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writes:hi guys.. i've got a problem because im 22 and single but i always seem to attract guys who are way older than me. like an example of this was on the weekend i went to a firends wedding party and there were these two guys who were chattin me up, but they were in their mid 30's and married. this is getting me down because i don't want to start a relationship with a married guy but i do think after being single for about 10 months now i would like to find a guy who i like. the other thing that bothers me is that i don't actually look 22, people always say i look much younger, so are these guys just pervs? how can i attract guys my own age cz its really making me depressed and i don't want to break up someone else's relationship by going out wih a married guy??
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (4 May 2007):
Take it from a guy who is 28. I personally won't date someone who is more than a 3 years younger than me at this time. I don't think most young women under the age of 25 are emotionally mature enough to handle someone as strange as me.
So if these guys are in their 30s, trying to pick up an early 20-something something at a wedding, and they're married - they are class A jerk offs looking for a little bit of nookie on the side.
This isn't negotiable. That's just what they are.
As for your being single. Don't rush things. Being single is fine. It is even natural. If what you want is a loving, committed, and caring relationship, chances are you aren't going to find someone your age that either won't cheat on you, or whom you won't cheat on eventually.
My recommendation is that you focus on learning how to be friends with men. I mean real friends, with deep bonds and no sex. Expand on your friendships with women, and really put together a life in which you aren't lonely. Once you have that nailed down, the next time you fall in love, it won't feel all that desperate and hopeless. Love is about hope and being in love is supposed to make you feel optimistic.
Good luck with that.... I'm still looking myself, and I'm thinking maybe even 25 year old women are still too immature.
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reader, tyap  +, writes (4 May 2007):
well just find a nice guy and ask him to lunch or a movie or somthing and mabye somthing withh start, your making this much more of an issue than it has to be
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (4 May 2007):
 You are definitely right to stay away from the married guys. I think you will just have to do what all young single girls have to do, weed out the losers and keep plugging along until you stumble on your prince. You gotta kiss a lot of frogs etc....Good luck and don't give up until you find him.
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