Like what
she writes?
... Add *indyCares to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
Ciao
Cindy |
|
| Latest articles: Devastation in Italy
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
26 August 2016: This has got nothing to do with romance or relationships or love- maybe with love for our fellow human beings, i.e. solidariety and compassion , so I hope that the mods will publish this regardless. On August 24th a devastating eartquak...
Ten best ways for a woman to be given her walking papers.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
|
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 12 February 2018: I think yoir friend should keep it simple , and " surgical". She should not indulge in overanalyzing and doing the post-mortem of the relationship, and combing through all the hows and whys. Why ask why ?..What is the point ?
The bottom line is t... (read in full...)
I need my mother to understand why I want to move out!
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 24, employed and living at home. I've been helping out with bills etc and when my mom told me she was buying a house with my stepfather I got concerned because I've been wanting to move out for ages. She doesn't make a lot and ...
A. 8 April 2016: As the other ladies said, just move out. You can take a horse to the water but you can't make it drink.
I think your mother understands perfectly already (... it's not that difficut to figure out ) that at 24 you want and need space, privacy, indi... (read in full...)
Do I expose his lies or just blank him ?
Q. Hi everyone 4 week ago me and my ex decided to give our relationship another go he spun me lines and i fell for them. My friend is on a dating site and saw him on there so told me im glad she did , im tempted to message him and tell him liars al...
A. 8 April 2016: Don't bother. Most ,most probably you would not feel better, because it would not go as you plan. He'd find a way to turn the tables on you, and to make it 's all fault of your ( possessivity, paranoia, dramaqueenness, fill the blanks ).
He'd... (read in full...)
Am I in a position to help her? or should others advise her instead?
Q. I'm having a moral dilemma, me and my exgf broke up over a year ago, a few months ago we decided to be friends again since we shared the same group of friends. So I'm dating my current girlfriend for over 3 months now, I've made an effort for my c...
A. 8 April 2016: If she is jealous she us still carrying a torch- ( and you are lapping it up ?... ) if she is still carrying a torch, you can't be friends- in fact , you just aren't. Platonic friends are not romantically and sexually jealous of each other ; if ... (read in full...)
My Bf had two pictures of his ex in his jacket pocket. Now what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having the same recurring issue. When we first moved in I found a letter from his ex, from when they were going out. I got mad at him and told him to throw all the stuff out. Now today, 3 months after I look into his ...
A. 8 April 2016: One more relationship issue ? Like, a new one every day ?...
This is a trust issue. The problem is not that he kept 2 pics of his ex , the problem is, that when he says he forgout having them in that pocket... you do not believe him. Why ? Is he s... (read in full...)
How do I cope when he goes away?
Q. Hello My husband an I are middle aged, he is in his early 60s and still works full time in a factory. Conditions are not good there but he wants to stay there until retirement. We have been on vacations to Cuba but I don't really enjoy it there m...
A. 6 April 2016: Is it really so uncommon ? debatable, OP. I guess it depends from ages and locations and cultures and other factors - for your 3 married friends that do not take separate vacations, I can quote you at least six of mine who do. My parents had a ... (read in full...)
I feel he loves me, or does he? He never initiates sex any more
Q. My boyfriend never initiates sex and if he does its rarely. I've asked him if he thinks I'm not sexy anymore or something, but he always responds that he does. He just says he is tired, or not in the mood, or busy playing games or watching anime. ...
A. 6 April 2016: Before trying to give you an answer , -let's take a step back.
" I know he loves me and cares about me ":
HOW do you know ?
You reached this conclusion based on what ?
What does he do and says ( well, actually DO, because actions speal mu... (read in full...)
How do I cope when he goes away?
Q. Hello My husband an I are middle aged, he is in his early 60s and still works full time in a factory. Conditions are not good there but he wants to stay there until retirement. We have been on vacations to Cuba but I don't really enjoy it there m...
A. 5 April 2016: Maybe your husband is enjoying his vacation only at 50% because you did not join him, then again he'd be enjoying it at 50% even if you were there. Because , unless you have totally changed tastes and personality since your last post of May 2015, ... (read in full...)
Why did he want to meet me if he turned out acting the way that he did?
Q. I dated a guy who had a little thing for a coworker and it turned into a messy situation and our relaitonship was on and off again and during some of the off times he would try and pursue this coworker of his. Anyways long story short.., I felt a ...
