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writes:Do guys like to date plain female virgins ? I though i would find a man in high school nothing happened , then college but still nothing . I am about to graduate from college and then go to a career college . i fear i will find no guys there who are interested in me . I don't want to meet some one until i am 30 years old because my cousin me some one at that age . am i doomed ?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Doomed is an interesting word selection. many women strive for what we used to call "old maid' status. Look if you want find a man and get married that's easy. laugh at the world around you and have an easy smile aroud men. A frown or scowl is a real turn off. We men are not all bad. The word on the street has it that we are all looking for an easy lay so we can move on. Well in this man's mind anyway, women that are smart and can converse with ease about most anything are far more attractive than the bimbos being spit out of collrge sororities.And being a virgin is a virtue not a hinderance. Hang out to it that is one grat "goft' for your husband. You ca only give that "gift" once so be careful with it. cheers
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (1 August 2007):
As a guy one of the most attractive thing I find in a lady is her radience. That is something that every woman has - it is something that you have got no less of than any other woman walking the planet.
It is how you choose to use it. Smiling with your eyes - being upbeat and cheerful - being glamourous - being with a bubbly personality etc. etc. I could go on -
Try reading some PMA books - a couple of titles I can think of both american publications is "Dress for Success" - and "I can be the wife of a happy husband". Other titles I have read that also are fantastic are "How to win friends and influence people" and "Body Language". Another wonderful author I have often read for real uplifting novels which really develop a wonderful sense of self belief is "Og Mandino."
In short what I am trying to tell you is that one of the most attractive features of any lady is when you see how she loves herself. Another very attractive feature is how often she smiles.
Now hopefully you would have noticed here that not once have I mentioned the so called perfect figure, the perfect weight or dress size, nose, eye and hair colour and all those other artificial things people associate with real beauty.
The reason for this is because the real beauty and attractiveness you desire is already there - you just need to learn how to unleash it from within you.
Best of luck.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Frankly you have to work on your self confidence a bit. Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder and personality counts as much as looks! Some of the most beautiful people can be dull as dish-water. One way to make you feel better about you is perhaps to have a makeover and the other is to relax about men. You are young and your sexual inexperience will mean nothing to the right guy who will respect you for it. It is a cliche but you really do meet mr right when you are not looking so hard. Remember this is not about you meeting any guy who drags you off to bed as you think more of yourself than that right? It is about being patient and waiting for someone special to come along who treats you like a queen.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Do go out and have fun with your friends? Are you active socially? Do you go places and meet new people? Most guys aren't going to walk up to a total stranger and ask them out whether they are plain or look like Angelina Jolie. You need to get out there and show your sparkling personality and your intelligence those are the assets that attract the real men, sweetheart. Good luck and keep us posted.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Well, take a look at the latest magazines that men read. Do you see any plain females? I'm guessing "no" on the that one. I hate to say it, but men are visual. If you want to get noticed, you may have to jazz up your look a bit. The virgin part won't be so much of a turn off, in fact some guys will find that challenge to be exciting -- the new conquest - a place where no man has gone before. If you've gotten all the way through college and haven't attracted the attention of any men, or been out on a date before, it's time for you to give yourself a make-over. I wore glasses from the time I was in the 5th grade, all the way up until I was 15 yrs. old and I think it made me blend into the woodwork. Because of my vision problems, I got contact lenses when I turned 15, and boy did that open up a whole new world for me!! Just that one little change made guys sit up and take notice. Suddenly I was being flirted with, and asked out and I have never allowed myself to be part of the woodwork ever again. Do something wonderful for yourself and see what happens. It might be highlights in your hair, or a new hairstyle. It might be contacts, like it was for me. But whatever the change is, I know it'll give you more confidence about yourself and who knows, you might just get noticed by some great guy. I hope this helps you out!!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 I think we need to break down your questions into pieces.
What is the definition of "plain"? What a man finds interesting, another will not. This is one of those slippery words that escape a good definition in the real world.
If you think that "virgin" is the same as "plain", I'm afraid you're wrong.
Whether guys would like to date you, I think they would. Maybe you're making some mistakes. Think about it and correct what should be corrected. I'm not including "virginity" among the "corrections". That is your decision, and, whatever you decide, that's fine.
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