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*cristina62
writes:I'm On a break with my ex boyfriend. He wanted the break because he couldn't handle a gf and wanted to get back on his feet, which is ok i guess. But Im getting confused he says he wants me and he wants back together again. last Saturday we hung out and tried to keep our hands off of each other for as long but were just soo sexually attracted to each other we couldn't help it. We were on the beach and we were just talkn. Talkn lead to flirtn then flirtn lead to huggn and so on so forth. By the end of the night we were in my car being sexual. We had to leave earlie cause he twisted his body and somehow got a cramp. I drove him back to his house and were friends now not dating so i wasnt expecting a kiss goodnght. But i got one well some. So im confused Of whats he wants and where he wants us to be in a relationship because we deffinitly dont act like friends. So my question is what does his actions mean in "guy" terms? Because I think he still wants to be with me. but im bias and love is blind haha I NEED ALL THE ADVICE I CAN GET!!!
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reader, Vcristina62 +, writes (1 February 2010):
Vcristina62 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx ReturingtheFavor I will take you advice! But I'm worried that it will backfire on me. Because no one likes hearing that there flirtn with other ppl and he may get mad @ first then just say whatever have the guys you flirt with or date :-( and I don't want that to happen. I think I will give him 2-3 monrhs and If he doesn't wanna get back together by that time maybe I should move one :-(
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reader, ReturningtheFavor +, writes (30 January 2010):
Defintely play hard to get!!!! Ive been on both sides of this question, when i did it to the gal i knew that i still loved her and wanted to be with her but needed some freedom, we were ver sexual as well but it worked for us. We have gotten back together and things were never better! Its normal your young you have crazy hormones, play hard to get and get flirty wit other men, he will be beggin you to come back
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reader, Vcristina62 +, writes (28 January 2010):
Vcristina62 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for all your advice, even though it hard to hear and don't want to listen I think it's best to listen this time. Maybe playing hard to get will make him remember what he lost . I'll keep you guys posted! Thanks for all the advice :-)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 January 2010):
So he can continue to use you.
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reader, Vcristina62 +, writes (28 January 2010):
Vcristina62 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell we only dated a little over a month and haven't had sex yet. we've just made-out and had oral and the basic sexual stuff. so were not hookn up. I do see that he could be usen me for the physical stuff but it hard to see when hes bullshitn me. Unfortunately i believe almost everything he says to me. He says he wants to get back together with me and all that. why would he say that if he didnt want to later?
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reader, redsox29 +, writes (28 January 2010):
Yeah, he's using you cause you let him. Sounds like he doesn't want to have to deal with the girlfriend part but wants the physical stuff. You gotta cut him off from hooking up. But you gotta move fast before he starts to just view you as a hook up buddy.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (27 January 2010):
 For me those actions mean booty call. He wants the sexual part without having to worry about cheating or have to keep up any emotional parts. He's just doing what he can get away so if you want to have a little fun with him then stick around but I would not expect any sort of relationship with him.
The physical part is what the typical guy notices first as being gone and I want you to be aware that he might be using you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 January 2010):
In guy terms, this is a really good way of having sex and fun without the complications of a girlfriend. In other words, he's using you for sex, but doesn't want anything else. So either put him on a total ban until he comes back and works hard to get the relationship going again, or move on. Don't let him use you like this.
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