A. 5 April 2016: Not very flattering maybe, but all his behaviour screams : BACK BURNER !
You are Ms. Old Reliable ON-and-Off, and he , apparently , does not like to sweat it in his love life. It did not work with the new girl, ... and of course what's fast... (read in full...)
What does this all mean? Was he telling me lies when we broke up?
Q. I started going out with my EX boyfriend in September, we had a great relationship everything was going well! A lovely valetines days, he told me he was falling for me and he chased me. I really fell for him, the week it ended I noticed he was a li...
A. 5 April 2016: One month is surely enough time to move on , when you have well made up your mind that it's not working out for you and your heart wasn't in it anymore, as your ex candidly admitted.
He was not exactly telling you lies, he was just giving his ... (read in full...)
His re-actions don't support his words that 'he can't wait to be married to me'. What should I do?
Q. When I go to my fiance's house and he's watching a movie he won't stop it to talk to me when I hug him he acts like he doesn't want to be touched. Is this normal for a guy? He tells me he can't wait to marry me but I feel unimportant to him....
A. 5 April 2016: He is telling you what kind of husband he will be :).
The kind who won't like to be bothered while he is watching his favourite movies and will react with indifference or annoyance to your attempts to distract him or get his attention.
What... (read in full...)
Why is my BF of 2 years suddenly expressing concerns about my high sex drive?
Q. I've been dating a man who is 10 years older than me for the past couple of years. It's been a good relationship. The sex is especially good and has been since the beginning. He has always loved my passion and energy and that I have a high sex ...
A. 4 April 2016: I agree with Tisha-1. This sounds just like our long term poster the mistress of the older guy....
Who in which case, would be well over 45 , according to previous posts, therefore very unlikely to keep up forever your current sexual rythm. SOME... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has accused me of suffering BO. I shower. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months thinks that I have B.O. and I'm very hurt. I always shower when he comes over and he says that sometimes showering isn't enough, and that the natural deodorant I use isn't effective at times. He doesn't mind but highlig...
A. 4 April 2016: In other word , you would have loved to turn this from a problem of YOUR B.O to a problem of HIS hyper-sensitive sense of smell :)?....
Unluckily, OP, chances are that if your bf really had this super-keen sense of smell that makes him stand out ... (read in full...)
Should I respond to my ex? Do you think I would look like a fool if I did? Or should I leave it and just delete his number?
Q. 3 days ago, my ex boyfriend texted me out of the blue and asked if I wanted to meet up for lunch and catch up. I decided to ignore the text completely, but honestly it has been on my mind constantly ever since. I think the reason this is botherin...
A. 4 April 2016: Curiosity killed the cat... It's an idle curiosity anyway.
He told you what he wants, he wants to " catch up ". Do YOU want to catch up ? I'd rather think not, because a) you catch up with old friends but the way he behaved disqualifies him from... (read in full...)
He said I'm wife material, not casual dating type. what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone I have a question. Men are easy to meet on dating sites. Been out with some and met a few at store bar etc. I'm told and shown the same thing. I'm so sweet all say then disappear. My good guy friend says I'm a good catch for long te...
A. 3 April 2016: Pardon my cynicism, but I think these guys were just telling you in a kind way that you weren't their type- they were letting you down easy.
While it may be perfectly true that you come off as sweet, innocent, serious etc., I have a hard time beli... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken about how my daughters are treating me! What should I do?
Q. last week was my nephews 18 birthday celebration. my 2 daughters declined the meal making excuses. whilst we were having our meal my daughters were outside with my grandson in a procession that was happening. we had no idea. the next day on Faceb...
A. 2 April 2016: Choose your daughters.
Sorry, maybe I am being insensitive... I do realize that behind this there are years of tensions, misunderstandings and bad blood,.... that you are sort of put between a rock and a hard place by the differences betw... (read in full...)
Should I text him to rekindle what we had? Or should I leave it?
Q. I met a wonderful guy off Tinder at the end of January, we had been texting constantly for 6 weeks and have been on 4 dates and we kissed on dates 3 and 4. All the dates went really well and he even said that he had a great time. After the 4th ...
A. 2 April 2016: There are exceptions to every rule ; the fact that female anon luckily met her perfect match on Tindr does not cancel the fact that Tindr is a hook up site, or, at best , a site for people seeking very casual dates. It's not impossible, maybe, to ... (read in full...)
