To Text or not to Text? Does it work for all or only for some?
Q. Hi All. I was wondering what you think is an acceptable amount to text your partner? See, I was once in a long term relationship with a girl who would always send a text each day with 'Good Morning' and then 'Good Night' later on, as well a...
A. 11 October 2011: Sounds to me like you are still missing your last GF. You much toD o intense. You're coming across as a bit obsessive.
What when wrong in your last relationship?
Cut her some slack, not everyone is the same, you should appreciate that ... (read in full...)
Concern for my cousin.
Q. Concer for my cousin,My cousin was a beautiful and well shapely lady. About two or three years ago her husband caught her and another man in their home. Well, since this incident, she has lost a great deal of weight, her mind is as though she has ...
A. 10 October 2011: You should go and see her. Am sure she's in need of someone to talk to.
Instead of speculation about the spell her husband has put on her, trying reaching out to her. For all you know he could be mentally and physically abusing her because ... (read in full...)
I'm married but struggling with the sexual tension between me and a colleague....
Q. A few months ago I started working at a school as a Teaching Assistant and I have found myself becoming really attracted to one of the Teachers I work with. The problem is Im married with a child, only recently married. When I first started wo...
A. 10 October 2011: You're not alone... I don't think you can help falling for someone, especially if the chemistry is strong.
My advise is for you to look at what you stand to lose, your job,your family, even your integrity.Think how much you could lose. Are you ... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating drives me crazy by calling everyone "honey", "darling" and "baby"!!
Q. this may sound stupid but i cant help it that it is driving me crazy. this girl i am dating for 5 months is really getting to me because she calls people she knows casually things like "baby", "honey", "sweetheart", "love" and "darling"!! i'm ...
A. 22 June 2011: Am on your side! A BF use to call me pumpkin, I throught that was special. They I start hearing him call other woman pumpkin and babes. I throught that was insincere. I don't think you are over the top, some things can irate the hell out of you.
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Am I gay or bi?
Q. I do unusual things like being in nude masturbation I wanna reltionship thinking of man am i gay or bi?...
A. 20 June 2011: Just confused and unfulfilled need to find the right partner... ... (read in full...)
Question about feminie hygiene
Q. well i have a situation. i wash my vagina area everyday more than once and it still smells i am a virgin and everything i just dont know why it doesnt smell good?...
A. 16 June 2011: Sounds like you have thrust. You might be producing an yeast like discharge, which can be itchy and smelly. Nothing to panic about. Just can checked at your Dr's or you try Canestan duo from the pharmacy. Drink plenty of water and eat natural 'liv... (read in full...)
What to wear at a foam party?
Q. Hey. I am going to a foam party soon with a mixed group. I'm 18 and bisexual. What do I wear? Can guys go shirtless? What do the girls normally wear?...
A. 15 June 2011: Wear something that doesn't need to go the cleaners after.
Bring a spare set of clothes to wear after.
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Trying to reach the big "O"
Q. Hey cupid, I've been having a problem reaching orgasm during sex for quite a while now. I've only ever reached orgasm twice during sex and with my current boyfriend I'm finding it pretty stressful because I want to make sure he knows that I'm ...
A. 15 June 2011: Relax and let go!!... (read in full...)
I left my wife for her and now she won't even respond to my calls!
Q. Recently I have been the one having the affair and it lasted 2 and a half years. The person in question is 15 years younger than me. She asked me so many times to leave my partner and child. I was unhappy at home but found it very difficult to leave ...
A. 15 June 2011: The best thing to do is give her some space... It wont be easy but I think now that you have finally left your partner, and everything is out in 'open'. The penny has dropped.
Her family might be telling her that 15 years is a big age differen... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a nightmare. Is this normal?
Q. I Have been going out with my GF for a few years She is Controlling Possessive Paranoid Moody Childish Doesnt let me see my friends Checks my phone Checks my emails Checks my facebook The reason she does all this is because I have...
A. 9 June 2011: Yes, run.... She will do your head in with paranoid behaviour and attitude, don't settle for second best...
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Casual Sex?...cont'd...
Q. Hello everyone. I asked a question on here awhile back about a casual relationship that I was just starting. Unfortunately, I'm just as lost on the subject now as I was in the beginning. A lot of the advice explained how two people are SUPPOSED ...
A. 2 June 2011: I think you're are just confused!
You need to sort your head out as to what you want. You know the answer to this question.
You're just making him look bad.... (read in full...)
Casual Sex?...cont'd...
Q. Hello everyone. I asked a question on here awhile back about a casual relationship that I was just starting. Unfortunately, I'm just as lost on the subject now as I was in the beginning. A lot of the advice explained how two people are SUPPOSED ...
A. 2 June 2011: This guy is a PLAYER! Sounds like he is choosing is 'victim' carefully,and you have fallen in to his trap!!! The 'one night stand' is not the issue here, its the way that he's having you on this emotional roller coaster.
If you want a casual r... (read in full...)
Why do I have bad feelings?
