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writes:I am in love my exboyfriend that i dated 9 years ago.I am currently involved with my fiance' who i have a 4 year old boy with. My ex is married and just had a baby. We kept in contact with one another through the past 9 years. We occasionally see one another by communicate through e-mail often. I am torn because I feel like i owe it to my family to terminate all communication with him. I recently meet up with him and had to much to drink. I started crying and told him that not one day goes by that i don't think about him which is true. I feel that this will never go anywhere but I love him. He did tell me he loved me a month ago. This is the first time either one of us admitted it. I think this only made it harder on me.There is a chemistry between us that I can only describe.
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reader, Wildlife dude  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 It's okay to still love someone but you must move on and put things into perspective. There is probably not one woman I've been involved with, that I don't still love on some level, especially my ex-wives whom I had children with. In fact, my first wife and I had sex for awhile after our divorce but eventually she moved, remarried and now we are just good friends. I still ask my grown, married daughter about her sometimes and remember the good ole' days with youthful wonder. The same goes for my second wife. I never really stopped loving her but I had to allow her to move on with her life and her new husband and follow my own dreams. You have a fiance, and your ex has a wife now and a child with her. It would be best if you stop contacting him unless it involves your children (if you had any together, that is). You will never be able to focus your attention and your love completely on your fiance if you continue to entertain thoughts, conversations and outings with your ex. Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Put the chemistry on the back Bunsen burner and turn the flame off. He's married, you have to leave him alone and you know it. Focus on your on current relationship and your son.
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reader, failingbeauty +, writes (2 August 2007):
 I'm not exactly sure what your question is. But if you'd like to know what you should do, is that stick to your fiance now. Do terminate all communications with him, because 1 he is married and 2 you have a child. Maybe you liked the idea of your ex, he was perfect and great. But then,why did you accept your fiance's proposal? Terminating all communication with him, will grow the love between you and your fiance and eventually you'll get over your ex. your ex still talking to you gives you the idea that you have chance (although it seems you don't anymore).
I hope that helps, just think about it.
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