He never defended me, he has used things I told him in confidence, against me! What should I do about this guy?
Q. i have noticed a question on this site that i believe relates to me,well for everyone whom has judged me how about the truth. My xpartner allowed his xwife to call me the most disgusting words and never did he defend me,everything i have told him ...
A. 30 January 2007: Well since he's an EX then you just need to move on with your life and hopefully if you find someone you won't have to waste three years of it before you find out he's another jerk. You have learned something here and you'll take it with you. Don't ... (read in full...)
My dad said no dating until I've moved out of their house - but I have a bf! Do I tell him, as he may become violent.
Q. My concern is about my parents. They are very protective at least my dad about a bf. He says i'm not allowed one until out of the house. I have been going out with this guy for 4 months now and am scared they will see us one time. I want to tell ...
A. 30 January 2007: Sneaking around behind your parent's backs is no way to live. Your parents will be very angry and disappointed when they discover this and rest assured they most likely will. Your best bet would be to talk to your mom about it first, if you act like ... (read in full...)
My parents emotionally blackmail me when I bring up moving out. Now people are calling me a "mommy's boy!"
Q. Hello, need some wide spread opinions here. I'm male, and 23yrs, living with my folks, I have 3 older sisters who have married and moved out. Our folks refuse the concept of moving out of the house, saying why move out and pay rent when you ca...
A. 30 January 2007: I think if you can afford it, you should find a place of your own. You can reassure the folks that you will be visiting often and that they can call you anytime if they need something. But maybe some time away from home is just the ticket for you to ... (read in full...)
My rich parents think it's rude that my unemployed bf doesn't offer to take them out to eat.
Q. My parents were telling me they think my boyfriend should offer to pay for dining out sometimes. They expect him to treat my entire family out. I don't know how to tell him without him thinking how petty my parents are. He is very polite and thanks ...
A. 29 January 2007: I spoke to an asian friend of mine and she has never of this. I think your parents are being unreasonable. But cd206 has a couple good ideas maybe you should try one. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
What can I do about my embarassing gas problem? It's painful and is ruining my social life!
Q. Right I know you'll all probably laugh at this but quite a serious question. Does anyone else feel that hours after they've eaten dinner or through the night/next morning they need to let off a lot of gas? See this is becoming quite a problem for me ...
A. 29 January 2007: All kinds of products and medications for this, talk to your doctor.... (read in full...)
I think I'm being used for sex! But am I expecting too much? What are your thoughts?
Q. Im having a casual relationship with this man i met on the internet and a number of times after having sex he doesn't cuddle me for long and starts to quickly get dress and carry on with something else in his flat.Am i expecting too much in wanting ...
A. 29 January 2007: Irish is correct...Rule of thumb, if you think someone is taking advantage of you, they are. Put a nickel between your knees and see if he sticks around. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Keeping my distance from him has only made my heart grow fonder! What do I do?
Q. I'm 21 and I think I'm in love with this man who is quite a bit older than me, I dont know what to do because when I see him my heart totally goes out to him, but he is married. I talked to some of my friends about it, and one of them keeps telling ...
A. 29 January 2007: My opinion is that you keep your distance whether your heart grows fonder or not. He's married...end of story. Get some hobbies.... (read in full...)
Is the pill free? Is it okay to stop taking it for a while and then start up again?
Q. Do you have to pay for the pill? And is it ok to say, take it for a while, stop for a month and then start taking it again? ...
A. 29 January 2007: Not sure about how free it is in the UK but after stopping then starting up you aren't safe until you have taken continuously for one month.... (read in full...)
Don't know if I love him or if I just really like him..which one is it?
Q. how do i know if im in love? iv known this lad 2 years and iv never met anyone like him we get on so!!! well lol its just he lives about a 3 hour drive away so we cant have a relationship, its just i always think about him and always want to see h...
A. 29 January 2007: You always know when you are in love, you never need to ask.... (read in full...)
He has nasty divorce issues and we argue a lot more. Should we give each other space to clear our heads?
Q. My partner and I have been seeing each other for 12 months. His divorce has become very nasty and his ex wife is making his life hell. He is stressed out and not coping and therefore neither am I. We argue more often than we have been and now he ...
A. 29 January 2007: Well heck fire, he's going through a messy divorce and his live in girlfriend is arguing with him all the time. I'd want to move to my own nice and quiet place too. He needs your support during this trying time, if you can't give then at least let ... (read in full...)
Update on the neck cyst! Doctors were not helpful and told me it was just a fatness of some sort. Antyadvice?
