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writes:I split from my husband about six months ago and moved out of our house, hoping I could figure out why I have fallen out of love with him. I still go home to help him with the monthly finances, and just to see how he's doing, but about a month after I moved out, he went through all our old pictures and found all the ones he'd taken of me partially nude (as couples often do this) and he has them framed all over the house. It's just creepy to me. Some of them he's blown up to be quite large. In his workshop, he has poster-size half-naked pictures of me hanging on all the walls. It's like he's entered into some kind of kinky obsession. I mean, yes I posed for these pictures but they were always tucked away in a photo album we called "the naughty album". Now when I go home, I see them everywhere and it's freaking me out but he refuses to take them down. I don't feel like this is normal behavior, even if he does miss me, but it could be bugging me worse now because I no longer feel sexually attracted to him, so it seems perverted in my opinion and it makes me all the more sure that I don't want to go back to him, though he begs me to come home every time we talk. Does anyone have any advice or comments on this problem?...I'm starting to think he never really loved me, but has been sort of addicted/obsessed with me all along. He was always emotionally distant from me, which is probably why I lost my desire for him to begin with.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Well I certainly hope he doesn't entertain very often! If he won't take them down I guess you are stuck. Like the previous poster said, don't go over there to check up on him anymore he might be getting off on your reactions to the pictures. Meet on neutral ground or over the phone when discussing the finances and I hope the divorce. He sounds pretty nutty to me.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (1 August 2007):
Falling in love and falling out of love as far as a woman goes really doesn't make much sense to me. I can see a man's love for what it really is. SEX,SEX,SEX. Oh!, I'm sure that some women's love is genital-love,like a man's. So in many relationships you have Lip-love,"Sex", but little or no Heart-Love,"Commitment", And Lip-Love,"sex" without Heart-Love,"Commitment", just won't cut it in the long haul. As for your pictures on his walls. You don't have to set foot in the house, it's as simple as that.
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