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writes: Hi. This is a general question, rather than help really, and for all the young people to think about perhaps. Ok, here it is..... Why are so many very young people having sex under 16 years old? For a start the legal age for it is not until you are SIXTEEN, especially for the female. I have been reading a lot of the posts, and I realise there a lot of girls and boys who are having sex under 16. It is illegal for a start. Lets have some answers Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 August 2007):
 I agree with the Salad, parents today have dropped the ball, they rely on other people and things to raise their children. It's not the school's job to raise your child only educate and you STILL have to help the school to get that done well. The internet is not the place to learn about love and relationships, however it's great for teaching the physiology of human sexuality. It really boils down to commitment to our children and of course common sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007): Actually I think the government has too much say when it comes to education. The government can't even teach kids how to read and do basic math, how will it educate about sex? The parents are the ones who need to step up and start talking with their kids about this and many other subjects instead of relying on "nanny" government to do it for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt is about time the Government did something about education. In my opinion, they should integrate a subject called "citizenship". This can include not only the facts of life but relationships etc as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): Okay I am under 16 and I will tell you why so many teens wanna have sex. I am definitely not one of them! But all the guys in my class watch porn and are having all these sexual fantasies and a few of them even touch you in places which aren't suitable. They are growing up too fast and, personally, I think a lot of it is down to those horrible porn magazines like playboy etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Okay, you have changed by point of view, somewhat. It is the guy and girls responsibility. After hearing the last post, I somewhat agree with her. Sex education needs to be taught at a much younger age. Not just the physical aspects of the sex act, but also how to form relationships etc, and sexually trasmitted diseases (STDs) etc.
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reader, Just a Girl... +, writes (27 July 2007):
 first off its that kind of attitude that actually drives them to have sex underage! im nealy 17 and was a virgin untill i was 16. my mum didnt waste her time hammering into me that it is illegal to have sex under 16 instead she spent her time informing and preparing me. If you want to blame anyone for the underage promiscuity blamer schools. if they spent more time goin into the ins and outs as it were of sex and all aspects based around it maybe kids wouldnt be so intereseted. the schools are so regimented on wat they will and wont say that they leave too much up to the imaginaton. From experience if schools actually tuaght sex education properly instead of throwin in a 50 min lesson about "how sex is wen the penis penetrates the vagina" and actullay taught about the emotions, experiences and body parts, us kids wounldt need to find out for ourselfs.
And its comments like "insight into the weird world of teens" that makes kids wanna act out. if we were seen as resonsible and intersteing which the vast mojoruty of us are instead of little slags and thugs we wudnt want to try to act older to earn "respect"
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reader, xMiiSS-CALDERx +, writes (26 July 2007):
 firstly i have just turned sixteen last month i am a virgin even thought none of my friedns are they all lost their virginity underage and not to guys they were interested in atall. why do you say that it is esspecially illegal for females under sixteen i hate it when men feel that i is not so important for guys to lose their virginity underage but it is serious whena girl does i do get that she can become pregnant but that involves the guy aswell! i do know that all my friedns lost their virginity and lost all respect for themsleves i found that it was kind of a way to show the world that they had grown up and werent kids anymore they all act differently know and seem to have become so how addicted to the thought f having sex if their not having sex their talking about sex if their not talking bout sex their reminding me how i am still a virgin and are telloing me to give it up already which i dont intend to do as i am not ready yet x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): For a long time (several decades maybe more) it has been drilled into guys that we're not men until we have sex. This used to be kept in check by women being drilled to save themselves for marriage. But lately instead of pressuring men to wait women have been encouraged to hump everything in sight. Whereas with boys it was to become men with girls it was to become empowered. Instead of teaching kids to control themselves and to wait they are let loose into the world by parents who act more like friends. Few rules are ever given them and when those are broken the parent either laughs it off or thinks they (the parent) did something wrong and rewards the child out of guilt. Of course if anyone else dares to try and correct the child the parent will raise hell defending the kid no matter what was done. Of course not everything can be pawned off on society or parents. At some point the boys and girls have to take responsibility for their own decisions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): Look at young girl's role models - Paris Hilton, Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson, etc. - singers or actresses, they're required to shed as much skin and act as sexual as possible - our commercialized crappy culture is teaching our young girls to be - forgive me for saying this - little ho's rather than growing up to become intelligent, responsible women with real self-esteem. The fashion and makeup industry is doing it too, with provocative clothing and even g-strings for 7 year olds who are self-conscious about their "panty lines." I read in the recent adbusters magazine that young girls are suffering from emotional breakdowns due to the early sexualization of their bodies. And I agree with everyone else - the media and constant sexual stimulation, peer pressure, etc.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (25 July 2007):
Perhaps they are doing it because errr they are young and have lots of hormones, giving them a high sex drive. But that would probably be more related to guys.
