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My friend is milking her break up. How do I approach the subject?
Q. ? ? ?I’m annoyed at my friend but I can’t be honest with her as she’s been through a lot and I don’t want to come across as insensitive. In June 2022 she discovered that her boyfriend of 6 years was having an affair with her housemate. Of ...
A. 8 February 2023: You aren't really friends.....you are her friend but she is not your friend bc it seems like she wants your! support and pity and she has a hard time but she is not there for you as she should. I think she likes feeling like the center of attention ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend abused me should I leave him?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for the past 2 years. We had plans to get married and settle down. But we were recently in a 9 month long distance and I was flirtatiously texting some guys which i thought was harmless. There was one guy ...
A. 8 February 2023: Only you know what to do....
Do you want to stay with and marry a man that will treat you this way every time things get hard( problems will arise again for sure.....they do in every relationship or marriage but most men don't resort to ph... (read in full...)
Should I rethink things?
Q. He expected a thank you for getting a coca cola for my mother and asked me on the phone if my mother got the coke so I said yeah why? and he told me where was his thank you and I told him that when he asks for a thank you after he wants to do ...
A. 2 February 2023: I think he asked you for a THANK YOU in a teasing way but honeypie and youcannotbeserious are right...... why not say thank you for the coke....what's the big deal. if you don't want to feel indebted to anyone than you can not ask for help or accept ... (read in full...)
Do you think there is any possible explanation to justify the pictures?
Q. Hi! So my girlfriend said she went to the museum with 2 friends and posted some photos to social media. However the reflections in the glass in the photos are weird. Firstly there was one of her holding a guys arm when he posed for a photo, so...
A. 17 August 2021: YES......she could've been holding hands with her GIRLfriend....that's totally normal and common in their culture
2) what if she WAS on a date with a guy? who cares?....maybe she's shy and too embarrassed to tell you.....also very common in th... (read in full...)
I feel I am being used as a sugar mama
Q. Hello! So my boyfriend and I have been together just over two years. We get together 2 or 3 times per month. Hes usually pretty good to me but also seems entitled and expects the best. For bdays as an example he thinks it's good to give him ...
A. 12 August 2021: I would just laugh in his face and pretend I'm oblivious.....haha!..... $500?....why do you think you deserve that much?.......can I buy you that?.....hahaha....you can buy it yourself baby....you're a grown man, you don't need a woman to buy you ... (read in full...)
Do I say how I feel or remain quiet but regret it?
Q. Hey everyone, I’m in need of some help! So a few years back I was chatting to this boy ok Twitter (weird I know) but we lost contact due to me getting in a relationship and me living far away at the time. Fast forward and I’m out of my relationship ...
A. 9 August 2021: If you were dealing with a normal mature man I would say talk to him...tell him how you feel and set your boundaries.....however......
When dealing with fuckboys..here are your options in my opinions:
1)block his number and move on bc they ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin if I've never had sex, and only masturbated?
Q. Hello I'm an 25 year old guy I was wondering I've never had sex with anyone yet and have only masturbated, does that means im still a virgin or not, and are there a difference between sex and masturbation....
A. 29 July 2021: Of course!
A virgin is someone who has never has had SEXUAL INTERCOURSE!! and you fit that description......you would also still be a virgin if you had received a blowjob but have never penetrated a woman or a man!!
Masturbation ... (read in full...)
I found out on my birthday my husband has been having casual, meaningless sex with another woman!!! How can I ever trust him again?/
Q. Can ANYONE here tell me HOW and WHY A MAN can go behind his wife or girlfriend's back to GET A BLOW JOB or HAVE MEANINGLESS CASUAL SEX here and there and CLAIM to LOVE his wife or girlfriend??? And PRETEND to be committed to his primary ...
A. 14 April 2021: Shhhhhhh.............calm down please!!
Getting angry and yelling is n't hurting him.....it's hurting YOU and your health!!
Men can be dogs yes and often go out to get what they don't get at home or it may be that he sees you as an angelic mo... (read in full...)
