crush on the person you lost your virginity to. Yu thought it would be with someone special so maybe your brain is using a crush on him as a coping mechanism? He wasn't special enough so you're ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex still trying to hurt me? He is bringing a girl into my work and my church.....
Q. Okay so my ex broke up with me. He knows my work schedule and where I work so he brings another girl to my job I work in a make up store most guys don't go in they usually go shopping or wait outside. I was off that day he brought a girl but I ...
A. 21 May 2013: As for church, I would simply push that aside and be happy that he may just be introducing someone to faith.
But, as for your work situation, if the behaviour continues and becomes stalking or harassing then do something about it. At the moment you ... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 19 May 2013: I would have a chat, as I love to get to know new people, but not a cuddle. I understand that I'm fairly old fashioned in some respects but I am not big on hugging or touching people I don't know so I see it as uncomfortable when someone approaches ... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 18 May 2013: I believe it is achievable. Go for a half hour walk everyday, no exceptions unless injured. Also decrease portion sizes and eat healthily. An easy cheap snack is celery (you burn more calories eating celery than you gain from the food) or sunflowe... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in our relationship and his porn addiction is just breaking my heart!
Q. I would really love some advice from men and women. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. He is my 1st true relationship I'm 27 an he is 26. We got together when we were 18. I told him from the beginning that i was not okay with porn. He always ...
A. 14 May 2013: Porn and mastication is totally normal, especially for men where masturbation isn't a big sensual, romantic ordeal, BUT you can become addicted to pornography. A close friend of mine was for many years but he got past it. It's not something we ever ... (read in full...)
He wants me to wear lingere but I don't think it suits me
Q. I’m not really sure how to begin but I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year, he’s 26 almost 27 and I’m 23. We were really close friends for probably 3 years before we started dating. So my boyfriend and I have been having… I wouldn’t call it a fight ...
A. 14 May 2013: I'm with CindyCares, there are two issues.
In terms of lingerie, it's all about finding what works for you! When shopping for underwear you may be trying on the wrong stuff.. Remember that there are all different bra styles that work differen... (read in full...)
How can I simmer down the relationship between my boyfriend and the girl living with his family?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is worrying me. He has never had a girlfriend before me for more than a month. When we started the relationship, we were living together, alone, and I was working. I didn't know at the time but he had cheated on his previous...
A. 14 May 2013: Just a further update, after many more talks he has spoken to his mother who has in turn asked PJ to stay at the house less often. Thank you for all your help :)... (read in full...)
What are some helpful ways I can tell him to comfort me?
Q. Although my partner has been through very similar situations to me, he doesn't know how to sympathise/empathise or comfort me at all. He is not a very touchy feely kind of guy and doesn't understand that it's not okay to just say 'that sucks' to ...
A. 14 May 2013: Just to update, we have implemented a plan to work on something every week that the other misses or feels is lacking. It's working fantastically and things are going great, thank you.... (read in full...)
I hate my boyfriend being friends with her!
Q. Hi everyone. I have been with my boyfriend for the past 3 years. I have a major problem and I hope I won't be judged or get hurtful comments about what I am going to say. My boyfriend is friends with a girl who lets say...sleeps around..a ...
A. 11 May 2013: You can talk to him about your insecurities and be honest with him but further from that he is his own man and can have his own friends. I have a girl I hate my boyfriend being friends with. She's not a slut but she lives with us so it drives me ... (read in full...)
Would this help? My therapist thinks being intimate with a woman like a prostitute would help me with my social anxiety
Q. OK, so I've got two years on the 40-year-old virgin, even though nobody's made a movie about me yet. I am plagued my social anxiety, am withdrawn, and have gone on many first dates but few second ones. My long-time therapist actually belie...
A. 11 May 2013: Sorry about the multiple answers but this ones been on my mind. I don't want to say DONT DO IT blah blah blah, it's entirely up to you, you know what your walls and barriers are in life and whether it's worth pushing them or letting go is up to yo... (read in full...)
How do you talk to a girl you don't know?
Q. How does someone get into a relationship when he has no friends? I've tried talking with girls on these social online sites but i find it awkward trying to start a conversation online with a person i've never met. I mean how do people do this?....
A. 11 May 2013: Honestly compliments always go down well and smile and don't cross physical barriers. "Hey how are you?" Or "hi my names John, how are you?" And shake her hand or even enter with a compliment like smile at her and when she smiles back approach... (read in full...)
