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... Send *ionnlagh a private message | | | *ionnlagh's profile:Hello. How are you? The name's Fionnlagh, or Fin for short and I am a confident speaker, very astute and I stand by my words.
I like a lot of things, even those mysterious and unexplainable moments and feelings we all have but ignore half the time. I believe in people and I don't judge. I have a few stories of my own that would spin your head, but I'm not really one to kiss and tell.
I would definitely classify my personality as positive and upbeat, and I enjoy helping others, whether they are close to home or on the other side of the world.
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Married five months and husband wants me to have an abortion.
Q. I've recently got married to my husband. We are very happy, and I have never felt more secure in all my life. We agreed to wait a few years before having children, and to focus on renovating our house which we brought before Christmas. We'll on ...
A. 24 March 2017: Not his body, not his choice. That's the bottom line. You are his wife and friend, not his employee. I can understand his mental stress given the unexpectedness of the situation, but he really needs to understand no one is at fault, and YOU are ... (read in full...)
I feel so lost and don't know where to turn!
Q. Hi...I'm in such a mess right now that I honestly don't know how to solve....2 years ago I was in a relationship with a guy that I loved very much...we had problems and I came to the conclusion that it was best to call it a day after 4 years...BIG ...
A. 1 April 2015: Hello. My answer will read as something harsh, but it's for the benefit of you. I hope you interpret it as such. All the encouragement and well wishes from kindly strangers will not influence your predicament or the children's lives you have b... (read in full...)
When the breakup comes should I ask him to return the gift?
Q. On Christmas I went way overboard and bought my boyfriend a very expensive gift. A bit over $300. I know. But I'm young and stupid and I guess it's one of those mistakes that when I'm older I'll look back and tell myself "well, that was ridicul...
A. 17 April 2013: I think the answer is unanimous. A clean break means you cut your losses and move on, otherwise live with the baggage of a bad decision weighing heavy on your mind for the rest of your relationship days. Never ask for a gift back. Gifts signif... (read in full...)
I met this guy and I like him. Would meeting for coffee be a good idea?
Q. Hi people! I met this guy on Friday night, he was really nice and we talked/had alot of drinks together. I ended up back at his house for a drink - note we were both drunk but i was sober enough for it not to go any further (i am not like that at ...
A. 17 April 2013: The ball is in his court, so to speak, so I agree with the other aunts in that you should be patient and wait for him to contact you. He surely has a life outside of drinking and isn’t putting off a reply intentionally.... (read in full...)
I'm too jealous and need attention constantly from my partner. How do I stop this?
Q. I have been with my partner for 6 months and have recently moved in with him. We love each other and treat each other really well but for some reason I find it hard to feel satisfied in our relationship. I feel jealous and angry when he leaves m...
A. 17 April 2013: I believe relationships wax and wane periodically and when people start questioning their own feelings about the relationship, sadly most people run for the hills without ever communicating and addressing their concerns with their partner. You kn... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has changed so much. It's taking a toll on me. What can I do?
Q. I'm just going to say it and sound horrible.. my boyfriend doesn't really have a life anymore. He's so different to the person I met 5 years ago. He used to have a circle of friends. He'd meet up with his brother once a week to hang out....
A. 11 February 2011: Some people are more than willing to change for the better if their habits are brought up to their attention. I’d talk about this with him personally though. And maybe shake things up a bit with some new adventures and dates.
But don't suggest ... (read in full...)
I only attract attached men!
Q. I'm a reasonably attractive, university educated, independent woman in my mid 20's, i'd say i'm humorous, chilled out, my years in 'customer service' have led me to have an understanding of people- i'd say i'm an extremely loyal friend, and about as ...
A. 8 January 2011: See. You're beautiful crazy beautiful!... (read in full...)
I like to cuddle my best friend
Q. My friend, who is a girl, and I are best friends. We are really close and I trust her with almost everything. We have sleepovers a lot and always sleep in same bed and cuddle. Is that wrong? sometimes we stay up all night just hugging or rubbing ...
A. 4 January 2011: I think this is intimate and very caring. How can it be a bad thing if it makes you both happy :D nothing wrong here to worry about. Be happy and enjoy what you two have.... (read in full...)
I push people away and then feel I have no friends. I don't know what to do. Help please?
Q. i have "friends" but lately i feel really isolated from them and i feel like they're all closer to each other than i am to any of them. whenever i become good friends with someone, i for some reason start to push them away. i dont know why, i just ...
A. 4 January 2011: It's a new year. Maybe all you need is a positive outlook.
I use to lie to my friends whenever they invited me out to hang, because I knew there were people I didn't know that were going to be there too. In my case, it was an anxiety problem.... (read in full...)
The perfect boyfriend but I'm not sure if I like him or love him?
