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anonymous
writes:How do I deal with a two way love affair? I love both of them but both of them have their bad points. And one of them i have a child by. I don't know which one to talk to.
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reader, joemtzel  +, writes (6 June 2007):
 hi as early as this you have to make a decision for your own good..in a relationship TRUST plays an important role..if 1 finds out that youre a cheater, who would trust & love you if your credibility is crushed? be faithful & be a trustworthy so you will not experience what youre doing..theres a saying, dont do to others the things you dont want others do to you...okey? godbless
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reader, joemtzel +, writes (6 June 2007):
having 2 men in yourlife is no good..trust me.. my bf has 2 girlfriends, me & younger than me..as i found out..i was so hurt that i cant erased my doubts to him anymore & my trust to him was crushed..you see, TRUST plays an important role in a relationship..if youre not trustworthy..then your credibility will be questionable & who else will like you or love you with that reputation??? so think friend.. be faithful...godbless
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 June 2007):
 What are you asking? Which one to talk to??????
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007): Do they know about each other? If they dont your really cruel. You should be honest with the pair of them and yourself before you dig yourself into a deep hole. Do you want your son to grow up thinking its ok to break peoples hearts and play them? or do you want him to be happy and settle down with someone that he loves? You are obviously not happy with the pair of them or have been that happy that now you don't know whats bad anymore and are starting to pick out faults with them. Look at yourself and realise how irresponsible you are being. Set a good example to your son and think about who you want. Just be lucky if you do manage to hold on to one of them, because the truth always has its ways of getting out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007): Sweatheart no wonder your all confussed, how on earth do you cope with two men when alot of us girls have a hard enough time with just one, You have to make a decition for your little ones sake it will be very confussing as time goes on, Now you say they both have ther bad points. HOW BAD!!!!! not violent i hope.... You really need to sit down and write all the good stuff on oneside and all the bad stuff on the other about them both and be truthfull with yourself dont let love blind you, As you say you love them but you dont mention how either of them feel about you!...or if they no about each other. and one of them is the father of your child so he will always be a part of your life somewere along the line.... But it would be easier to no how to advice you a little more if you explained these bad points that always worrys me it could be something easy to sort out, but if its to do with any sort of violents toward you or your child my answer could be very different love, you take care hope this helped write me if you want to unload ok xxxx
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reader, Straight Up  +, writes (5 June 2007):
 i'll be honest with you it's not impossible to deal with 2 love affair but it is very stressful. i don't think you should deal with 2 affair it's not fair on the partners. think of it like this would you like it if they were having affairs i believe you should treat people the way you would like to be treated.
goodluck with your decision
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reader, nologo  +, writes (5 June 2007):
 You are asking here how to untie a knot.
I guess that you initiated both affairs.
As to the "bad points": all people have bad and good points.
Now you should rather think about the situation you are in.
"one of them i have a child by" - this is your Commitment.
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