Would this help? My therapist thinks being intimate with a woman like a prostitute would help me with my social anxiety
Q. OK, so I've got two years on the 40-year-old virgin, even though nobody's made a movie about me yet. I am plagued my social anxiety, am withdrawn, and have gone on many first dates but few second ones. My long-time therapist actually belie...
A. 11 May 2013: Furthermore, you say you believe in "sex before love" and I completely agree.
I lost my virginity to my current partner before I loved him and I have had sex but never 'made love' and I feel there is a big difference. I feel that the fact that sex ... (read in full...)
Would this help? My therapist thinks being intimate with a woman like a prostitute would help me with my social anxiety
Q. OK, so I've got two years on the 40-year-old virgin, even though nobody's made a movie about me yet. I am plagued my social anxiety, am withdrawn, and have gone on many first dates but few second ones. My long-time therapist actually belie...
A. 11 May 2013: Your therapist does not sound very professional at all. I personally would not take advice on any subject from someone who thinks sleeping with a prostitute will cure social anxiety.
I would not throw away my values for something like this that MIGH... (read in full...)
Why does the girlfriend of my boyfriend's friend act this way? It makes me very uncomfortable!
Q. Hi. My boyfriend and his friends are like most guys these days. They're young, horny, flirty, like to play xbox and pc games, party, etc. One of my boyfriend's friends has a new girlfriend now and she is really beautiful. I don't wanna sound arro...
A. 1 May 2013: The way she is acting is inappropriate because one, she is in a relationship herself, and two, she is disregarding that fact that your partner is in a relationship. If I were you I would keep a close eye on her, and speak to my partner about ta... (read in full...)
Should I stay in my marriage with 3 children? Or step out with someone who makes me happy?
Q. I have got myself in a real dilemma and could really use some advice. I have been married for fourteen years and have three of the most beautiful children a woman could ask for but I never really loved my husband and got married for all the wrong ...
A. 25 April 2013: Thanks for the update, I urge you seek out counsel on your marriage whether you go as a couple or on your own.
I truly hope you find happiness and contentment :) and the same for your family... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and b/f has a large penis. Will sex hurt?
Q. My boyfriend has a large penis. I want to satisfy him. I am a virgin. will it hurt ?...
A. 24 April 2013: It probably will hurt a little, or feel uncomfortable. Make sure you are properly lubricated and relaxed with each other. My friend lost hers over about two weeks here he would put a bit more in each time they tried and she said that was a great way ... (read in full...)
Should I stay in my marriage with 3 children? Or step out with someone who makes me happy?
Q. I have got myself in a real dilemma and could really use some advice. I have been married for fourteen years and have three of the most beautiful children a woman could ask for but I never really loved my husband and got married for all the wrong ...
A. 24 April 2013: Well whatever you do, please do not cheat. I am currently going through my parents separating after one cheated and it's agony on the family, so something does need to be done here.
Maybe you should go to marriage counselling with your husb... (read in full...)
I found a sex toy in my boyfriend's room.
Q. Hi, Today I visited my bf in his house. We don't live together yet. It was a little mess, so I started to clean his place a little. Then I founf this, a sex toy, quite like a simple hole cup. Maybe it was there before, I just didn't noticed? ...
A. 24 April 2013: No reason to worry at all :) whether its his hand or a cup doesn't really matter so much. Think of it this way, it's still doing the same thing right? Plenty of girls have sex toys.
And the way men masturbate seems to be different to women, m... (read in full...)
I went out dancing with my new girl and her sisters.
Q. I went out dancing with my girlfriend and her sisters. She and I are just starting to date. Another girl come up and ask me to dance I said no out of respect but my girlfriend, half drunk said to go ahead. Does this mean that she does not care ...
A. 24 April 2013: My partner said the same thing and his reasoning was 'you're just dancing, I don't care! It's a bit of fun, just don't grind' :) she might mean the same thing. Expressing that she is not possessive :) make sure, though, if you feel differently, she ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend still has 'feelings' for her ex. Is this normal? What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone. Please can you give me some advice. I have been with my GF for about 3 mnths. She is from Italy and has gone home there for a month. we spoke on skype and she told me that she had seen her ex at the weekend. she then told me that...
A. 23 April 2013: It's totally normal for her to still have feelings for her ex, after all they shared a past together. And when you don't end a relationship properly (I.e. her still sleeping with him) you don't cut off those feelings as directly as most people ... (read in full...)
Am I worrying too much about this since it's been so many years since he was my teacher?
Q. I currently am separated from my husband and we are in the middle of a divorce. It has not been finalized but we have not seen or spoken to each other in over 5 months, my attorney just sucks and is really slow. Anyway, I recently ran into my form...
