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writes:My husband and I have been married for 24 years. We areseparated but we still see each other and are still having sex. Is this ok? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): That depends. Are one of you having sex with their own 'agendas' in mind? Perhaps a reconciliation? Or is this just a case of physical need? Are you both are just satisfying the occasional urge? And if so, are the emotions taken out of this completely. If both of you are happy with that arrangement, then no one can tell you not to do it, hun. But, if just one of you wants to take responsibility for your own life and your own happiness then it may be a good idea to stop doing this. If you, yourself want a truely happy, healthy relationship and feel you deserve that, having sex with the husband, may not create an opening for a new partner, to come into your life. I mean.. here you are, no longer committed, no longer responsible to each other, but you are still having sex. Is this what you both really want? If not, ask your husband, does he want a full relationship with you again, with all the perks of commitment, love and responsibility? Would if hubby finds another woman along the way and stops all these 'visits'..can you emotionally accept that and carry on? . If one of you is using sex as a ' last hope' that there might be a reconciliation..they take a huge risk. There sould be some further emotional pain, in the future for one of you. Just some things to think about
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 May 2007):
 I guess you are certainly old enough to decide whether it's OK or not. If you want to live separately but still have a sexual relationship then go for it. What's the problem?
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