My husband has changed. He's turned into a Christmas freak and watching gay porn
Q. OK, so I'll cut a long story short, but I'm worried over finances. For the past year, my husband's been obsessive over Christmas, spending large amounts on extravagant gifts, and buying large amounts of sweets and crisps and encouraging our kids to ...
A. 14 April 2021: Sounds like he may be overspending to compensate for something........has he lost his job bc of covid by any chance and is thus feeling like less of a provider which drives him to buy loads of expensive crap to prove that he can provide everything ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship that started as an affair have a chance at succeeding in the long run?
Q. I am one of the rare mistresses who gets her married man in the end. He divorced his wife, sold the home, split assets. All the kids are grown and out of the house. And now we are together legitimately. I can walk on the street with him hold...
A. 13 April 2021: You can't let yourself be happy because..
1) you feel guilty
2) deep down you know that once a cheater always a cheater and if he can do that to someone he loved ( once) and married and with who he had children what's going to stop him fr... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with him even though he is cruel
Q. Once upon a time I liked this boy from my primary school when I was 13. I told him how I felt about him on Facebook and his response was that I have problems. But it made me fall in love with him even more. Then one day, he called me an ugly bitch ...
A. 13 April 2021: Sweetheart you are not in love with him......this is an obsession!!
you want him because you can't have him and you created this perfect man idea of him in your head( he would probably bore you or highly disappoint you if you two were ever "to... (read in full...)
MY boyfriend's new job leaves no time for us. I'm worried our relationship won't last
Q. Recently my boyfriend got a new job driving lorries and it seems like hes constantly working and i never see him anymore. He works mon to fri has to be up at 4am then works til 5pm but often til 9pm. Weekends hes on call midnight saturda...
A. 5 April 2021: I once joked with a friend and said that the perfect man is an unemployed bum who lives on his mom's couch or a retired guy because those are they only ones who are always available to shower us with attention when we want it!!
The honeymoon st... (read in full...)
After one date he starts asking about sexy pictures. I like him but the vibe has changed
Q. Happy Easter fellow agony aunts! So, I am in need of some advice of this guy that I have been speaking/ seeing... so here we go! I have been speaking to this guy for pushing on 4 weeks now, we met on “tinder” and if I’m being honest, at first...
A. 5 April 2021: He love bombed you at first........they all do that when they are looking for sex!!
I agree that come over and stay with me is code for i want to have sex with you
I also agree that 3 dates is wayyy to fast to have sex.....you need at least 12... (read in full...)
Its time to call out my friend for her terrible behavior
Q. What am I to do ? I have a « friend ». For years I’ve known that she sometimes badmouths me behind my back. Today I got a piece of written proof. SHe has a terrible temper and she looks for excuses. It’s never her fault; it’s always someone e...
A. 4 April 2021: Sounds to me like maybe she has too much going on in her own life and can’t deal with other peoples problems been thrown at her… She may not try to be mean but she’s projecting her frustration at you and everybody else… Just give her some space and ... (read in full...)
Its time to call out my friend for her terrible behavior
Q. What am I to do ? I have a « friend ». For years I’ve known that she sometimes badmouths me behind my back. Today I got a piece of written proof. SHe has a terrible temper and she looks for excuses. It’s never her fault; it’s always someone e...
A. 4 April 2021: Sounds to me like maybe she has too much going on in her own life and can’t deal with other peoples problems been thrown at her… She may not try to be mean but she’s projecting her frustration at you and everybody else… Just give her some space and ... (read in full...)
My nephew came out as transgender. I am not happy about it. How can I be supportive?
Q. My nephew turned 24 years old this year and he announced to everyone via Facebook that he is transitioning to a woman. He has started hormone therapy, growing his hair our, and dressing like a woman. His mom (my sister-in-law) claims that he is be...
