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writes:Right this is a long one so i need to find a place to start. Well im 15. Have been with my 17 year old boyfriend for 5 months. i was moving my room around with my mum nd she found a condom wrapper. She at first was pretty ok about it, but then she suddenly flipped and said i cant see him anymore and things. Then she said i can only see him for a little while and were not allowed to ever be alone together and im not allowed to his house. This has upset me so much as i love him to pieces (please can no1 say im only 15 and dont know what it is etc.). I also love going to his house and staying over. This means we wont be able to watch films together or anything. Is she being unreasonable? or is she right?im so upset, i feel like cry all the time, i feel sick and ill. And now my boyfriend is too scared to come to my house incase my mum has a go at him. Please no1 preach at me but i dont know what to do. Help please. x-o-x
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reader, spirited  +, writes (14 June 2007):
She is right, but about you... if you are not open to advice or "preaching", then don't ask for it.
She's right, and you know it. And if he cares, he'll come to your house, even if he's scared.
Good luck.
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reader, Sevenlova  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 When you live at home it is only right that you humble your parents decisions,whether u agree or not they pay the bills if it that hard on you have sex somewhere else
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 May 2007):
 Your mom is right as rain. I would never allow my daughters to have a guy in their rooms...ever. I would never allow them to "stay over" at a boyfriend's house either. And visa versa for my son. My house my rules. And can you imagine this...all three turned out just fine. Listen to your mom she is way wiser than you think.
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reader, love-him +, writes (31 May 2007):
 hia chick even though i hate saying it, she is right.. i know this might not mean anything but atm i am 16, when i was 15 my mum walked in on me and my boyf (19 at the time) she flipped and grounded me for 2 weeks but now we have been together for 11 months and she has learned to like him.. id suggest you give your mum some time..let her cool down about it.. you never know what could happen in the future.. you say you love him.. you will be together for ever you have your whole life ahead of you..your mum will come round and once you are legal she cant realy say that much apart from she does in fact have the right to say not in my house which is what my mum said.. apart from i have the implant so she wouldnt know anyway.. hope i helped chick x x x mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (31 May 2007):
 She being very reasonable. She protecting you from the dangers that sex can bring I.E pregnacy.
Also he is 17 and your 15 this is illegal he can be arrested and put on the sex offenders register.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): your mom is being correct. your only 15 and is still very young compare to a 17 year old. in conclusion your mom is very correct in many ways!!!!!!
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reader, candy00s +, writes (31 May 2007):
 I can see where she is coming from, but i think she should be pleased at least if you are having a sexual relationship with your boyfriend she can see that you are being careful and taking precautions.
Of course she is going to be shocked - you are growing up.
Try talking to her, tell her that you love your boyfriend and want to spend time with him, tell her you are being careful.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (30 May 2007):
 I remember how you are feeling, been there myself (not that long ago) and at your age i know you don't want people preaching to you so the only thing i can suggest to you is that you speak to your mother and try to come to some sort of aggreement about you seeing each other when there are other adults about, i know this probably does not sound the best thing for you but it will earn her trust in you and your boyfriend and you will probably find you end up getting a bit more freedom in time, and there is no harm in waiting. xx
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reader, DV1 +, writes (30 May 2007):
 She's being more than reasonable. You're too young to be having sex, especially under her roof. What if you get pregnant?
DV1
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reader, crazyclemens2005 +, writes (30 May 2007):
 ok i am also 15 and me and by bf are having sex as well she is being a little harsh but i do know what you are going through because my dad found out i as having sex as well... shes being harsh but you also have to see it from her point of view that her 15 year old daughter is having sex it a big scare for parent and it doesnt help that teens are getting pregnant a lot now days. just give it some time and im sure things will seem better and i know that it may be a long time but im sure things will work outgood luck
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