A. 23 April 2013: I think you have a healthy caution for the way this may impact both of your reputations. Fact is, some people will just talk, no matter what is said.
Maybe just introduce him as a man, and if someone happens to recognise the name (your parents,... (read in full...)
A classic case of miscommunication, hurt male pride, and immaturity LDR
Q. Background information: He and I met on the internet when I was 13 and he was 14. He lives in London and I live in Tennessee. The last time I was there in August(2012) things changed between us and we decided to try a long distance relationship ...
A. 23 April 2013: This is minor bad behaviour but it still indicative of an abusive relationship. Whether it develops to physical or just manipulative, no one knows. This is manipulative and controlling, vengeful behaviour that can be dealt with but mustn't be ignor... (read in full...)
How do I not be threathened by her around my crush?
Q. Hi so I have this girl who's a friend. She's really pretty and all the dudes like her they don't bother to get to know her though. We ride the bus together and she is reply nice she has a boyfriend and everyone tries to hit on her but she says ...
A. 23 April 2013: Just let her know that you do like him and, as the other DearCupider said, she may even try help you guys get together.
She's taken, so you shouldn't feel threatened but she may even take it as a compliment if you tell her you're jealous or thre... (read in full...)
I want this to be more than just "One Night Stand". What should I do guys to make this work?
Q. Dear All So here it goes, I have a colleague at my work place that I truly am attracted to him and wouldn't mind being in a relationship with him. He lately been flirting with me sexually, his been touching my waist when he has the ...
A. 21 April 2013: If I were you, I wouldn't do more than kiss him at this stage. Keep the tension and flirting going but also hang out and get to know him more so he knows you're interested in a relationship.... (read in full...)
I'm not going to try anything whilst he is still going with her but I was wondering if he might have feelings for me?
Q. ok so I have this friend, M, who has a girlfriend and I'm not going to try anything whilst he is still going out with her but I was wondering if he might have feeling for me. We were kind of close two years ago but then I thought he didnt like me so ...
A. 21 April 2013: I would say no more than friends at this point. He seems to be just friendly.... (read in full...)
How can I simmer down the relationship between my boyfriend and the girl living with his family?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is worrying me. He has never had a girlfriend before me for more than a month. When we started the relationship, we were living together, alone, and I was working. I didn't know at the time but he had cheated on his previous...
A. 19 April 2013: Thank you so so much! It's has really helped me to gather myself to talk to him properly without letting emotions and accusations run wild. Unfortunately plans changed and I'm with him now and will be talking to him shortly. Plain Jane and... (read in full...)
How do I make the most of being single?
Q. I'm 19 and in my second year at college; I've got a good social life, but I often get depressed because I'm single and I've never had a boyfriend before. I spend loads of time with others, but I feel like I've seen everything there is to see about ...
A. 19 April 2013: Congratulations on converting :) there are plenty of great Christian guys out there that love to party and love party girls so don't lose hope because you haven't discovered one yet. Just make sure you don't shut people off too quickly. Some guys ... (read in full...)
Competitive friend that destroys me emotionally
Q. Hi there, I have a friend that I have known since I was 10 and when we were little we were very good friends. She has always been a little jealous of me but loves me at the same time if you know what I mean? We are now 30 and we have always stayed i...
A. 19 April 2013: I can't tell if you enjoy her company or not.
If you do, you could let her stay but I would lay out some clear boundaries beforehand. That you need your space and privacy.
If you don't, just tell her she can't stay and you're sorry. But don't gi... (read in full...)
Difficulty with intercourse
Q. My Vagina is too small and penis not getting in to this. When try to push it feeling burning sensation. Kindly suggest what should I do now.. ...
A. 19 April 2013: Definitely use lubricant and prepare with a lot of foreplay to prepare you body for sex, so you can relax. Nerves can stop girls from putting even a tampon in, let alone a penis.
Make sure you're comfortable and lubricated and ease your way into... (read in full...)
Girlfriend accepted an offer to go for a drink with another guy
Q. Hi Basically, my girlfriend works and there is a shop she visits everyday on her breaks. A new guy has been working there for a while till the end of the month and she was telling me there is a little flirting when she sees him. Anyway, one rand...
A. 19 April 2013: She may have, as you said, just wanted to make a new friend and was purposely pushing down her knowledge of his wanting more to go out with someone she knew would be new and affectionate but she hadn't lead on so she could turn down.
You're luck... (read in full...)
