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Hey there! I'm an English teacher in my early 30s and I recently got married.

Being a teacher (I teach 14-19-year-old kids) I am used to listening to problems, witnessing conflict and ultimately sitting down trying to find a solution.

I myself have experienced bad relationships, delusion, death of a beloved family member and I've lived in different parts of the world. There's still so much to see and so much to learn!

Please, feel free to email me in private for whatever reason- I'll be here!

More than 6 years together, he's still putting off marriage and now its making me bitter and unhappy.

Q. Sorry for the length, I feel the information is necessary to get a good reply. THANKS to anyone who reads and replies! I am 24(female), my boyfriend is 33. We have been together for over 6 years and living together for just about 6 years. No majo...

A. 17 January 2013: Hi! I can totally relate. I've been with my ex 5+ years, lived together for 3 years and whenever I brought up the marriage issue he'd say "Ah, well, there are still a few things about you that I don't like... you know, maybe we could get married in ... (read in full...)

More than 6 years together, he's still putting off marriage and now its making me bitter and unhappy.

Cousins love - can it work, even though I'm married?

Q. Basically, I fallen in love with my cousin. He tells me he feels the same and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. We didn't grow up together and I only met him once when I was a teenager - we live in different countries and I am now in m...

A. 15 November 2012: Is he your first cousin? Because in some countries relationships between first cousins are frowned upon. If you are second cousins or even further related then I should say it is socially acceptable for you guys to date. Still, I have a few conc... (read in full...)

Should I text him? please help

Q. I was chatting with a customer at work, and he asked for my number, kind of jokingly. I said no. When he came back a little later we chatted some more. When I handed him his receipt, he asked where my number was. As there were customers behind ...

A. 30 August 2012: Sure! Go ahead! Nothing wrong with that! You were just being professional... ask him if you can make it up to him over coffee sometime! Good luck!... (read in full...)

Our family tree would be a circle since we are distantly related. Is it too weird?

Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly 9 months. We have known each other for years and its getting pretty serious. We just found out yesterday that we are 6th cousins 3 times removed, from our understanding. Anyway, our grandfathers are 2nd ...

A. 29 August 2012: Stop worrying, please!! You're not even related... it's so remote that you're not even considered related! In my country (Italy) it's perfectly legal and normal and acceptable to marry your second cousin (say, your moms are cousins and you share a ... (read in full...)

Too Close For My Comfort

Q. I need advice. My 24 year old stepdaughter moved in with us. She quit a perfectly good job and came home. She doesn't clean up, she doesn't pay rent, she generally acts like she is still a child instead of the grown woman she is. My problem and...

A. 29 August 2012: Yeah, definitely weird. I've never ever kissed my dad- and I know that's kind of weird too, but he's always been a very emotionally detached man. But I've never seen any of my girl-friends get that intimate with their fathers. Dads find their ... (read in full...)

Havent heard from my guy for a week

Q. I have been seeing this guy for 5 months.He had been a lot more smitten than before last month.He spent almost every night at my place.However,we had a fight over some stupid things he did when he was drunk.Our last talk was on the phone,he went ...

A. 6 July 2012: What is this? Kindergarten? Sorry, OP, but he's not behaving in a mature kinda way! Adults communicate and don't just say "whatever, I'll call you whenever". What is that? He's supposed to love you and care for you...! Don't call him, OP, just ... (read in full...)

How long should I wait for my b/f to get a divorce?

Q. I m in love with 41 bf, enstranged from his wife. My bf stays with 2 kids, since wife left. I m 41, divorced with 2 kids. He wants 2 get divorced and marry me. We are madly in love for 3 months. I caught him on site dating, which he admitted he has ...

A. 7 June 2012: Hi! You say you guys have been together for a few months. I would say you both should wait a little before jumping into marriage especially since you both have kids- you know it's not just about you and your bf, it's about you, your bf and the kids ... (read in full...)

Should I go ahead with the PhD? Or not?

Q. I'm currently in a massive state of indecision about my future and I was hoping for some advice. I'm 8 or so months into a postgraduate degree in chemistry, and the option to extend it to a three year PhD course came up a few months ago. At ...

A. 18 May 2012: I would definitely take the PhD! I think you love what you do and you just let stress get you. I know sometimes we can feel trapped in a kind of life we don't want, but you won't! You have good friends and I'm sure you're great at what you do (I ... (read in full...)

My ex lover is married and looking to continue the relationship....

Q. I was sleeping with my best friend for 2 1/2 yrs after he broke up with his ex girl after 7 yrs of an on and off again relationship. We had a great time together. We are compatible and love each others company, sex was awesome but it would have ...

A. 17 May 2012: Hey! I don't want to sound harsh, but you need to move away from this guy. He's proven to be manipulative and disrespectful. He keeps you there because he knows you'll always be there providing sex and good company. He doesn't want to take the... (read in full...)

He's a decent guy but not as good looking as I remember, should I give him a chance?

Q. So I met this guy on a night out, he's tall, perfect age, really good kisser and we get along smoothly it's nice. What I like was the fact he wasn't full on and didn't ask me back to his, or initiate something of the sort (very rare over here for ...

A. 25 April 2012: If you really cannot figure yourself getting intimate with this guy, well, I think there is no point in trying to start a relationship here. Maybe go on another couple of dates, see how it goes, but if you still feel the same, just be honest w... (read in full...)

My ex husband kept coming around my house but now claims he hates my guts! What is going on?

Q. My exhusband has been coming around the house, I do let him with hopes things were maybe going to work out.. but I noticed he never asked me out for coffee or anywhere....I am not ugly..I dont want to sound conceited but I dont have trouble getting ...

A. 25 April 2012: From my personal experience, the moment I started getting over all of my ex boyfriends was the moment I decided to cut all contacts with them. It hurt like crazy at first, but then it slowly got better and better. You need to realize your life and... (read in full...)

I feel so alone... Any ideas on how to make my life more meaningful and happy??

Q. Hi everyone. I hope you can help me please. I feel so alone and I don't want to feel this way anymore. I'm a 33 year old guy, I got into a relationship when I was 21 and that lasted until just 2 years ago. I have never been the social type...

A. 18 December 2011: I've been feeling pretty low myself lately and I've found out that the only things that help me a little are: a) counselling b) keeping myself busy: be it volunteering at the hospital, meeting friends, working, calling a friend, going to the ... (read in full...)