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*oemtzel
writes:im separated for 6yrs. and my bf is separated for 10 yrs. we planned to live together but i dont know how to tell my conservative parents bout this coz we are not annuled.please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, cuttieicy +, writes (5 June 2007):
 fight for your love i know here in the Philippines you need big bucks in order for the separation.Unless legal option you both go to the states be an american citizen file a divorce.sight thats why iam so afraid to get married here.
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reader, joemtzel +, writes (5 June 2007):
joemtzel is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for answering me..we are not annuled coz the main problem is that we cant afford it financially..i am hoping for those who have a problem like me that we could come up a law that states that after a year or 2 with no support & communication from our exes will automatically be legally over coz a lot of couples are facing the immoral situation due to financial aspect..hope one coul think of way to stop this problem..thank you & godbless..
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reader, nologo  +, writes (4 June 2007):
 The question here is why you are not annuled.
If the reason is serious,you start from this.
You can persuade people if you base your statements on facts.
However, if the reason is not serious enough, you wait a bit.
Make sure your parents learn him better to change their mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): Why are you not annulled or divorced, hun? You both are still legally married to other people here! Married is married, in my opinion at least. Why no finality, why no end to these marriages on the part of both of you? Getting it over and done with, would be the most loving, decent, respectful thing you can do for each other. Your parents may be conservative but marriage is probably a very important, sacred symbol of unification to them and it should be for all of us. Have they been married for many years? If so, they understand the important meaningfulness of marriage. So now, you want to tell them that you and this guy want to live together, while still married to other people. Of course, they will be upset..this is a respect issue and they may feel that you deserve a man who is willing to end his marriage for you so he can build a future with you, with no baggage and a sour marriage, hanging over his head Don't you feel you deserve that?. And don't you feel he deserves that same respect. Get your divorces, annulments, first and then start life together on a new fresh footing. What an awesome feeling that woulod be that both of you are free to fully commit to each other..no baggage! File and get some closure on your past relationships, first. That is the only way.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (4 June 2007):
 You are old enough to do whatever you please. Just be upfront and honest and tell them. Why haven't you had your marriage annulled or have gotten a divorce after 6 years?
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