Q. recently i post about my wifes infidelity and I'm still with her but not on so good terms shes said she sorry and is trying to change i guess but the damage is done and i don't feel nothing for her so i went out with some friends and i met this nice ...
A. 1 June 2011: You have some on finish business with your wife to sort out. Its a question of trust and she has betrayed you.
You will not be able to move on until you have sorted out in your head if you still want your wife back.
We all make mistakes, some m... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, now I'm scared that once he's clean he'll find someone else.
Q. im trying to stay away from my ex. im still completely in love with him but he smokes crack. i justy dont want that kind of lifestyle. im stupidly hoping he will quit and we can have our happily ever after. im scared im going to let him go and then ...
A. 20 May 2011: You can't make him stop taking drugs. Crack is highly addictive. People who take drugs are very selfish and loose all sense of reality.
He may love you in his induce drugs state, but once is down from is high he will love the drugs more and go l... (read in full...)
Penis size and sexual satisfaction..
Q. Does penis size matter? Can a woman be satisfied with a small penis? ...
A. 19 May 2011: I'm more turned on by a larger 'cock'. I guess different stroke for different folks.... Thanks very much for sharing your views. ... (read in full...)
Is revenge worthwhile or just a waste of time?
Q. I would like to know what you think about this question.. Is revenge really worth anything, or it is just a waste of time? ...
A. 18 May 2011: There is saying goes'when you are digging a hole,dig two'...
Revenge can be bitter sweet! Getting your own back is not necessarily evil.
Thanks for all your repies... (read in full...)
Is revenge worthwhile or just a waste of time?
Q. I would like to know what you think about this question.. Is revenge really worth anything, or it is just a waste of time? ...
A. 18 May 2011: Well it goes to show revenge can be bitter and sweet. I felt better when I did what I did I have no regrets, in fact I should have more at time - KICK HIM OUT!! In the long run its true, its best to move on. There's an old saying that goes like this ... (read in full...)
Is revenge worthwhile or just a waste of time?
Q. I would like to know what you think about this question.. Is revenge really worth anything, or it is just a waste of time? ...
A. 18 May 2011: When I suspected my partner of cheating on me years ago. I sprinkled itching power over is penis, when he was sleeping. He was itching so much. I asked innocently if sometime was wrong why he was itching so much, it even suggested that that he goes... (read in full...)
Did my married lover ever really love me?
Q. Does my married man really love me? I also involved with a married man for almost over a year. we were ex-coworkers. At the very beginning we are just friends, I have no feelings for him at all. however, I had problem with my own marriage, was th...
A. 17 May 2011: Ghosh! My heart goes out to you. How unhappy you must be.
This was never going to work. I was taking away all your self respect and dignity.
This guy is cheating love rat. He wants to have the best of both work. Sounds like t they both played ... (read in full...)
Does Smiling REALLY matter?
Q. Does "smiling" REALLY matter?? Been "told" I'm "pretty" and have a nice "smile" (hardly ever use it though) but I never believe it. I don't think I'm "pretty" at all. ...
A. 16 May 2011: Smiling is good. People who don't smile much over a period of time their face and mouth starts to droop and look sad. They tend to have a tightness around the mouth. A smile opens up the face and exercise the muscles in your face.
When you're s... (read in full...)
A quick (honest) survey: How often do you and your partner have sex?
Q. This is something I am interested in as this often comes up on Dear Cupid, how often are couples actually having sex? I know personally I feel that my boyfriend and I are not having enough sex, I am 24 and he is nearly 28 yet we have sex once or...
A. 16 May 2011: Depends how good the sex is. When I was active the sex was that exciting my windows use to steam! I would last the whole night sometimes.
After having children, I find I get tired and don't want to stay awake having steamy sex all night, I... (read in full...)
How many friends do you have?
Q. OK I am wondering how many friends--and I mean real friends--can a person honestly have. I am not counting Facebook friends, but real friends. To me a real friend is someone you feel a kinship with, someone you identify with and who identifies w...
A. 13 May 2011: ....A friend in need is a friend indeed... but can a true friend be anyone?
If you find it difficult to trust people its very hard to form find a real friend.
Most people find a true friend is someone they met earlier on in their life. This m... (read in full...)
I miss hearing someone say I'm beautiful
Q. I don't find myself attractive. I think I'm fat and ugly. My ldr bf used to call me beautiful all the time... But now were not together anymore, and I still love him, but am trying to move on. And there's this other boy who lives in another town ...
A. 8 May 2011: Don't worry so much you are still growing. Listen to your family, because they are the most important your life. When we are teenagers we do tend to worry a lot. Be kind to yourself. Important thing is to love yourself first. When love yours... (read in full...)
What does it mean to say someone is "damaged"?
Q. So Aunts, I have a question. I have been hearing this statement a lot in the past few years. "You don't want to date her; she's damaged," or "Because of all his experiences, he's unfortunately damaged." What does it mean to be "damaged"? A...
