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writes:I have just separated from my husband because he cheated but still live (separeted for 3 months) toguether because of debt and our 2 year old daughter.I recently been flirting with this guy at work, he is always flirting and is extra nice to me compared to everyone else. After 4 weeks of dancing around each other I decide to kiss him and take things further, when I went to meet him and step forward to kiss him he refused (acted a bit shocked by it) and told me he has a girlfriend. We then shared a very awkward moment and I left. The girl he says is his girlfriend used to temp at my work and I've seen them go for a couple of dates togueter in the past.I am very sure from the flirting that he was interested, I am really confused by his reaction! Does he fancy me or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello everyone,
following from what happened above I now feel really awckward around this guy, he hasnt tried to avoid me since I tried to kiss him, and he is still really polite. But I can't help feeling that we were starting to have a really good friendship until I messed it up by wanting more. I kind of apologised to him and said that it was a moment of madness and I hoped that he would not feel awkward around me, and now I even feel he's been going out of his way to meet me at work by coming to my department with 'queries' which normally he doesnt. He really confuses me! but as we have to work in the same building I would like to stop feeling so awkward around him, although I have tried to play it cool, by talking to him normally and smilling. The funny thing is he is the one who started the flirting, added me to his facebook,then he was supposed to go out with me and some collegues, but when he found out I was married from someone else & he no longer met me up. Then he started dating that girl. On another conversation later I told him that I was actually separating from my husband but it just wasnt common knowledge at the work place. This is when the flirting started again. I feel that he does fancy me, but does not want to take on someone with so much baggage! Which is stupid because he has a daughter too from a previous relationship.
How can I get back to being normal around him?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everybody for your answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your answers.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (14 January 2010):
 I wouldn't say he interested. Some people just like to flirt because it is easy to do with someone who you don't really know. It also is a good feeling to have them flirt back even though nothing would come of it. Don't dwell on this too much, just shrug it off and don't worry about it. At least now you know where he stands.
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reader, Aunt Clemontine +, writes (14 January 2010):
Helo Confused,
I am sorry to hear that your relationship with your husband
has been shattered by his infidelity. You must be feeling very humiliated and rejected right now. It`s no wonder that you are feeling confused. I can see why you thought this guy at work may be interested in you, I think that perhaps he does like you as a friend and coleague and you mistook this for some thing more. You are very vunerable right now but you must give yourself more time to adjust to being a single mum in affect. You have the precious gift of a daughter and when the time is right you will meet the right man also.
Good Luck!
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (14 January 2010):
Just because someone flirts with you, that does mean that they want anything to do with you. Some people are just flirtatious and like the attention, he's one of those people. No, he does not fancy you.
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