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writes:i am in a relationship with someone for 3 months and my problem is he spends alot of time with his sisters and brother in laws. i dont have a problem with it but when he starts to be with me too much they call constantly. every holiday he spends with them and not me. im not sure if this will interfere with our relationship in the future? hes perfect in everyway... but it bothers me when he spends a lot of time with his sisters and not me. Reply to this Question
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reader, wildturkey  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 I think its great that he is loved by his family shows his good character. maybe he jsut need to be aware, then he can have a more balanced view.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (31 May 2007):
 He keeps contacts with his extended family.
For many people this is considered normal.
By your question I guess you both have different background.
"when he starts to be with me too much they call constantly"
Just unplug the phone when you are with him close too much.
"i dont have a problem with it" - Should I question this?
Whatever you say - YOU can resolve, handle or override it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 May 2007):
 You've only been together for 3 months. I wouldn't worry too much at this point. Next time ask to be included at the family get together so you can get to know his family. He should be ok with this, if not then you may have something to worry about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): It sounds like he is from a close knit family. Have you tried telling him about your concerns? It is possible he may not notice how much time he spends with them as compared to you. As for holidays it's natural to spend most of those with family. Maybe you could ask to be included next time? I hope this helps.
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