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writes:Guy at work was flirting with me for about 6wks then I asked him out for a drink. He refused stating if he was not married he would, than proceeded to let me know how flattered he was,and lets continue to be friends. So I said I was sorry for putting him in that position. But he has continued to flirt with me and its several months later, he ever seeks me out to flirt with me. confused.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 February 2016):
 Some people just flirt with anything that moves. It's not always to be taken serious. For some it's banter, for others it's getting an ego rub, for fun or even trying to court someone.
In this case? You got a guy who likes to flirt to make HIMSELF feel better.
Stop flirting back. It's that simple. The guy is married so there is NO point in putting a lot of effort into it. He has NOTHING to offer YOU.
He isn't doing it FOR you.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 He loves to flirt, but he has made it clear that he is married, which is a great sign. He was flattered that you asked him out, and the flirting is good for his ego, it probably makes him feel good. Less like a married man. Don't read to much in to this, just remember he has a wife.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 February 2016):
 I am married. I am not dead. I flirt. I wear a wedding band and mention my husband as soon as possible so as to not confuse the person I flirt with that I am flirting for anything other than "fun and games"
NOT ALL FLIRTING is about getting a date or getting laid. Sometimes it's just a more fun way to have social interaction.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (10 February 2016):
 He is flirting because: it boosts his ego, his wife can't bust him and you make it available. Him refusing you on account of being married means that he can't go out for "drinks" on your time but only his, to avoid being busted by his wife. Also, he wanted to gage your response to being married, so the fact that you didn't care, he goes on to flirt.
I'm sure that you would not be happy if your BF or husband was flirting with another woman. Nor is there anything for you to gain out of this flirting other than some passing attention. That attention may feel good for you, but in the long run, it will produce nothing and possibly lot of wasted time with you being the other woman strung up.
You should, basically, find the way to break this routine of him flirting with you. That can include how you respond to it (go cold) whether you contact and speak to him... In other words, do whatever to reduce your interaction with him, if you must interact, down to strictly business. Or if possible, go no contact.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 You may also be confused ....nonetheless he is always a married man.
Put a stop to the confusion by ignoring his attempts to flirt, and if it's not enough, tell him to go flirt with his wife.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 Don't be confused-he just loves the attention and needs the reassurance that he still has what it takes! Be polite, but steer clear.
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