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writes: Hi,My problem is I have recently started a new job about two months ago, which was going really well. However at the Christmas party I ended up sleeping with one of the managers. This was made worse by the fact that he is married and is alot older than me. We carried on seeing each other until yesterday when he phoned me to say that we could not see each other any more due to his family. I am totally gutted, especially having only just moved to this area and not knowing anyone else here apart from my work colleagues. Everyone at work knows what has been happening and everyone is gossiping.Although I know that it is the right thing to have happened with us splitting up, I am totally gutted and do not know how to face anyone at work etc. I really do not know what to do. Can anyone give me some advice please.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (27 January 2007):
 Sweetie, in my opinion you have done nothing wrong. Go back into work and hold your head high. The gossip mongers will soon move onto another topic if you show absolutley no interest in their bitching and gossiping. I can assure you of that. Don't feel judged and don't blame yourself. We all make errors of judgement occasionally and we all mess up. Be brave and brazen it out. The gossip will pass. It will be some other poor person's turn next time.
Good luck.
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reader, kenny +, writes (26 January 2007):
 In any work environment no matter where you are you are always going to get gossips. After a while the gossip will die down.
However i think you are going to find it quite difficult having to see this manager guy day in and day out, knowing what happened between the two of you. Even though i think he was in the wrong going with you while being married, he has lead you up the garden path, had his wicked way, and has now ditched you.
I say ditch this job and find another one!!.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): No job is so amazing you can't get another one... it's best for him and more importantly, it's best for you!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 January 2007):
 All you can do at this point is start behaving yourself as a class act and weather it out. Eventually the gossip will die down if you don't do anything to fuel it.
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