Should I end this relationship? It hurts me to end something that has so much potential and beauty to grow
Q. Hi guys, I'm in a dilemma. I come from a very traditional Pakistani family but born and raised in the states. I grew up wanting a Pakistani guy who looks like me and has similar values and upbringing because it's so complex and detailed. An...
A. 1 April 2016: I assume you are a Muslim Pakistani ? ( Yes I know that there are also Christian Pakistanis, but since they are about 1% of the population, mine is a reasonable assumption ).
In this case, I am surprised that you focus so much on race and so litt... (read in full...)
Happily married but feeling terrified out of my wits as my pregnancy has been confirmed. Need advice, please?
Q. Thank you all for taking the time to read my question. I know I'm going to be severely judged for posting this but please bear with me. I got married about 8 months ago to a wonderful man. I'm 33 and he's almost 40. He is the best husband and frie...
A. 31 March 2016: You are not obliged to be a proud and happy pregnant woman, but you should try hard to stay a rationally thinking one :)
For instance : why can't you go to Mexico ? Mexico is full of pregnant ladies :) Pregnant women can fly until 36 weeks.
- If ... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend insensitive to praise this new employee to the extent he did? Or am I being too sensitive?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a few years now and we love each other but a comment he made this morning really upset me... He was interviewing this woman for a job and he texted me afterwards saying she was excellent and that he would be hiring h...
A. 31 March 2016: It does not have to be his own business for him to be happy having found an excellent applicant . He just needs to care about doing his job properly. His responsibilities include interviewing and selecting the best possible candidate for a certain ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has turned into a jerk since taking sick leave
Q. Hey everyone! My boyfriend is currently in a difficult situation - he is 41, a barman, and has been off work on sick leave since last August. He had an operation on his back in January and his sick leave ends in the middle of April, so basically he ...
A. 31 March 2016: Then, he IS a jerk. And to tell you the truth, he does not sound SO depressed to me. He rearranges his forniture and makes home improvement stuff and goes to carnivals... all stuff that depressed people have no interest or energy for.
I think he i... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend insensitive to praise this new employee to the extent he did? Or am I being too sensitive?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a few years now and we love each other but a comment he made this morning really upset me... He was interviewing this woman for a job and he texted me afterwards saying she was excellent and that he would be hiring h...
A. 31 March 2016: If that is all your bf said, you are being too sensitive... verging on the slightly maniacal !
As if he had sung the praise of her splendid 34 DD bust !
Well, as a matter of fact, I don't even think that when you are in a healthy happy relation... (read in full...)
Should I be happy for my ex fiance after he cheated on me and hurt me so badly?
Q. About 3 months ago, my fiancé of 4 years ended our relationship. I would later find out he was cheating on me behind my back for about 2 weeks with a new woman at his work who he barely knew. I knew he met her and I actually knew her somewhat bac...
A. 30 March 2016: Life is as it is and seldom as it should be in a perfect world.
So yes, in theory you should be happy for him. True love is pure, generous, disinterested, unconditional, independent from any " what's in it for me ". In theory, if you love him ... (read in full...)
Should I propose to him? He has said in the past that he wouldn't mind.
Q. My BF of 3 yrs and I are travelling to California and Vegas in October and have decided to elope while there.. secretly! Anyway I know he's been looking been looking at engagement rings bur I also know he does not have the money for one ( he sta...
A. 30 March 2016: I am a bit confused too. If you have decided that you will get married in Las Vegas in October- well, you have bypassed the formal proposal, the "will you marry me "- he knows already that you want to marry him- and viceversa.
As for orga... (read in full...)
Tips, please? How to deal with a rude much younger colleague?
Q. when a work colleague ignores you? what to do? you say hi at start of work, they ignore you or say sharply "hi" or blank you and say nothing but talk and smile (and hug at times) and say hi to others you've done nothing wrong you work with th...
A. 28 March 2016: You don't mind her being much younger , but maybe she minds you being much older ?.... At her age some people are ageist, not all of them but some. They can't imagine that yes, there's a life after 30 ( often a more interesting and fulfilling ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my brother moving up his wedding to take place right in the middle of my exams?
Q. A sibling has moved up their wedding due to complications with their wedding venue. They could have postponed it a month. Now the wedding is in the middle of my exam season. How do I cope with this? I know I sound selfish but these exams are very ...
A. 26 March 2016: Eh OP, we are all so good at managing other people's money, aren't we ?
Maybe when you will be organizing your own wedding, you'll jump too with pleasure at the chance of saving a few hundred bucks, even if it's not a fortune- maybe just a litt... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend is pregnant by another man and has asked for my help!