Q. this is an up-date to the cyst problem. i have found out its not a cyst, the doctor said its something to do with muscles, but i dnt know what he means as it does not look like muscles, but some sort of fatness on my one side of the neck. th...
A. 29 January 2007: If the doctor is unconcerned then you should be too. If your family says it's unnoticable then believe them. Put a smile on your face and go have some fun.... (read in full...)
She's married and I slept with her.. I have strong feelings-what do I do now?
Q. I've known this woman for a couple of years and we've always been attracted to each other,but she's married. And i regret to say we have slept together. I still have strong feelings for her, and she for me.What should i do?...
A. 29 January 2007: You know very well what you should do. Leave her totally alone until she gets a divorce. Try to act with some decency.... (read in full...)
He's addicted and our future together looks grim--but I don't want to give up! Any advice?
Q. I recently realized that the kind of future i had for my boyfriend and I is only and ideal. . . and it probably won't be anywhere near it. The problem is that I don't know how to deal with it, I don't want to totally give up on my dreams in order...
A. 29 January 2007: What's he addicted to?... (read in full...)
He wants to take a ski holiday on his own with another female! Should I allow this?
Q. Okay here is my problem my bf is 24 and im 31 he is a teacher. He wants to go on a skiing holiday FOR A WEEK in spring break with a female teacher who is 27 just the two of them to do see if the venue is suitable and it will not cost anything. She ...
A. 29 January 2007: I certainly would not let any boyfriend of mine go on a week long skiing holiday with another female, that's for sure. If he's determined to go, you had better wax those skis and pack your bags too. Skiing is fun so enjoy ski school.... (read in full...)
I can easily spend the day talking to people who aren't there...am I going crazy? What's wrong with me?
Q. Ok this is going to sound completely insane and i'm embarrassed writing this but I'm 22 and I talk to myself! Its like you know when your a kid and you just play little games and you have imaginary friends? Its kinda like that. I dont know if its ...
A. 29 January 2007: You are not crazy and I totally agree with Mel, don't be hesitant to go to a therapist, I guarantee they will put you right at ease. You need to find a way to give your mind a rest. They will be able to help you find the way. Please make an ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has gained weight, but if I say something she'll hate me! How do I tell her?!
Q. My girlfriend is gaining weight and won’t do anything about it. I need help with my communication. How can I help her? I have a wonderful girlfriend whom I’ve been dating now for the past 13 months. Since the day we met she has slowly been gaining ...
A. 26 January 2007: You had best keep your mouth shut about her weight from this point on. She knows how you feel so it's up to her to decide if she wants to drop a few pounds. Be loving and supportive and maybe she will but it will be for her sake not yours that she ... (read in full...)
I slept with my manager but later found out he was married! I'm gutted! Everyone at work is gossiping! Help!
Q. Hi, My problem is I have recently started a new job about two months ago, which was going really well. However at the Christmas party I ended up sleeping with one of the managers. This was made worse by the fact that he is married and is alot old...
A. 26 January 2007: All you can do at this point is start behaving yourself as a class act and weather it out. Eventually the gossip will die down if you don't do anything to fuel it.... (read in full...)
I give good advice, so why are my ratings bad?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I am feeling a bit down at the moment. Why? Because like you I am an agony aunt but unfortunately my ratings have been going down and it makes me feel well (excuse my French)…“sh***y.” I don’t think I give bad advice so I don’t ...
A. 26 January 2007: Check out my ratings, that should cheer you up!... (read in full...)
I have fallen for one of the managers where I work!!
Q. I'm 21 and the guy i like is 31. Him and i get along great. He is a manager in a different departmant in the store that i work at so hes not my manager. Well since i talk to him alot someone had 2 get in the middle of my business and i know who...
A. 26 January 2007: You should wait until he actually does break up with his live in girlfriend. Don't even think about getting involved with him until then.... (read in full...)
Was he trying to play footsies with me? Do you think he likes me?
Q. i kind of have this thing going for my parents friends older son... and i'm pretty sure he likes me too but were both really shy so i'm not positive. They came over for breakfast about a week ago and we were sitting across from each other. He bumped ...
A. 25 January 2007: Definitely likes you!... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're ready for sex?
Q. How do you know if you are ready for sex? Because i want to and i feel like im ready but i have a really big problem with a fear of pain! ...
A. 25 January 2007: If you ask this question then you are not ready. Besides who wants to "have sex"? Whatever happened to romance and love? Making love is a wonderful thing between two people committed to each other. Otherwise it is just meaningless animal sex.... (read in full...)
Mum confronted me about having an EATING DISORDER! I feel so low what shall I do?
