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writes:I've been having an interesting relationship with a man who's married...well it's a whole lot a mess with this dude but it never really effected me and still his before life is no issue except for all the kids he already has... I believe I was told of 9... 8 different baby mothers though. I guess he finally decided to chill out and he got married for the 1st time 2 years ago. Me and his wife's birthdays are like 5 days apart were the same signs (scorpio's) and he swears we act like each other. Maybe that's why he likes me so...lol... I dunno, But I'm on my way to doing some big things in the music industry so I think that's why he's around. I don't do nothing for him rather... I don't ask him for nothing except for lunch occasionally, maybe gas, but I clearly in a sense told him I am not looking to be with him, if him and his wife goes bad. I'm not trying to kill their relationship...it will kill itself... u feel me ...meaning, the man was cheating on her way before I came around and probably will continue till judgement day okay. So what makes you think I want that which ties it all. Just like 2 months ago he told me his wife was pregnant, she wants to have kids he's not really feeling all that why? dont know, he said it's gonna take away from everything. I guess his freedom to do him, plus she doesn't have any kids... this fool already has 9 kids. He came off to be that ima take care of all my kids father just I'm not gonna be around. Well after hearing all the stories and putting everything together he came off Kinda of like a "papa was a rollin stone" kinda dude. I have my own beliefs on Birth control we werent using any and condoms, rarely. I was completely, and truthfully not messing with anyone else, and it has never been an issue, like him thinking I was cheating and stuff. I have a complex with men anywayz. It takes a lot to get to me and he did.. that's why I was with him for so long, he made me feel comfortable, and all and it wasn't no drama. Aint no tellin who he's messing with besides me but I had to stay sane for somebody, but tested and aint nothing wrong.He claims I'm the only OTHER women...lol..okay watever, but yeah. guy's crazy I didnt see it early though so I'm pissed off. After he told me she was pregnant, then like less than a month in a half later.. i'll give the benefit of doubt... we had just finished having sex and we're laying there, then he's like she had a miscarriage... he was like "yeah my wife's all sad" he didn't look sad not one bit. I never asked no more questions. I'm in process to be moving back home because of my touring with this music... entertainment business. He claims to have so much love for me and that he really cares and how his emotions are so retarded like I would never really understand the "PLAN" he has.. he said PLAN... what type of plan do u have????, that's what im wondering, so he's not really diggin this me moving away stuff. Maybe he's acting like he always came off to be with me. But recently I told him I thought I would be ovulating soon and all, I was still leaving town. Funny thing is he was getting ready for a vacation himself with his wife... not knowing when he got back to town I should be gone, so these last days we had together were really our last days until, you know we see each other again. okay... I couldn't figure out why he wanted to have sex all the time like back to back to back.. in a weeks time. 3rd week at that, I'm not too exact with my ovulation, my body is normal, but it can be funny at times, specially with stress and stuff might throw my calculation off a little, but I knew it was a strong possibilty. Now I never got pregnant ever in my life. Never had abortions so I'm not really into all that, I believe a lot of women abuse the whole abortion thing. But that's why I don't have sex, so I don't have to worry about these things, I'm not with anyone to really wanna raise a family. I thought that something like this would never happen with him... since he was married, but damn was I wrong meaning ima be a mother to my child a good one at that, not worried bout my baby being taken care of, at least I can have my soul clear with god on that part, since how my baby got conceived was totally against the rules, but hey we're all human right? Now I'm not into drama, he will take care of this one, don't care what the wife has to say either. Before he left he did say she (wife) wanted to try at having a baby again.. and he didn't look mad but didn't look happy either. But my whole thing is was this purposely done? Why would you want me to have a baby, before your wife? He looks more happy about me possibly being pregnant than his wife actually being. So yeah it was possible when he left because he knew I was possibly ovulating. He's still out of town now, and will be back in a week, he doesn't know yet haven't told him. I guess I can go ahead and let them enjoy their last summer love together, after she finds out this, it's on, even if she doesn't leave him, it will never be the same. He conceived a child outside the home before her, while he was with her...deep huh... I won't be here when it all falls down. but yeah he brought that on himself. As for me i can except all my doings and will handle accordingly. as far as my music career, it will still be on, and my baby will be just fine, being born where im from LasVegas...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Ok my jaw is on the floor reading this. What a completely messed up situation you are in. You have to wake up and smell the goddam coffee girl!!!. There ARE men out there who roll along impregnating women, starting multiple relationships, casting people off when they are bored and generally acting like a complete doof. This guy IS one of those. He absolves himself of blame because he sees himself as some kind of drifter who can just 'Love 'em and leave 'em' IS THIS OK??? IS THIS REALLY OK????...NO ITS NOT OK, its a recipe for pain and misery and lost hopes and children without fathers and brothers and sisters. This man can act all poetical that he is a 'rolling stone' and yeah thats great for him!!! but what about all the kids and women he left behind??...and does it look like he's gonna stop???, I DONT THINK SO. This man is a LOSER and a pain maker.
Now you think you may be pregnant with his child??...What makes you think (if you get with him after him leaving his WIFE!!!!!) that he won't run off and leave you for someone else??...Can't you see the pattern?, your now just part of the problem, because your going to have one of his children now too. I am sure you will be a good mother but in all honesty, this could have been avoided if you just recognised what this guy is REALLY all about. I am telling you that he is ALL ABOUT HIMSELF!!!
If you have a chance of a music career and a better life on your own with your child, then go for it, but get as far away from this man as you possibly can, but maybe suggest that he has a vasectomy pretty damn soon!!!
I hope things work out for you...but hunny save yourself while you can.
Aunty Em xxx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Okay so what?
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