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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): hey am a virgin and am 19 a been really scared to have sex with my boyfriend who i have been with for a little over 3 years now... and i love to play with myself and love when he plays with me but when it comes down to him having sex with me i get scarred.... what should i do?!?!? and do i bleed when it first goes in?
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reader, kat14  +, writes (7 May 2007):
 No if your not sure deffinatly no. It will be better for both of you when you are ready. I knw its illegal at your age but personally i wouldnt think of it as legal/ illegal i'd think about when your ready.
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reader, TRUST +, writes (6 May 2007):
no no no
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 May 2007):
 You're a virgin at 14? As well you should be! Everyone should be a virgin at 14. Tell your boyfriend that you are not ready and if he doesn't like it show the loser the door. Value yourself because if you don't no one else will either.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 May 2007):
 This is NOT a good idea. Listen to your inner voice. It's telling you NO NO NO!!!! Like you rightly said you're NOT of the age to be engaging in sexual intercourse just now. Leave it until you know for sure. If you don't I guarantee you'll regret it!
Your body is still developing and you're not nearly emotionally mature enough to deal with sex. Trust me on this one, give it a miss. If he really cares for you then he'll respect your wishes to wait until you ARE at least the age of consent.
Eve
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reader, in my opinion +, writes (6 May 2007):
 if you are unsure then dont do it. you need to be 100% sure that your ok with what will happen. have a talk with him and tell him your concerns. and if he is truely a great boyfriend he will be happy to wait until your ready.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (6 May 2007):
 If your are having doubts about this then dont do it. You have to be sure this is what you want to do. Even tho a part of you wants to it is clear that you are still anxious about it. Dont you want it to be something that you enjoy?
Your still young and having sex at this age can not be reccomended by anyone. Wait a while and see how things develop, you need to be comfortable with it and at the moment you are not; so dont feel rushed into anything.
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