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writes:Ok this is going to sound completely insane and i'm embarrassed writing this but I'm 22 and I talk to myself! Its like you know when your a kid and you just play little games and you have imaginary friends? Its kinda like that. I dont know if its that i dont have many friends in real life or what but I can easily spend the whole day just playing little games and talking to people who arent there. I know that they're not real and its not like i can see people or hear them speaking back or anything but i'm worried about this cos i cant stop. ive been doing it since i was 14. in fact as long as i can remember i always had a really strong imagination and would day dream about things and conversations with people but since i was 14 i've started almost acting these daydreams out. It must mean that somethings missing in my life and i'm not happy so i find it easier to just live in my fantasy and imagination but how could that ever be healthy? Its always the same people i "daydream" about and pretend are there. i invented them all and they all have their own names and personalities but its all in my head. my whole life is passing me by and i dont know how to stop it. i'm so scared because i'm obviously not very mentally healthy and i'm scared of what will happen in the future for me mentally. i should probably note that my mum has a history of mental illness. My uncle was murdered (actually around the same time i started doing this) and my mum had a nervous breakdown and was in hospital for months, she even had electric shock treatment to help "bring her back". I'm scared I'm going crazy and that i'll never be able to stop living like this. Its taking over my entire life and i just want a normal life and to be happy but i could never tell a doctor or therapist any of this because i would be completely humiliated admitting it. Its mentally exhausting me. please help xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 January 2007):
 You are not crazy and I totally agree with Mel, don't be hesitant to go to a therapist, I guarantee they will put you right at ease. You need to find a way to give your mind a rest. They will be able to help you find the way. Please make an appointment today. Good luck, dear.
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reader, dummyduckling +, writes (29 January 2007):
 Hey... i talk to my self all the time, at school at work, its just the wya the mind works, its a very good way for your mind to varify what its being told or just for a convo if ur feeling alone!!! ur deffinatly not going crazy, sure its going to exaust your brain but still, your brain is your best frind and you talking to yourself is its way of talking to you, and it also helps you work out problems, its a normal thing so dont worry, hope that helpd hun xx xx xx all the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): BTW, if you want to possibly have a go on MSN, just private message me and I'll add you. Might as well. 8]
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): Medical advice is a great idea just to make sure. However to add perspective, I talk to myself a lot. In fact, I treat myself as a second person, sometimes having conversations like this:
Me1: This design looks off.
Me2: It does. The colouring and the shape doesn't flow.
Me1&2: Hmmm...
Me1: What should I do?
Me2: I think maybe it's better if it's done like this...
Etc, or I would spend a good 15 to 20 minutes in the shower sometimes having a chat with myself about women and philosophy. Even debate with myself.
Mind you whatever you have is no where as 'bad' as one of my friends. He had a dozen cut out cardboard all with smiley faces on each of them. Then he set them around him while he did his Commerce homework, and occasionally talked with them:
Al: Do you hear that? It's the sound of my pencil scratching my damn it to hell homework! [stares at smiley] Why aren't you answering back?!?! Should I threaten to light you on fire! FIRE!
Stuff like that. It's disturbing really, but fascinating at the same time. 8]
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reader, melschatbox +, writes (29 January 2007):
 Okay, from time to time we all talk to ourselves. I talk to my dogs. I am totally aware they don't understand me. I am not waiting for anyone other than me to respond, but yes I occasionally do this too. But, where you've made me very concerned for you is this phrase you wrote:
[Its taking over my entire life and i just want a normal life and to be happy but i could never tell a doctor or therapist any of this because i would be completely humiliated admitting it. Its mentally exhausting me.]
First of all, you're acting very sanely by realizing that you do have some issues going on and that you need to address them. That's a great start. But, you need to divulge these feelings to a skilled mental health doctor. They are there to help you and have earned the credentials to give you medical advice. My non medical opinion is that you have created these other personalities and imaginary friends if you will because they help you handle the emotional pain you're in. You sound like you've had a tough life and maybe some hard breaks and you've relied on these "beings" to talk to about what you were feeling because no one else was listening. Well, you've had enough years of suffereing and it's time to start living and enjoying life!!
I wholeheartedly advise you to seek some medical advice. If only, just to say "hey, when this happens..you should do a, b, or c"....BTW, I'm sure there is a number in for your local mental health facility that would keep your call confidential and help guide you in the right direction.
Good Luck....AND do keep us posted!!
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