There are so many reasons why they do it when they are young, and although they seem to be stupid reasons, rather then critisising them, society should be helping them in ways other then 'thats stupid to do it so yougn, you are going to regret it'. I beleiev that if teenagers had better advice from a younger age and it continued then there would be a decrease in the amount who have sex at a young age.
You also have to understnad that when you are young you really dont have the ability and mental maturity to realise how your actions are going to affect you later and I know that whne people told me that hwne I was younger, I got really offended, because I thought I did have the ability, but hte truth is, I didnt. Sometimes teenagers just let their hormones take contorl, as the saying goes,teenage boys think with their penises rather then their heads (no offence to guys, girls can do it too).
As for your comment about 'especialy for females', well I know that at one stage in Australia, the legal age for sex was younger for females and older for males because they thught that females were more mature at a younger age to make such a decision, however now its the same for both genders.
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reader, typical_me +, writes (25 July 2007):
i think it's because they're drinking more and then doing silly things. and liking it. dunno. good question. why ARE all you youngsters all having sex and I'm not?? lmao. seriously though, good question...
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reader, GreenTea +, writes (24 July 2007):
as a 17 year old I feel I am qualified to answer this. and good question.The media has confused sex with love with lust with cool with being normal.and its not 16 everywhere. Here in colorado USA age of consent is actually 12. so anyone under 18 can have sex with anyone 12-17. once your 18 though its only people 18 and over.
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reader, blazee +, writes (24 July 2007):
 its about technology.these days people want everything good and fast.they dont care that taking drugs could kill them its what they feel that they care about.they dont care that having sex is illegal or that they could bring a, sorry to say this, unwanted life into the world. they just think about the then and there and what would make them feel best there. its been like that with every generation, they want the next thing. for teenagers parents there generation it was technology, everyone was into games like ping pong and they sold for a lot more then they were woth. football was something they done for fun.now technology games have taken footballs place as technology has moved so fast and they want the next thing..eg sex and drugs.its all about looking good. what you wear, and how you feel.listening to rap, acting tough, buying the clothes, taking the drugs. having sex at an early age.its no longer a little thing like the games were. they arent buying games. ther buying a lifestyle and personality. its this that has seen an increase in knife and gun crime in the uk
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 July 2007):
I blame Bill Gates. Oh and yes global warming.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (24 July 2007):
 i think that sex is such a big part of our culture these days and sex comes up all the time! on the telly, in magazines, between friends. Its such a big part of our lives that children think they should be doing it! there are so many pressures at school between peers that kids just have sex to be cool! i think for girls-they feel like a guy wont like them if they dont put out! and for guys its a novelty that they can brag about with their friends. kids are trying to grow up too fast and forgetting to enjoy their childhood while it lasts! kids are not responisible for making rational decisions and they do what they think they should do because their peers are doing it! in my group of friends at school none of us lost our virginity til we were at least 17 but we were considered uncool and taunted at school for being virgins! whereas i remember at school in year 8 (so when we were 12/13) the "cool" kids were bragging about who they had slept with! anyone who was a virgin was bullied!i think peer pressure and the fact that sex is flaunted all around us is the reason why so many underage people are having sex!
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reader, shooting-star90 +, writes (24 July 2007):
 But even if your at the legal age.. i still find it wierd how people can just do it..i may feel like it some times but i know how id feel if he ever left me.. so i decide not to..why not wait for the person u plan to have kids with..al of my feidns ahve done it it's so wierd.. it's all about peer pressure
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi. It does, but the couple should be RESPONSIBLE. I feel that they are too young for responsibility. If the boyfriend loves the girlfriend, then he should be a responsible boy and wait until they are at the correct age. I agree with you that this world is a very sexualised society.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 i know exactly wat your talking about - it is so worrying! im 21 and had my first wen i was 18 and regret even having it then! the thing is that the pressure these days is unreal! and especially for girls sex is basically all over these days and it pressurises them to get it over and done with. the other thing is wen your young its so easy for guys to tell a girl he loves her and then get the deed done with them. i hope this might give u some insight into the weird world of teens!
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