Q. Today my mum confronted me, rather acused me, of having an ED (eating disorder) she heard be being sick yesterday. I am weight concious and i suppose to an extent i have an ED. Some days i try not to eat and others i binge then throw up (but i dont ...
A. 23 January 2007: As a mother I have to trust your mother's instinct on this one. Get checked out by your doctor and take his/her recommendation on therapy. Good luck and be grateful you have a mother who care so much, lots of people don't. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Love each other no matter what.... BUT I'm tempted to CHEAT!
Q. I have been with my bf for 9yrs.We have a normal relationship,we love eachother no matter what and definatly want to be together forever. What he dosnt know is that ive been tempted to cheat on him!Im not looking for a new relationship in any way im ...
A. 23 January 2007: No one who TOTALLY loves someone will be tempted to cheat, period. Break up with your boyfriend so he can find true love.... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but I don't know if he's single. What do I do?
Q. Since rodeo season is over i had to find another sport to keep me occupied until the summer... it ended up being hockey. I went to a few games, but since i can't drive (yet :P) i couldn't go to a whole lot. But i went to one last night and saw the ...
A. 23 January 2007: Rhythmandblues2 is right on the mark! Enjoy your crush it won't get any further than that I'm sure.... (read in full...)
During sex, when a guy goes too deep it really hurts. Is this normal?
Q. Does anyone know what if this is normal or not? When i have sex its fine but if they push too hard or especially too deep inside me it really really hurts! i have recently had a full STI/STD screening and everything come back negative....so i dont ...
A. 23 January 2007: Sorry pink fraggle, but the penis never enters the uterus, there is a cervix blocking the way.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom doesn't like me. She makes me feel so unwelcome. What can I do?
Q. my boyfriend and i are very much in love but his mum keeps interferring, she wont even let him come round mine anymore, i know his mum doesnt like me and makes me feel very unwelcomed but my boyfriend is old enough to make his own decisions and she ...
A. 23 January 2007: You don'r say how old your boyfriend is so I can't say whether his mother is being controling or not. I can say that if you were my little girl (and I've had two girls and one boy your age)I'd be telling you if you could see this boy (probably not), ... (read in full...)
He's off to a motor bike rally and doesn't want me with him! Should I be worried?
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if anyone here has heard or been to these biker rallys but this is where my b/f is going and here is what I have to say: I have been together with my b/f for about 2 years. I know you are supposed to trust but i feel its...
A. 23 January 2007: I don't know what you can do about this, he doesn't want you to go. He's going to go so you'll just have to trust him. ... (read in full...)
When I say no to anal sex, he gets in a bad mood! I don't want us to break up over this...help!
Q. I've been dating this guy for three weeks now, he's 19 and I'm only 16 so when it comes to sex i already feel as though i don't know enough and it makes me feel inferior. We have a very sexually active relationship, we can't seem to keep our hands ...
A. 23 January 2007: Let me get this straight...he's 19...you're 16...you've been together three weeks...you are very sexually active...he wants anal sex...I am so glad this sort of thing didn't go on when I was sixteen, youth is truly wasted on the young! ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends gets me NOTHING for Christmas, Birthday, Valentines.. NEVER!
Q. SHOULD I BE UPSET WHEN MY KIDS FATHER (MY BOYFRIEND)DOESN'T GET ME ANYTHING FOR CHRISTMAS, MOTHERS DAY,VALENTINE DAY..BUT HE GET HIS MOM THINGS...
A. 23 January 2007: I'll tell you my secret training device...when my husband would forget a birthday, anniversary, etc...I'd buy MYSELF something, something expensive, of course this only works if you share finances but it sure worked for me!... (read in full...)
My wife has told me she has had enough and refuses to communicate with me. What should I do?
Q. I am a young 86 year old in second marriage with splendid Christian service to a lady 14 years younger who has been splendid. I had a blood clot heart attack in March 2005 and have been looked after wonderfully. Also as a war disabled veteran extra ...
A. 22 January 2007: Is it possible that your wife's health has affected her mentally? A mild stroke can cause disorientation and maybe she is confused and a little frightened. I would speak with her doctor and see if this is a possibility. In the meantime I know how ... (read in full...)
I want him to show me affection and not just during sex. I don't know what to do.
Q. hey. my boyfriend doesn't know how to show love or affection. he can't cuddle me or kiss me unless there is another reason. the only time i ever feel this real love and affection is when we are having sex. i know he isn't just with me for t...
A. 19 January 2007: I agree with Ponungalungb, there really doesn't look like the future's very bright here. Don't waste anymore time here. Time to move on. You'll find the right guy I'm positive.... (read in full...)