A. 23 December 2020: Try to remember that it is not your place to judge or chose what makes him happy! be happy for him that he won't spend his life in the closet and in a fake marriage like many have and still do just to make their family happy:(
Just learn to acc... (read in full...)
My always broke boyfriend asked for money and when I offered him some he said it wasn't nearly enough
Q. Hello So I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and hes always broke. Always some scenario happening. I have grown tired of it. His most recent request is hes broke can I help him. I offered 80.00 and he declined. He said it's not enoug...
A. 23 December 2020: Where does your boyfriend live?......is this an online relationship by any chance?( there are a lot of online scammers out there!!)
What would happen if you lied and said you were broke yourself and have lots of debt to pay off? ( test him to ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but can't help being intrigued by a Secret Admirer
Q. Cupids I need help! OK so about a month ago I got a random email from a man who claimed to have known me in the past, telling me that he 'had to get off his chest' that he really fancied me and was crazy about me and that even YEARS later sinc...
A. 24 November 2020: You are feeling flattered and so would I but I advice to stop talking to him completely because this screams STALKER!! to me and you are feeding his obsession by talking to him( he feels like he's getting bits of you whenever you respond!!) BE ... (read in full...)
He dumped me for no reason and now won't talk to me. Help me fix it.
Q. We dated for 3 weeks. Everything was amazing. We spent a lot of time together and talked for 7 to 8 hours a day about everything. When we were together it was like we has known each other our entire lives. He told his family, friends and son about ...
A. 24 November 2020: It's possible he might be pulling away because he is overwhelmed and needs to process his feelings for you......lean back and give him space and time! he will "sober up" and contact you again after he feels regrouped. If you really likes this man ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's live in grandfather is undermining me with my children. I don't know what to do
Q. We aren't married but we have two children together. A year ago, his grandfather came to stay with us after he became widowed an needs caring for. We didn't think it was right to put him in a home and he can't really live alone. My grandfather lived ...
A. 14 May 2019: There is nothing YOU can do....only your bf can fix this by talking to his grandfather and telling him to mind his own and to stop treating you like crap. Why don't your bf's parents take care of their father?? Are they deceased...in that case, the ... (read in full...)
Why am I only drawn into these inappropriate, wrong relationships?
Q. Why am I always drawn to taboo, inappropriate or wrong kind of relationship?? Ok here is a little detail about myself. I grew up a bit of a wallflower - no confidence at school, never pushy or good with hair and makeup and so was always the l...
A. 8 May 2019: Is it possible that it's because you are addicted to the excitement of( forbidden or uncertain relationships) and get bored fast around normal, nice guys?
OR
You don't value yourself enough to believe that a normal guy would want to be with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just stood and watched while I was struggling rather than help me. Was this mean? Selfish?
Q. I went shopping with my boyfriend and I was struggling to carry the bags so one of the bags fell on the floor and I was struggling to pick it up meanwhile my boyfriend just stood there and watched me struggle. I said thanks for helping me and he ...
A. 8 May 2019: He's a complete ass..like Ivyblue said, even if he didn't know you and your physical needs he should have offered to help but HE IS NOT a gentleman. If you knew this then yes YOU should have asked him for help. Is it possible though that he is not ... (read in full...)
She can’t choose between us two!
Q. I had a girlfriend who we met when she was in a relationship i won her then after few months she dumped me and went back to him,after 9 months she came back stalking me saying im the love of his life and she is still with her boyfriend when i ask ...
A. 7 May 2019: HELP HER CHOOSE MY DUMPING HER........She is playing you and you are letting her!! Why? Don't you think you deserve better....a girl who only has eyes for you! If you want to avoid confrontation then just stop taking her calls and answering her ... (read in full...)
Never been on a Proper date.
Q. Hi I'm a female who is nearly 50 and all throughout my life I have been scared to go on dates and avoid dating sites like the plague. The thought of having to sit there looking pretty making small talk with a potential partner makes me feel ve...
