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*usieQ1970
writes:I'm having major problems with my ex at the moment, so much so that it has led to a breakdown in trust. We have a child and he has already proven to me that he will use him against me and now I am really worried that he may not bring him back after his access.He has Parental Responsibility and all that and I'm sure he knows that if he doesn't bring him back he will get into a lot of trouble. But I don't think that would really mean much to him so long as he knows he has caused me some grief.I spoke to my solicitor last week and she said the courts won't do anything unless they have reasonable proof to do so which I suppose is a fair comment. So basically I have no way of protecting myself or my child from this man and I don't want to stop my child from seeing his Father.I was thinking of asking my solicitor to write to him, explaining the breakdown in trust and that I am concerned that he won't bring him back and then ask him for his written assurance that he will.Does anybody think this is a good idea? I don't want to antagonise him any further.
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reader, Guitarboy  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Do you need to change the vistation rights to "supervised" only? I guess it all depends on what's happening to cause you to worry about this. Talk to you lawyer about it and go from there.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Well it certainly can't hurt to have something on paper, that is if he's willing to do it. I can understand how unsettling this is. You must go into a panic every time your son goes with his Dad. See if the lawyer can get the written assurance out of him and then you will be able to breathe a little easier. Even if you can't get it on paper at least you've already spoken of your concerns with the lawyer and that's a good thing, I think. Good luck, honey.
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