Q. How should I feel? My ex-girlfriend is pregnant by another man and wants me to take her to get a abortion? ...
A. 26 March 2016: You should feel..surprised, I guess. This is a strange thing to ask an ex, and not a particularly tactful one, maybe. How come she has not got ONE relative or female friend to ask the same favour from ?
Well, maybe it's a secret ,she does not ... (read in full...)
I think I'm turning into a bunny boiler! How do I explain things to my ex and move on?
Q. Help - I think I'm turning into a bunny boiler!! How do I reverse this and make people trust me again? Without going into too much details - I was dumped by my ex, blocked and given no explanation. He wouldn't answer my calls or explain what I'd...
A. 26 March 2016: Why is it so hard for you to accept that mistakes do have consequences ? and that some times there is no way to repair them, so you just leave things as they are, learn from the experience and do better next time , end of story ?
You did mism... (read in full...)
I accepted his proposal, but I'm having doubts about marrying him!
Q. Ive been with my fiance for 6 years and last year he proposed to me. Our relationship has its ups and downs. Ive known his positive and negative traits more than anyone he knows. Probably more than his family do. He is quite loving and carin...
A. 26 March 2016: Is this the same unemployed gambler fiance' who just gambled away his parents' money, and had asked to borrow from you to cover up that loss ?! ... ( How did that end up, btw ). Obviously not, then. Not because people is not allowed one mistake in ... (read in full...)
Is sex such a big deal? Do I need to hold out for someone special? How do I know if that special person exists? Did you regret your first time?
Q. I am 16 and yes I know you might be thinking i m too young to be talking about sex. But that's on my mind almost 24/7. Unlike a lot of the people who claim to be otherwise, I'm still a virgin. I never really talk about it to anyone, not really ...
A. 24 March 2016: You don't "need" to hold out for someone special ; it just would feel so much better.
It's like, someone wants to treat you to dinner, and says : Choose, we can either go to McDonald's in 15 minutes , or to a top restaurant in 15 days .
P... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my brother moving up his wedding to take place right in the middle of my exams?
Q. A sibling has moved up their wedding due to complications with their wedding venue. They could have postponed it a month. Now the wedding is in the middle of my exam season. How do I cope with this? I know I sound selfish but these exams are very ...
A. 24 March 2016: Oh you can cope beautifully. You just need to not sweat the small stuff.
I mean, of course the timing of the event is inconvenient , but , after all, it's nothing to lose sleep about.
You are not the bride yourself, you do not have to devot... (read in full...)
Should my youngest brother be allowed to get away with no paying anything to my parents?
Q. Paying parents, i have 4 brothers and we all still live at home. Mum has always worked out how much we should each pay towards living expenses. Mum has always said that however many of us there are we should pay the same percentage of our wages. So ...
A. 24 March 2016: I agree with jls022. The concept of sharing financial responsibilities equally is fine, but it needs to be applied with a pinch of salt, i.e. to all the siblings who, by age and income, are supposed to be economically indipendent ,or almost there ... (read in full...)
Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.
Q. I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...
A. 22 March 2016: No, I do not think he wanted you to give up drinking completely. I think he only wanted you to stop acting up , making a fool of yourself and embarassing him.
Naturally,though, if you are the kind of person who, unluckily, can't handle alco... (read in full...)
Why would a guy come back after turning him down for sex?
Q. I was talking to guy about 6 months ago who made it plain the first time around he only wanted a hook up through his actions. He didn't verbally tell me but his actions indicated that he just wanted to hook up. He brought up sex in our first ...
A. 22 March 2016: He believes in " If you do not succeed at first, try, try again ".... (read in full...)
Can a man be too romantic? That's why my girlfriend broke up with me
Q. Hi,am thirty five,an my girlfriend just broke up with me,after six months,I treated her really good, she said the reason for breaking up with me is, am to romantic,am not a challenge, should I just move on,or try to win her back....
A. 22 March 2016: Yes, a man can be too romantic - as he can be " too " much of anything- and too much is never a good thing. Moderation is the key.
Like, sweets- candies cakes pastries etc. A few pieces of something sugary are tasty and appealing. Too many, with... (read in full...)
When people say they are ''not ready for a relationship'' is that just a line to discourage the other party?
