How do I avoid feeling down on the most romantic day of the year?
Q. You probably get this question every year but I couldn't find any previous examples, so here it goes. I'm single and the love of my life left me for someone else. What can I do to avoid feeling down on Valentine's Day? I'd be very grateful for ...
A. 14 February 2011: Thanks a lot to those of you who offered practical advice. I don't have the energy to go out anywhere so I'll stick to games/movies/pizza/escapism and hope that keeps me distracted. @Anon: I'm not a woman! :D Sometimes I wish I was, though.... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my ex's partying ways.
Q. The love of my life (6 years) broke up with me a month ago. Apparently she had been cheating on me with one of her friends, and decided to be with the friend. She had also started ignoring me and cancelling our dates to go to wild parties and bars ...
A. 4 January 2011: I'm surprised! After posting this, I thought I had sounded too patronizing, and I expected responses like "she's young, and it's normal for young people to get drunk often, so get over it". I'm so glad other people see things the same way. (:
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Should I violate the no-contact rule and text back or just totally ignore her?
Q. Hi, I broke up with my girlfriend 2 weeks ago because I caught her in a lie that she totally denied. Her lie hurt me and I lost all trust in her although I still have feelings for her. I told her that I was through and that I have given her many ...
A. 31 December 2010: I get texts from my ex for the holidays too, and there have been similar questions from other people. It's clear that these texts don't mean anything AT ALL. They're courtesy. She probably sent that message to everyone she knows.
Even if the text... (read in full...)
My LDR man has demonstrating his affection for me.
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. We're in a long distance relationship. California and Asia that is. We dated while he studied abroad at my school last spring semester, and talked every day throughout summer. When fall semester started, we could only ...
A. 27 December 2010: I can't tell how much he likes you either, even though it seems that you're putting in more time and money than him. Anyway, there is a way you can find out:
Just ask him to be your boyfriend.
He'll have to either say yes or no; something li... (read in full...)
First Christmas without my ex here and I am about to lose it.. how can I stop this depression?
Q. It's my first Christmas since my boyfriend and I broke up and I am just about to lose it. This has been the worst break-up I have ever had. I have lost myself and feel like I have nothing left and all these holidays are making it so much worse... ...
A. 25 December 2010: I'm another person in the same situation (I guess most non-lonely people wouldn't be posting here on Christmas eve).
Your ex didn't betray you. I know hating them and blaming them is an immediate defense mechanism, but he just didn't. For most "no... (read in full...)
How and if I will stop thinking about him and what we had.
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me seemingly out of the blue. It was strange because half an hour before he broke it off, we were holding hands and being our usual selves. And opportunity to hang out with his friends arose and i felt pushed aside. He ...
A. 18 December 2010: "I feel like someone has died and so has a part of me"
That's pretty much what happened. The old version of him, the one you loved, the one he pretended to be until the very end, is dead now. He was living in your mind all along, and still do... (read in full...)
What kind of things would a desperate person do to break up a relationship short of breaking the law?
Q. In a fictional setting of course, let's say you wanted your ex back so badly that it drove you to act in ways you never would normally. How would you sabotage his/her current relationship so you could have a chance of reuniting? What kind of things ...
A. 16 December 2010: Hehe, I have a friend who did this once. It was the CRAZIEST THING I've ever seen someone do for love. I wouldn't have believed it if I hadn't been there listening to him while he did all these things.
He basically created a fake girl alter eg... (read in full...)
I think my relationship may be nearly over...
Q. Ok. I dont know if its me but i think my girlfriend is kinda very selfish. I'm an artist and I need to keep my skills up in all sections I deal with. When i'm drawing or doing something in general she feels to be all affectionate, shes not like this ...
A. 16 December 2010: Sounds just like my mom. If that's just selfishness, it could easily lead to full-blown narcissism. I know the long term consequences of such behaviour, and my dad does too. Just because she doesn't do anything, doesn't mean she's harmless. The more ... (read in full...)
Do I need to tell any future suitors I have ME?
Q. I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome otherwise known as ME. I would like to meet a partner and settle down. I have recently started on-line dating again, but wonder at what point I should tell dates that I have CFS? The CFS is such that I can just ...
A. 14 December 2010: I know a bit about CFS/ME because a long time acquaintance of mine suffers from it and has written medical literature about it. I don't feel qualified to give you a suggestion of what you should do; I guess you'll know when the time is right an... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want to get back how to convince her gently?
Q. First of all, sorry for the long text. Jump to the [TL;DR] sections if you're in a hurry. ABOUT US We've been together for the best five years of my life. We considered ourselves soulmates and we had agreed to spend our lifes together. We ...
A. 30 November 2010: I just had confirmation that she is actually dating a guy she met a week before leaving me. So, as much as it hurts me, your guess was completely right.
What could have made her suddenly decide that this new guy was worth more than five years an... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want to get back how to convince her gently?
Q. First of all, sorry for the long text. Jump to the [TL;DR] sections if you're in a hurry. ABOUT US We've been together for the best five years of my life. We considered ourselves soulmates and we had agreed to spend our lifes together. We ...
A. 27 November 2010: You're right, it does look hopeless now. Thanks for helping.... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want to get back how to convince her gently?
Q. First of all, sorry for the long text. Jump to the [TL;DR] sections if you're in a hurry. ABOUT US We've been together for the best five years of my life. We considered ourselves soulmates and we had agreed to spend our lifes together. We ...
A. 26 November 2010: I sent her a text to test the waters, mentioning some food we like and playfully telling her not to hate me so much. She told me to never text her again because it was bothering her.
I don't understand how she can be so cold to me! She would ha... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want to get back how to convince her gently?
Q. First of all, sorry for the long text. Jump to the [TL;DR] sections if you're in a hurry. ABOUT US We've been together for the best five years of my life. We considered ourselves soulmates and we had agreed to spend our lifes together. We ...
A. 26 November 2010: Yes, that's the situation. Personally I'd love to have a honest face-to-face conversation about this with her, but she keeps insisting that she doesn't want me to go see her.
I'm pretty sure that we could work it out in person and I don't understa... (read in full...)
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