Don't have a boyfriend and it's depressing me
Q. I've never had one my entire life. I've always been very ambitious and hard-working, and I have high standards regarding guys, but the type of guys I fall for always seem to have girlfriends or just aren't interested in me. They're also really rare ...
A. 19 April 2013: You'll find those guys are actually everywhere you look, it just depends whether you see they're kindness straight away. You can still have high standards, but that doesn't mean closing people off either. If you want those standards met, you have to ... (read in full...)
Why aren't Christian guys ever interested in me?
Q. I'm a second-year student at university and I converted to Christianity in my first year here. I've never really been the type to "sleep around" and don't want sex before marriage, and I'd prefer dating someone who shared my religious beliefs, too, ...
A. 19 April 2013: Christian guys are the same as normal guys, some will like you and some won't, only difference is that they're all very friendly and none are very flirty so converting from a type of guy to Christian guys can be confusing.. I went to a rough high ... (read in full...)
What are some helpful ways I can tell him to comfort me?
Q. Although my partner has been through very similar situations to me, he doesn't know how to sympathise/empathise or comfort me at all. He is not a very touchy feely kind of guy and doesn't understand that it's not okay to just say 'that sucks' to ...
A. 19 April 2013: I was hoping someone might have some insight on why he doesn't understand and ignores me instead of comforting me...... (read in full...)
I feel like I will never be significant in her life
Q. I am so confused and I don't know if I'm totally out of line or if my girlfriend is being unreasonable. My girlfriend is very attached to her family. They are overall a very close, intimate family who are all open with each other. I, in contrast, ...
A. 17 April 2013: My advice would be to ask her for compromise as it is stressing you out. Ask her for a night where you can try and console her with a smaller issue with small amounts of stress and stay in and watch a movie. Prepare by downloading a bunch of ... (read in full...)
I like to dress up in women's clothing and then hump a pillow. Why do I do this?
Q. My question is embarrassing and its about a sex fetish. I tried looking it up on google and i got all kinds of porn ads n than i tried to find a sex fetish forum but couldn't find one so i found dearcupid.com. i hope my question doesn't offend ...
A. 17 April 2013: I can understand your predicament with the shame afterwards but then forgetting it again when you are horny, as I think we can all do that a little. In terms of the actual fetish you have I have heard of the two separately but not together before ... (read in full...)
My Bf is getting angry unneccessarly and calling me names. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid Today is my bf birthday. I called him several times from the morning to wish him, he didn't pick up the call and not responding to text. He is in his parents house now. I know he is not sick nor busy, got the information from c...
A. 17 April 2013: Do not let someone have power over you like that. You can call all you want but you know he won't pick up, and every time he rejects your call it puts him a little more in control and leaves you a little more rejected and out of control. I gives you ... (read in full...)
How can I simmer down the relationship between my boyfriend and the girl living with his family?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is worrying me. He has never had a girlfriend before me for more than a month. When we started the relationship, we were living together, alone, and I was working. I didn't know at the time but he had cheated on his previous...
A. 17 April 2013: Thank you so much for this answer. This is actually helpful. This is exactly what I was hoping people would say rather than just to break it off with him so thank you very much. You've raised a lot of valid points. I think, firstly, I may have com... (read in full...)
How can I simmer down the relationship between my boyfriend and the girl living with his family?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is worrying me. He has never had a girlfriend before me for more than a month. When we started the relationship, we were living together, alone, and I was working. I didn't know at the time but he had cheated on his previous...
A. 17 April 2013: I do understand what you mean but I also believe that just because I am young does not mean our relationship should be disregarded. I am already extremely selective of who I date and he and I do make each other extremely happy, otherwise I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
How can I simmer down the relationship between my boyfriend and the girl living with his family?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is worrying me. He has never had a girlfriend before me for more than a month. When we started the relationship, we were living together, alone, and I was working. I didn't know at the time but he had cheated on his previous...
A. 17 April 2013: And furthermore, I don't believe I asked if I should break up with him, I was looking for solutions on how to get the two of them to realise they're flirting is hurting me. I find that a lot of people on this site jump to dump and that's not what ... (read in full...)
How can I simmer down the relationship between my boyfriend and the girl living with his family?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is worrying me. He has never had a girlfriend before me for more than a month. When we started the relationship, we were living together, alone, and I was working. I didn't know at the time but he had cheated on his previous...
A. 17 April 2013: Sorry, it's not that I'm naive, it's actually because I'm trying to be mature about this that we are still together. I think it's naive and silly to end a valuable relationship over assumptions.... (read in full...)
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