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writes:I am 36 years old and still a virgin! I have never had any desire to have sex with anybody! I have never seen a real life woman naked (and have no desire to do so, and I am definitely not Gay!!!) Please can you tell me why people have a deisre for sex? I feel it is totally and utterly disgusting and should be banned!! There are far better ways for a woman to get pregnant (if she so desires,) without have her vagina penetrated by a penis (sick)! She could go to a sperm bank for example, or get her partner to masturbate in a pot for her to put into her own vagina. Sex (like Religion (which is also very nasty,)) casue MUCH more harm than it ever does good! How many unwanted pregnancies are there out there? Millions!! Just because people are to stupid(or ignorant) to know the risks they are taking when having disgusting sex! OK so the question is this. I am strange in your eyes? Thank you!!Bear_In_The_Big_Blue_House
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): have you ever been in a relationship? if you have ever been in Love or been infatuated and still felt that way towards sex, then you are probably asexual. they have websites where you can find people that feel thesame way.Sometimes i don't see the need for sex either but i have come across people i have thought they would be worth having sex with.maybe you haven't come across someone who you find worth it.although your masculin personality is predominant, one can still see you are a sweet person.
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reader, puzzled  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Of course yer not strange this probley how u feel at this stage in yer life. if ye feel like nothing going change your mind stay that way, sex is a pleasurable activity there is also no harm on trying just to see how u feel on the matter as ye cant judge before doing so. i used always think id hate sex b/c how discusting it sounds! but wen i done it i learned it was extremly amusing and loved the feeling. hope i help
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reader, Bear_In_The_Big_Blue_House +, writes (3 August 2007):
Bear_In_The_Big_Blue_House is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for all your replies! Did'nt realise I was so alone in my feelings towards sex. Thanx go especailly to Rymo for being sooooo off the mark!! Her comments were just soo funny!!! (Not being rude honey.) I Have NEVER felt lonely by not having a sexual relationship, or ever having a partner! I have never masturbated to porn either!! I just love being single, cause you can do what you want when you want! Selfish? Maybe, but least I am not hurting anybody else!
Thanx also go to Beckto and Jamer who have got it spot on!! I do not care what people think of me! I am not hurting anyone!
Asexual? (Had to look that up on Wikipedia!!) Yes I definitely am!
Thank you all!
Ps,Dr Pete, No, I was not subjected to any sexual abuse as a child (in fact my Mum and Dad were very open to talk about sex whenever we wanted them too.) I was just more interested in computers!
PPS I am also NOT a woman hater!! I Love everybody! (just not sexually!!!)
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reader, nailglitter18  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Sex is based on a biological drive to reproduce. Most people are 'driven' towards it (hence it being called a sex DRIVE). There are some people who feel less inclined towards sex than others- just like there are sex addicts who can't get enough of it.Sex, like alcohol or food or even water, is good when in the right context. In a loving, committed relationship it can strengthen the bond between two people. It's not all dirty and nasty. It can be beautiful. Just like while water is essential to life, people also drown in it; while food is needed to live, overindulging in it can make you sick, and anorexia can kill you.But it sounds to me like your aversion is more psychological than biological. If you're happy the way you are (which seems to be the case), then more power to you! Everyone is unique in their tastes.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (2 August 2007):
 I LOVE SEX END OF ........ If u wanna stay a virgin good luck to you but, don't judge people who do. With two people who are in love sex is a very beautiful thing. Its only some people who make it degrading, ie porn stars and prostitutes.
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reader, :):):) +, writes (2 August 2007):
Ever considered you may be Asexual?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): it sounds like you have an intimacy problem. Perhaps seeing a councilor and 'digging' a little deeper into your subconcious could help, its not a problem but there could be one that lies deeper than this...
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reader, Rymo +, writes (2 August 2007):
Yeah man you’re a head case, haha! Thank god for mankind the other 99.9% of us do feel a desire for it, and that our governments and politicians (as stupid as they may be) are not SO stupid as to “ban” sex! In a “pot” - now that’s romantic! And you quite obviously do want it, (like the girl below writes) what would you care what others think anyway – so why did you even bother posting the question?It’s not disgusting; it doesn’t make you sick because you look at porn all the time, intrigued, jealous and bitter! – You just try to trick yourself into thinking you hate the idea of it (as you masturbate to pornography) so you feel as though it is a “choice” you have made not to have sex. Truth is, you don’t know why you haven’t yet had sex and are way to scared to try it – you feel your too old.Well Mr, it’s never too late. (You only live once and it’s going to be a long lonely life if you stay in your shell – has been so far right?) Get out the house, join a club and get a hobby to make friends and socialise – I know you already are internet dating so keep it up, but why not try actually meeting the people you speak to? Oh and do a bit more exercise you are out of shape! And by the way, you’re actually quite funny – and girls love a sense of humour. Just don’t be too weird.Good luck!xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): Were you subjected to any sexual abuse as a child or do you have any recollection of why you were perceive the act of sex as so dirty?
You have a really extreme view towards sex and intimacy, specifically penetration and my guess is that you have learnt that from a very early age.
Are you strange? Maybe, if you want to use that word.
Maybe the words different or alternative are better to use?
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (2 August 2007):
 From what you viewsex as is it a little strange in my opinion. BUT
You know what you want and your the only person who will or will not do it.
Dont listen to what others say about it.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 You do sound a tad bid over the top on the sex topic, but hey, you have a right to your opinion. You might have a hard time filling a support group with people who share your opions on the matter, however.
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reader, rambini +, writes (2 August 2007):
 yes as said previously, i also find your attitude strange. sex does cause problems, but it is also very special and intimate. conceiving a child is the most natural and miraculous act of all.
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reader, Beckto +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Yes, you do seem strange to me, but what does it matter to you? You seem to feel very strongly about it and you have no desire to change, right? If that's the case, then who cares what other people think!
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