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writes: I am afraid of commiting myself to my partner because i fear that i may not be able to remain faithful to her for the entire life. Also i feel i will lose my freedom to look at and appreciate other beautiful women around. Are these fears genuine? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): Hi hun
Of course it's natural to have worries about commitment. It's happened to most people. These sort of doubts that you're having is your minds way of saying that you are not ready to get married. The thought of being married to someone for the rest of your life scares you. When you are ready, you will know. None of your doubts will occur to you. The only thing that will occupy your mind in that time is how happy you will be and lucky you are to have your partner. Then you will be ready. Good luck hun x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): I meant if you aren't 100% there, never said my typing was good!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): You are not ready for the committment of marriage. Love is all about making a concscious decision to put the happiness of someone else above your own, making sacrifices and working 110% on the relationship...My guess is you are of the mindset, what is in it for me? And that is not where you need to be in a marriage most of the time, until you can be faithful, it is unfair to your partner to wed, just think, if you have children, they don't deserve to be brought into the world in an insecure marriage, parents are the security of a child's whole world, and if you are 100% there then they are going to pay for the consequences of adult mistakes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): I agree, this is a classic warning sign that you aren't ready for marriage. Don't make the same mistake as so many and ignore it, end up married and a few years down the line have to go through a painful and avoidable divorce.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (4 June 2007):
 Yes they are genuine. Don't get married. You obviously are not ready for marriage. When you are truly ready for marriage, you won't be having ANY of those worries.
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