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writes:I started to like this guy I know from a university club I am involved in about 2/3 months ago. I had known him for about 6 months before that but never really thought about him in that way, even though when I first met him I thought he was attractive. I first started liking him because he’d keep winding me up as if he was trying to get my attention. Over the next few weeks we were getting on really well, and other people in the club started to notice this and make comments. I don’t know if they were just noticing that I liked him or if he liked me. He would be in touch with me quite a lot by email, he would start off by asking me something relating to the club (we both help to organise things), and then we’d email about more general things. I thought things were going well so I emailed him and asked him if he wanted to go for a drink. I didn’t get a reply until after I saw him the next day, it was a bit awkward for me because I thought he was just ignoring it. When he replied he said he was sorry but he had to study. I was disappointed but tried to just act normal. Then a week later I get an email from him asking me if I want to live with him and some mutual friends next year as they have a spare room. I said yes and now we’ve got a house sorted for next year. The problem is I still really like him. I know he definitely values my friendship, he doesn’t seem to be close to that many people. But I feel like he treats me differently from everyone else which makes me think he might like me. I don’t know what to do now. I don’t want to ruin our friendship because we have to live with each other next year, but I want to be more than friends. He has mentioned that he doesn’t want a girlfriend, but I also think he might be a bit shy. Any help?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (25 January 2010):
 If he is really that shy and you really like him then let him know how you feel. If you don't you may avoid a possible awkward year living with him which would not be as bad as you think or you have to bottle up your feelings and wonder what could have happened. He has interest in you I can't really tell if he would ask you out eventually.
There is no point waiting around for him so I say go for it and tell him how you feel.
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