Q. I was seeing a 25 y.o. woman over a month ago. She just lost her mother due to very complicated circumstances so she went through a very hard time. I took the 'not ready for a relationship' line as sincere. I didnt pursue but was open to go on mo...
A. 21 March 2016: It's a line to let down people easy but could be also meant sincerely. Like, they do not feel ready for a relationship , and unluckily you are not the person who will make them chamge their mind and make them reday for a relationship.
Then... (read in full...)
Why did my married man detach so quickly?
Q. Hi I am new and don't even know if I'm in the right forum. I was having an online affair with a MM for a cpl months. He said he was unhappily married and only there for the kids and I could relate because although I am not married I've been with my ...
A. 18 March 2016: I am not revealing any big secret because it's Venus13 herself that wrote this in her answer to another post on this site.
This OP has an intense craving for male attention which leads her to cheat on her partner. She has been diagnosed with... (read in full...)
Good connection but he stopped initiating. Did he suddenly lose interest?
Q. I posted last week but would appreciate some further advice. I don't have much dating experience especially post-school and I think I'm having a hard time. I've been on 6-7 days with a wonderful guy and we have an amazing connection. I thought we ...
A. 18 March 2016: Ah yes, disappearing acts are sort of common in online dating , plenty of people with a short attention span around :). Maybe, like I said before, it's easy even for a person with the best intentions to behave like the child at ToysRUs and feel ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this girl whose nickname is my name?
Q. Hello. I met a girl this year at varsity she uses her nickname as my name. See, my parents gave me this cool name from birth and she liked the name before we met. Its a very rare name and it has many meanings in science. The problem is the girl ...
A. 18 March 2016: I would not make a question of principle in this. Although obviously you do not have to prove her anything, in your place I'd just shove my ID under her nose so that she can shut up forever, case closed. Plus,probably she would feel like a total ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 18 March 2016: But that's because this man's wife is a wuss! She found out.. and there were no consequences. She may have objected , but, at the end of the day, she obviously is not leaving, he is not leaving, they agreed the show must go on, and he knows he ... (read in full...)
Blocked by my ex and his new girlfriend. How do I make things better?
Q. How do I make this situation better? My ex and his new girlfriend fell out with me big time. I tried to talk them round - but they didn't want to know. So I got annoyed and sent them 1 or 2 nasty anonymous text messages - but they guessed it was ...
A. 18 March 2016: Well, if they think you are a bit of a psycho, who could blame them. Nasty anonymous messages ?...Isn't that like stalking ? You are lucky that they just blocked you and did not press harassment charges !
You can get out of limbo the very mome... (read in full...)
Good connection but he stopped initiating. Did he suddenly lose interest?
Q. I posted last week but would appreciate some further advice. I don't have much dating experience especially post-school and I think I'm having a hard time. I've been on 6-7 days with a wonderful guy and we have an amazing connection. I thought we ...
A. 17 March 2016: Ah the joys of Internet dating ! :)
If he is updating his profile, I guess he is still looking around ( which, technically, he is entitled to do )
It seems it is a problem of expectations. Since the dates went well, you had assumed you had seal... (read in full...)
Good connection but he stopped initiating. Did he suddenly lose interest?
Q. I posted last week but would appreciate some further advice. I don't have much dating experience especially post-school and I think I'm having a hard time. I've been on 6-7 days with a wonderful guy and we have an amazing connection. I thought we ...
A. 16 March 2016: Too early to get upset :). You say that you do not need a constant communicator, but .. it's not totally true, if after the first and only day of no communication you are already wringing your hands. Wait and see what happens. You do not know ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 16 March 2016: Isn't it rather self evident why does he do it ? He does it because it's convenient for him and it works well for him. He gets to keep his cake and eat it too, with no effort. He gets to keep his steady loving understanding wife with whom he has a ... (read in full...)
Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.
Q. I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...
A. 15 March 2016: Well, OP, I must say that your ex might also have been an uptight prig with a " my way or the highway " attitude, but you aren't a model of mental flexibility yourself and not too great at seeing things from another perspective than yours....
... (read in full...)
Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.
Q. I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...
A. 14 March 2016: If this is the ex.... let it go. Move on. Asking yourself all the time if he was right or wrong doing X or Y won't bring him back , and won't make him like you more than he does now.
If you are together again... I am afraid it won't last long... (read in full...)
| *indyCares's friends
These are mutual friends, so *indyCares has
added them and they have added *indyCares!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