A. 8 May 2011: Look we all humans! 'He who is without sin let him cause the first stone'. So what if the person is 'damaged', it means that they need more love and affection, because someone one has starve them of it. I you feel for someone and the feelings is ... (read in full...)
I don't get turned on when we have sex
Q. I am 18 years old I lost my virginity when i was 16 (big mistake). I am now in a serious relationship, I really like the guy I am with in fact I love him. When we have sex i find that i do not get turned on. My boyfriend gets turned on but i ...
A. 8 May 2011: Take your time Its not a race! your are not experience enough to exactly what turns you on. It will come, trust me... ... (read in full...)
Should I contact his ex to see if he was violent towards her too?
Q. Hi. I have been in a very volitile relationship for 2 years. We have been living together. When we fight it gets really bad. The rest of the time we are not abusive, though sometimes we both feel like we have to walk on eggshells. He did things ...
A. 8 May 2011: The warnings signs are there... you don't need to contact his previous partners,as the truth is staring you in the face. Physical/mental abusive is unhealthy.
You cant change him, he has to change himself, step back and look at him, and ask your... (read in full...)
Does he still love me or just want me for sex?
Q. I've been friends with this guy for 9 months. We're really close and even dated for a month or so. I guess you can consider us "friends with benefits". He told me that he loved me and he still says "he has love for me" but he doesn't want a ...
A. 4 May 2011: This guy sounds like he had problems with relationship in the past. Someone has let him down, and now he's afraid of commitment.
He may love you as he says, but doubt if you will stick around to find out. Suggest that you talk through his prob... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he's dumped me
Q. 2months pregnant for a married man that played me for the fool i've been. am now 21 and he is 41, he has left his wife for not me but another woman with whom he is clearly in love with. i was there before her and he promise me the moon and stars but ...
A. 1 May 2011: Oh dear! Your emotion is all over the place. You must decide if you're going to keep the baby. Sort things out first with your pregancy. Then thank God you had a lucky escape from this granddad who is a cradle snatcher. Colour has nothing to do ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to contact him?
Q. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/need-your-help-to-get-back-to-being.html Thanks all for the help and answering my quest(the above url). On this context i want to say you I am doing much better and doing my work good.But I still feel an urge to ...
A. 1 May 2011: I now what you are going through... It still hurts. But if you still think you have a chance go for it. Just dont torment yourself doing it. It could backfire on you.... (read in full...)
What does he mean he can't give me what I want?
Q. What does a man mean when he says he can't give you what you want?...
A. 1 May 2011: ??? you need to ask to explain what he means. Then again what do you want?... (read in full...)
Perfect Man... But Not Sexually Attracted To Him! HELP!
Q. Im 22 years old and Ive been dating this guy for around 3 weeks, and he is seriously the sweetest, affectionate, caring man i have ever met in my life. But the problem is im not sexually attracted to him. I do fancy him, i think he is hansom but the ...
A. 1 May 2011: You do need chemistry in a relationship. Give it a go. Maybe you're comparing him to your last relationship. If it dont feel right, keep on walking.... ... (read in full...)
My husband was cheating with my best friend and he left me for her!
Q. My husband was cheating on me with my best friend and I think it is fair to say that I am devastated. I love this man with all my heart. We have been together 7 years and he is now in a relationship with this woman. How can they do this to me? Why ...
A. 1 May 2011: I feel sorry for you. He has betrayed you!! Arrange to meet him with your son. Make sure you look drop dead gorgeous!! Act as if you dont miss him. Start making demands on him to babysit. Try and make your self go out. Even if you're not going ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has become abusive, we constantly fight and I'm always on edge. What can I do to stop this?
Q. Hi all. I am very upset. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a total of almost 3 years now, but lately we have been arguing a lot. The last heated argument we had I ended up crying on the floor while he made sarcastic remarks about ma...
A. 28 April 2011: WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE!!! He is grooming you! He's very insure . Please end this abusive relationship, you're will constantly live on the edge with this guy. I suspect that that he might have underlying mental health problems.
You need to be i... (read in full...)
Messing around with husband friend! I know I'm a bad friend, wife and mother!
Q. I have gotten myself into a huge mess and only keep digging myself deeper and deeper. my husband and i have been married for 6 yrs, we have 5 children (4 still very young) but there is no romance, i guess there has never really been. Here is the d...
A. 28 April 2011: STOP AND THINK!! Would you like another woman to do that to you. What mess!! Step back and suppose her. You stepping on dangerous ground. You will mess a whole lot of life if you continue this 'need to satisfy your sexual craving'. This guy is a ... (read in full...)
How do I move on? I need to get her out of my mind for my kids sake....
Q. I am 40 years old and married with my 35 years old wife for 17 years.we have 4 children and our relationship was not going good.ten months ago my wife had an outburst and she left me leaving our 4 children with me to look after.she said to me she ...
A. 27 April 2011: Its very hard to move on. But moveon you. She will come back
when the guilt kicks in. Thats when you find your self someone, even if you dont love them (might br better if you dont). When she fines out she'll will be back.
You may not even want her... (read in full...)
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