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writes:I found out that the mother of my child, that i am paying her fees, buying clother, food, everything slept with another man?She was working at a resturent, she was poor, a made her somebody, and am just a nobody to her today.Well, i don't know what to do i hate her, but i can't get her out of my mind, i even thought maybe i still loved her, but i think i was wrong because i couldn't even feel like having sex with her.What do i do? Am confused, am a 22 year old male.I have even decided to get a new girl friend. But it's very difficult, i need a good advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): I would like to support this gentlman.
According to my understanding he says, he's paying school fees for his girl friend and he's buying her clothes.
So he says, he does not know what to do. Well to some of us things like this we know and we understand as we have been there.
Well my man, i would like to say to you be strong, be there for you kid at all the times and don't loose it.
About a new girl friend, i would say, hang on there, the rite woman will come to you,or maybe you should sit down with your girl, and talk about this matter....
Maybe there's an explanation...
I would like to say---God bless you.... B strong...
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reader, penta  +, writes (6 August 2007):
 So you're paying for your child. Good for you. You helped create this child and you are responsible for it.
But this does not mean that the child's mother is required to put her life on hold for you. So she has a life now. Get over it. Go get a life of your own.
While you're doing it, don't forget your child. Ignore the mother; she's not yours. But take care of your child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007): It's not really your business if your not in a relationship with her. Your responsibility is to your child. And stop feeling so sorry for yourself..."She was working at a resturent, she was poor, a made her somebody, and am just a nobody to her today."You're not a nobody, you're the father of her child. But that is all, not her boyfriend. So get over it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Your relationship is with your child not his mother, that's over so she can pretty much do as she pleases. The fees are for the child and you are required to pay them so she isn't beholden to you in any way. Go ahead and get a new girlfriend, time to move on.
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