His wife doesn't seem done with their marriage. I feel guilty for being w/ him and don't know what to do!
Q. I met my boyfriend at work, he is a customer. We got along famously like old friends. I learn that he is seperated but I let the friendship continue even though I know I am attracted to him. I even gave him my phone number when he asked after about ...
A. 19 January 2007: This all sounds pretty weird to me. A 5 year separation? Knowing this I wouldn't have moved in with the guy. I'd tell him to piss or get off the pot. 5 years...sheesh!... (read in full...)
During pregnancy, when should a full figure woman expect to feel her baby?
Q. Hi, i am 17 weeks pregnant but i am a size 18 in clothes and i dont think i have started to show yet and i dont know when i am suppose to feel the baby coz i am a quite fuller figure woman....
A. 19 January 2007: I don't see why being full figure should influence when you feel the baby move for the first time. Usually you begin to feel a little flutter sometime in the 4 month. If you lay on your stomach you can feel it better. First-time moms sometimes ... (read in full...)
More than anything, I want a baby! How can I persuade my bf to give me one?
Q. Right before i even say this i know your going to start going on about how young i am and how i should live my life but i dont want that i want advice, NOT a lecture thanks xxx I want a baby, I've thought about it alot and have decided that i w...
A. 18 January 2007: Her parent? Heckfire I feel sorry for that poor innocent baby she is so determined to have. Who would want a selfish teenager for a mother?... (read in full...)
Found out the 36 year old I'm dating is married... he wants me to be his "other lady"... advice so far is mixed!?
Q. Hi, i need some help. I am 21 and this guy i am attracted to is 36yrs.Dont think he is taking advantage before him i have always dated older men.Recently i found out he is married and he admitted.I was very upset but we are still communic...
A. 18 January 2007: I'll tell you what I tell all the women who post here who are thinking about starting up an affair with a married man. You will have nothing but heartache, sloppy seconds, cold burnt dinners alone, excuses, shame, and guilt. And when you are old and ... (read in full...)
I planned to meet an online guy friend. Then he cancelled b/c I'm married! What happened?
Q. Having trouble getting over someone I never met!HELP? Yes, I am married! I met someone online 6 months ago. We talked about everything under the sun. WE became great friends. We looked forward to chatting w/each other daily. Even though I was marr...
A. 18 January 2007: Can't say why he did this but I'm glad he did and you should be glad too. Now you can stop this online nonsense and start looking after you husband and children. Close call.... (read in full...)
My head has been turned by a colleague, now I no longer love my wife. Help!
Q. To be honest you may have been asked this very question a million times and it must be the hardest to answer! Its is a matter of a married person who thought he was in love with his wife only to find a true love without looking. Ok here goes. I...
A. 18 January 2007: Geez Louise man, what a mess. You need to leave that home wrecker alone and I mean drop her like a hot potato and concentrate on your family. You and your wife decided on this new pregnancy so you owe it to her to be there for her during this trying ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I have a home anymore. Anyone else ever felt like this? How'd you cope?
Q. After a brief period of time, i ddnt feel at home anymore with my parents, i went to visit a friend 600 miles away and loved it, so i moved down a few months after..my dad was ok with it my mum hit the roof..but their both fine with it now, tho me ...
A. 18 January 2007: I think everyone has that "homeless" feeling when they are in a transitional phase of their life. You feel like a visitor at your parent's home and your new place is unfamiliar so it doesn't feel quite right either. Once you get comfortable with ... (read in full...)
He friends with a 27 year old woman from work. Are they friends or is there more to this?
Q. my husband has developed a friendship with a 27 year old woman - i have a feeling that she may be attracted to him and he is either naive, in denial and truly feels just innocent friendship or realizes she is attracted to him and feels the same way. ...
A. 18 January 2007: These mid-life crisis's of men can be so tiresome. If it could have only ended with the Vette purchase! He is either in denial about this other woman or he is trying to placate you while he can enjoy her attentions. She probably just sees him as a ... (read in full...)
Will he ever be ready to marry me?
Q. I've been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for over 5 years now, and whenever I try to talk about whether or not our relationship is going to go to the next level, he says he's not ready to think about it. He says he can't imagine our ...
A. 18 January 2007: If your relationship is working just fine, then what's your rush? If it ain't broke don't fix it.... (read in full...)
Married gals! Would you be upset if your husband had a habit of winking at other women?
Q. this is a question for married women- would you be bothered about your husband as a habit of winking at another woman (just one in particular)?...
A. 18 January 2007: I'd tell him to knock it off, and that it makes him look stupid and makes you uncomfortable. I think winking is so infantile.... (read in full...)
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