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female
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30-35,
*ust a Girl...
writes:Is this emotional abuse?? hey, im 16 and in a relaionship with a 25 year old guy. but thats not the problem. We've had our fair share of problems, especially with other people trying to get in the way. A lot of his friends don't think I'm anything special and that he's had better (and he feels the need to tell me) and theres been a lot of problems with other girls. I'm sick of all the drama but everytime i suggest a break or splitting up hes flips, cries and tells me hes going to end it all because i don't want him n im everything he has. He scares me because he knows i then feel guilty n he threatens to end it all, because of me. Please help, do i run or do i stay???? xxxx
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (8 May 2007):
 Yes, this is emotional abuse and you should get out of the relationship. My ex husband used to use a similar tactic. Whenever he wanted to control me he would threaten to divorce me. He would tell me how horrible I was and that he didnt want me anymore. Finally I got sick of it and *I* filed for divorce! Good riddance! He is using this threat to control you out of fear of what would happen if you left. Although I seriously doubt he would harm himself, if he did it would not be your fault at all. What he does or doesnt do when you leave him is up to him, not up to you.
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reader, mona-lisa-cries +, writes (8 May 2007):
 if he cared about you at all he would do anything to make you happy, thats what love is. He obviously isnt making you happy at all so it makes me come to the conclution that he doesnt acctually love you but is more in love with the relationship, thats not your falt, thats his. You sound like an amazing girl and you deserve much better!
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reader, heartxbrokenxgurl +, writes (8 May 2007):
 RUN cuz he is making you stay with him and you need to go find another guy that will not do that to you and you deserve someone better then him
good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 May 2007):
 Run. He's not going to "end it all", it's a ploy. This is emotional blackmail. Don't buy it go find a guy that doesn't need to use such cheap tricks to keep you.
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