A. 7 May 2019: Firstly, I recommend that at your age you should be looking at men 10-15 yrs older unless you do want to just have some fun( which is fine if that's what you want)!! Men your age(prob freshly divorced) or younger men just want to have fun or want a ... (read in full...)
Never been on a Proper date.
Q. Hi I'm a female who is nearly 50 and all throughout my life I have been scared to go on dates and avoid dating sites like the plague. The thought of having to sit there looking pretty making small talk with a potential partner makes me feel ve...
A. 6 May 2019: If you find that you don't meet anyone interesting enough through work or you normal life then you shou SHOULD consider going online.........just to see what's out there! IF you meet someone with potential, email each other a couple of times and ... (read in full...)
Do they really have these outrageous bills in Nigeria?
Q. I have wrote here before. I had some good advice. It was about my Nigerian husband. I mentioned his mood swings , and I’m unable to ask any questions without his temper flaring up. Ai also mentioned his spending ways and his expections that ...
A. 3 May 2019: HE IS SCAMMING YOU!!!!! For money and probably for a green card as well! Do not give him any more money, instead open up a new bank account for yourself and start stashing money there so you can just tell him( and be able to show him a bank ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he want to come home with me?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now. He said he likes me and wasn't seeing anyone else. On our last date, we had a passionate make out and he said that I was beautiful and sexy and really turned him on. In fact, he had to stop himself a ...
A. 3 March 2019: Could it be that it is because he was raised in a very traditional family.......wait til marriage, etc or perhaps he is highly inexperienced and is not ready to tell/show you that? Get to know him better and you'll get all your answers!!... (read in full...)
Do couples that have been together a long time have deeper love?
Q. Hey all Might seem a silly question but i wondered if a couple are together a long time does it mean their love is going to be deeper than a couple who have say been together a couple of years as opposed to ten years?...
A. 3 March 2019: They might have a deeper love if they have a lot of shared experiences that bond them but with time you can also grow to resent and lose respect for someone so in those cases people who choose to stay together could be doing it for different ... (read in full...)
Why did I stress so much during this trip and how do I enjoy myself more the next time?
Q. I feel like I nearly wasted 2 days away. Flew to another city in my country for 2 nights. Going home today and am at airport waiting for flight. Why did I get anxious and worry about getting home, missing the flights, weather, not enjoyi...
A. 3 March 2019: Why do you think you stressed so much?
Could it be because you were away from your normal environment and thus had less control over what may happen? Is it realistic that we are in control all the time without turning into a hermit that never le... (read in full...)
My mother in law walked in on me naked. I put some clothing on. But should I try not to be concerened? My M-in-Law wasn't bothered at all.
Q. My wife and I are currently on vacation and staying at my mother in laws house for a week. Last night my mother in law walked into my bed room as I stepped out of the the bathroom. I was completely naked. She did not seem at all bothered by ...
A. 30 January 2017: I think it has nothing to do with YOU per se. its just how she is..........some people are just more comfortable around nudism and are more open minded. Trust me, you are not the first naked man she has seen........she is not shocked like a 15 year ... (read in full...)
Why would my co-worker buy me coffee and a muffin?
Q. Today one of my coworkers that I'm friendly with surprised me with coffee and muffin from a fast food place. I normally get to work an hour early because parking spaces are scarce--first come first serve. When I arrived, he came to my window and...
A. 30 January 2017: He likes you and he was just being nice. he likes you does not necessarily mean he wants to date you, he might just like you as a person and thought you deserve to be treated like that. Be nice and friendly in return and don't read too much into it ... (read in full...)
How do I proceed with this situation? How do I process feeling unwanted if it doesn't work out?
Q. There is somebody that I like who I am kind of friends with . We get on really well, have lots in common and laugh and joke a lot, as well as chatting when we go to the pub in a group etc. I've been on two holidays with him in a group. I wouldn't...
A. 30 January 2017: 1)you are right to start as friends first.......the best relationships have a foundation of friendship. You can try flirting to see how he reacts...or you can ask a mutual friend(preferably a girl) what she thinks of the two of you going out as a ... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for him. He still feels the attraction too. But now he's living with another girl. How can we go forward with this?
