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writes:I've been dating this guy for three weeks now, he's 19 and I'm only 16 so when it comes to sex i already feel as though i don't know enough and it makes me feel inferior. We have a very sexually active relationship, we can't seem to keep our hands off each other when we're together. but my boyfriend wants to experiment with stuff especially anal but i didn't feel comfortable about having it and whenever he suggests it i always say no and he gets in a mood with me. i don't want to break up with him over the fact that i didn't want to have anal. what should i tell him?
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (23 January 2007):
 Hi,
Its unbelievable that you are having sex after three weeks, let alone the other thing he has asked you to do.
What a PR**. Him not you.
You need to get some respect for yourself, before you start to regret meeting him, and ditch this loser. I can honestly say im shocked.
I can understand that you are very young,and having a boyfriend is of the utmost importance to you, but for good-ness sake you must see that its not right surely. He must be very imature, as I think most men would approach this subject very cautiously, and after they had been seeing a girl for a while. Not 3 weeks.
Hope you dump him babe xx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (23 January 2007):
 Let me get this straight...he's 19...you're 16...you've been together three weeks...you are very sexually active...he wants anal sex...I am so glad this sort of thing didn't go on when I was sixteen, youth is truly wasted on the young!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): I suspect your boyfriend probably wants you as a sex object rather than having any mutual respect or love for you. You, like a lot of girls your age are confusing sex with love. Stop having sex with him, you'll soon see why he wants to be with you.
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reader, Nikita +, writes (23 January 2007):
 Hi there, well my reply is going to reflect what the others said because he certainly sounds as if he doesnt respect you or your feelings and you seem to be just a plaything for him. You're only sixteen and just learning about sex and he's not a good teacher. he's ruining it for you. Sex should be loving and pleasurable and an act of mutual respect. He is showing you none of these things. You have a perfect right to say no to anything you want and I dont like the sound of these bad moods of his. I would suggest that you end it now before he gets worse. You deserve someone who will respect you honey and there are much better men out there then him. Good luckx
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reader, cd206 +, writes (23 January 2007):
 Goodness what a child he is! I've always found a good way to get out of this one is to say ok, we can do this, if you'll let me stick a huge dildo up your ass first. But seriously this guy sounds like a loser. Be careful
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): Walk away now! Gets in a mood because you say no - TOUGH! You have every right to say no to anything and he should respect that and not go in a mood! If he does that after such a short time what will be he like later one??? Get rid!
Take care
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (23 January 2007):
 In most U.S. states, a 19 year old having sex with a 16 year old is statutory rape. It sounds like he wants to use you as his personal sex toy. Lose this creep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): Sorry, but yes, you DO want to break up with him when he "gets in a mood if you don't want anal sex." This shows he's immature and wants what he wants, regardless of your feelings.
You've only been going out three weeks. What on earth made you jump into sex so quickly? This is what happens when lust takes over, before you have had an opportunity to get to know one another.
Let this boy go!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): Does not understand that "no means no", hun. And you need to understand that his 'mood' he gets into when you turn him down, is his problem, not yours. And why are you afraid to lose a guy who plainly is not respecting you? His response is a red flag telling you the real truth about who he 'really' is. Sex with the bf, is not just about 'all' him. It's an equally, mutual time of pleasuring each other. He should be just as concerned for your feelings and a good, decent guy will put your feelings about this, above his own. Especially if you are experiencing some fearfulness over trying this. Anal sex is not for everyone and not everyone wants to do it. I'd say in light of how he reacts to the word 'no', you may be better off using your head here, by reassessing and questioning if he does really care about you? Reacting badly to you saying NO should tell you, that he needs to grow up and get his hurt ego in check and realize this type of pettiness has no part in a relationship with a loved one. Be strong dear and good luck.
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