Q. Hey guys,i think im confuse.im not sure anymore if this is "love" im feeling towards my 2years boyfriend,or just my hormones talking.well..lemme tell you about my situation.i came from not-so-happy-family.people say im very cheerful and ...
A. 31 December 2010: I think love and relationships in general is a learning curve. It’s never a linier happiness but it’s worth holding onto if it makes you feel something.
All people are different and some more so than others, that when they find someone that the... (read in full...)
I am married but want to be wife my ex girlfriend who is my wife's sister
Q. I am married to my ex girl friend's small sister and have two kids but strongly desire my ex girl friend, her big sister who is also married and has her own kids. How can I get over the desire or get her to bed ?...
A. 30 December 2010: Think of the consequences. For everyone.
Sometimes we have to bite the bullet and hold onto our deep emotions, on the inside.... (read in full...)
What is the meaning behind his gift?
Q. Hey, I'd love some advice on the meaning of a gift I received for xmas from my bf of 4 months, please. We said we'd get each other little gifts, but he bought me a beautiful sapphire necklace :) I'm not sure what this means (he hasn't ever told me ...
A. 28 December 2010: Good guys just want to make their gals happy, that’s all. Are you happy, because if you are, that’s all he needs to know in return.
Spend time with him I’d say, he’ll appreciate that more than any gift. Have fun :)... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he pay for the toys?
Q. My internet friend would like me to purchase a suction dido 10 inch, anal beads and anal butt plug to take with me on my holiday to see him and for me to use prior to my departure on Skype. I'm feeling hesitant considering I have never met him th...
A. 28 December 2010: I think sex is a great thing between two people that ‘actually’ care for one another. Otherwise, don’t sell yourself to strangers, and not so easily online. I’m glad you’re finally rational enough to want to know a few more answers.
And if you d... (read in full...)
I've managed to find nobody.
Q. OK, I'm really, really struggling now, and I don't know who I can turn to. Basically I just want honest answers, which my friends and family in real life don't seem to wish to give. Anyway, I'm almost 29. I will be 30 in a little over a ye...
A. 26 December 2010: I don't think love is found, I think it just happens. Concentrate on your life and be happy, that's when people will come into your life. Socialize and don't think about love so much, just get on with doing whatever it is you do. Love is a surprise, ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he pay for the toys?
Q. My internet friend would like me to purchase a suction dido 10 inch, anal beads and anal butt plug to take with me on my holiday to see him and for me to use prior to my departure on Skype. I'm feeling hesitant considering I have never met him th...
A. 26 December 2010: Toys aside (of course you shouldn't be paying or doing shit for this guy); how are you taking a holiday to see him still, knowing he's comfortable with pressuring a woman he's never met into f*cking herself on a web-cam on the world wide web?
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I am married but want to be wife my ex girlfriend who is my wife's sister
Q. I am married to my ex girl friend's small sister and have two kids but strongly desire my ex girl friend, her big sister who is also married and has her own kids. How can I get over the desire or get her to bed ?...
A. 26 December 2010: I think you are letting your feelings cloud your better judgment. Your life is devoted to your wife and your children, NOT to another woman.
I think you need to be strong and fight your thoughts of adultery, for your children's sake at least. W... (read in full...)
I can't stop being jealous of her ex boyfriends
Q. i've been with this girl for a little over 4 months and things are going pretty well, we're very affectionate to eachother,we have great conversations, and she tells me all the time how much she likes me. the problem is that i cant stop being ...
A. 23 December 2010: Don't ever bring this up with her. Sometimes we have to bite the bullet pal. Just know that 'that' was then and 'this' is now.
You obviously love her or you wouldn't be thinking about it. Just be happy while you two are together ok.... (read in full...)
When I think of my ex I get all these negative feelings!
Q. i was told that i cant stop thinking about my ex. i wish her the best but when i think about her all thses negetive feelings come up and i want them to go away. what can i do?...
A. 21 December 2010: You should try writing out your feeling in letter form. Don’t ever post this though. I think it helps, writing out these feeling we have that won’t go away. Maybe you wish you had a little more closure that made sence to you?
Maybe your just rem... (read in full...)
Am I a Heartbreaker?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with a man who continuously tells me that he loves me. I put in a whole lot of effort to keep this long distance relationship work. I make sure that I am looking good and well taken care of from my hygiene to what I ...
A. 21 December 2010: It happens. The emotion and intense feelings we have for someone slowly fades over time. Some people can see past this and hold on, but others just know it’s not them to do so, not at this time of their youth at least. I think you just need to be ... (read in full...)
Are there clues to find guys who prefer small boobs?
Q. How can I find guys who prefer small boobs over big boobs? I have small boobs, and I'm tired of always finding guys who prefer and like big boobs better, but who "don't mind" small ones. Yeah, I know I'm insecure, but I can't help it, and I always ...