Q. Long story but need advice. In 2013, I dated a guy for a few months. I really, really liked him but he was very keen to make the relationship official (telling everyone), which at the time I wasn't ready for, mostly because I was really poor at t...
A. 30 January 2017: Along as he is in another relationship(living with her too!) you cant be anything more than a friend to this guy and you need to tell him that! It's not fair to you, him or the other girl........how would you feel if you were her? Be nice and ... (read in full...)
I want a prettier girlfriend who cares about being fit and healthy. What do I need to do?
Q. I want a prettier girlfriend. I've been with mine for a few years now and it seems wrong to leave. I love her but the lack of effort (exercise counts) is making me less attracted to her. Bringing it up makes me the bad guy. What should I do?...
A. 29 January 2017: Like attracts like. Be the person you want to be with(or you want your gf to be) If you want what you are saying then start taking care of yourself first.........start working out, eating well, grooming yourself and then your gf will either follow ... (read in full...)
He gets my hopes up talking about having kids and then changes his mind!
Q. hello all of you, I'm Lauren, I would like you all to know my name. I need some advice. I have just come out of a 16 year relationship, my now ex was a lot older than me and had his fill of life experience, married, 4 kids, divorced and th...
A. 29 January 2017: Sounds like he told you what he thought you wanted to hear at the time so he can keep you around and then he went home, thought about it and regretted it. What do you really want? Do you really want kids or would you be happy just being with someone ... (read in full...)
Where do I stand with this guy? He didn't ask me out after our third date.
Q. Hello All, I have been talking to this guy from work almost 3 weeks. On our 2nd date, I made a mistake bringing it up where was his craziest place to have sex? Since that time he started to text me that he wants to hold me ... Etc Last w...
A. 9 May 2015: Give him space....................act indifferent. the more you show you care the more he feels like he is in control over you. It's possible he was expecting sex from you since you were comfortable enough to bring it up on the second date and now ... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 months. How should I respond to her very hesitant attitudes about sex? She's a virgin and aged 36.
Q. My new girlfriend of 2 months is a virgin and found this out when I tried to take our relationship a little further. She started crying and said that she would find it embarrasing to have sex with me and just kept on saying that she says that whe...
A. 9 May 2015: It sounds like she has yet to have sex( with you or anyone else) because she has major body issues.Has she ever come close to having sex? how close and why didn't she follow through? This can be very common in young girls but at her age it's very ... (read in full...)
I love my wife. I miss sex. I'm flirting online with an old friend. Help!
Q. I'm married, I love my wife we have a beautiful little girl together that will be turning 4 in a few months. I have never asked questions on a forum before but I like to give as much information as possible so you get the picture. I wo...
A. 17 April 2015: Is it possible that you are attracted to the idea of her( your online friend) and not the actual person..............the fantasy of how things could be with someone other than your wife? Fantasies are often a way to cope with/escape reality. it ... (read in full...)
I love my wife. I miss sex. I'm flirting online with an old friend. Help!
Q. I'm married, I love my wife we have a beautiful little girl together that will be turning 4 in a few months. I have never asked questions on a forum before but I like to give as much information as possible so you get the picture. I wo...
A. 17 April 2015: Is it possible that you are attracted to the idea of her( your online friend) and not the actual person..............the fantasy of how things could be with someone other than your wife? Fantasies are often a way to cope with/escape reality. it ... (read in full...)
Are we dating or are we in a relationship?
Q. So there is a guy that I really like, but I'm confused about what we are. We went out for a few dates etc and really hit it off. We have similar interest and I would like to go to the next level with him. So far we've went on about 4 dates. Recent...
A. 16 April 2015: you're just dating at this point. dating is not necessarily the same as hooking up. hooking up is just about sex......dating is about building a foundation for a relationship and getting to know each other. if you confront him and start demanding a ... (read in full...)
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