A. 20 December 2010: Some men are idiots. They believe whatever the media shoves in their faces as being sexy and what is socially accepted among their peers. Boobs have nothing to do with love. If sex is all you're after than goodluck to you and keep looking but don't ... (read in full...)
Is he stingy or something else?
Q. Hi I have been in a serious relationship with a lovely man for 2 years. We live in separate houses as I have two kids to my ex and he has 6 kids to his 3 ex's. He visits me 3 times a week, comes for dinner and breakfast, uses the computer, swims in ...
A. 19 December 2010: He doesn't sound like a man at all. He likes what he can get from you because he thinks you’re easy. Where the hell has your pride gone lady? Put your foot down, it’s YOUR house, and let him know what YOU want from him and what YOU know is wrong and ... (read in full...)
I've been with my first boyfriend for around 3 months now and feel like its a doomed relationship.
Q. I've been with my first boyfriend for around 3 months now and feel like its a doomed relationship. I know that marriage can never be an option between us because of his jealousy (that is already showing) and our religious differences. I have be...
A. 19 December 2010: I think your past crush guy will always have a space for you in his heart, but you need to stop thinking about him and concentrate on your relationship with your current. You two are meant to be enjoying each other and making each other feel better ... (read in full...)
I miss talking to him and wonder if I overreacted?
Q. I met this guy a few months ago after moving to a new city and we seem to really hit it off. When I first met him, I just got out of a relationship and wasn't looking for anything other than friendship. I made this very clear to him. We never got ...
A. 19 December 2010: If he's interested he will get in contact with you. You could just say hi and a friendly Merry Christmas, without making yourself sound desperate to reconnect ‘Love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.’ Maybe he doesn’t care about you as much ... (read in full...)
I enjoy watching my boyfriend masturbate!
Q. I really enjoy watching my bf masturbate himself off. Is this weird?? ...
A. 17 December 2010: Lucky boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Can I get him back by being with him as a friend (without benefits)???
Q. My bf broke up with me a month back. Now he is sugessting friends with benefits with me. I said 'NO' since i still have feelings for him and i dont want to get hurt. But i am wondering can I get him back by being with him as a friend (without ...
A. 15 December 2010: Friendship is not going to happen the way you intend or want it to with this selfish jerk/your ex. Your intentions for friendship may have been honest, but he’s just thrown that back in your face.
He sounds like a person that didn’t learn a damn t... (read in full...)
Are YOU happy?
Q. I was just wondering. And if you are happy, what is making you happy? If you aren't happy, why aren't you happy? Stories/details are welcomed....
A. 14 December 2010: I wish people said their loving thoughts straight away, rather than try to remember to say them later, when the feeling is gone and forgotten.
'Love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.' Be happy girl!... (read in full...)
Love Letter with a Twist
Q. Dear Cupid. Hello. My girlfriend and I broke up over a silly issue two months ago. Our first and thus far, last fight. That's fine; we've both moved on. Being Christmas and all, I wrote her a thank you, merry Christmas and happy new year letter. ...
A. 11 December 2010: Very cool and appropriate responses. Thanks. I still plan on wishing her a happy new year, but I'll keep the personal garb to myself. I knew it wasn't a good idea, but it felt right to ask and get some positive viewpoints. Reinforce my doubts.
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Scent of a woman?
Q. There's a young woman at work, who I always know when she is near because... I can smell her. She smells amazing and the weird thing is, I don't think it's her moisturizer or perfume. I want to approach her and introduce myself, but I think I'll...
A. 11 December 2010: Thank you, everyone. I don't feel so strange anymore. I'll see her on my Tuesday shift, so here's hoping I get in a friendly 'hello' to her.
Getting to know the girl first is definitely the most appropriate approach for sure. Personally I would be... (read in full...)
Love Letter with a Twist
Q. Dear Cupid. Hello. My girlfriend and I broke up over a silly issue two months ago. Our first and thus far, last fight. That's fine; we've both moved on. Being Christmas and all, I wrote her a thank you, merry Christmas and happy new year letter. ...
A. 11 December 2010: Thank you. I liked reading that CindyCares. So is there anything wrong with just saying Merry Christmas and have a Happy New Year to this girl?... (read in full...)
Does spiritual love exist?
Q. ~SPIRITUAL LOVE-PAST, PRESENT and FUTURE~ Does anyone here believe spiritual love exists? If so, what is your definition of spiritual love? Have you experienced it or are you currently experiencing it? If yes, specify and qualify ins...
A. 11 December 2010: Firstly, I love your question and your theory on spiritual love.
I think two people can have a myriad of similarities between them and still not get along. I think spiritual love exists, but I think it should be approached just as equally as regul... (read in full...)
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