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writes:i never thought i'd be in a position asking people for help but i have no real friends that at this moment i would care to really hear what they have to say . you see I'm married and just recently i found out that i'm now expecting my 1st baby in april. Since my husband works as a oil driller hes gone for several months at a time and I've had to move in with my parents for now because i'm under bed rest. needless to say my parents relationship with me has been semi complicated but regardless i had no choice so i put our differences aside for the baby and my sake.But recently issues have come to light as usual about money and my moms urgency to have my husband send more to help her with her "situation " which is once again an excuse to spend money on herself and stupid materialistic things . After saying no shes been on edge and just recently the cell phone i gave my dad that i'm paying for he gave to my younger sister. After bad report cards and talking back i told her i wanted it back until she behaves and she went crazy yelling and pushing me and my mom just stood there doing nothing my mom then got in the middle and yelled at me saying i was being hormonal and that i'm crazy when literally a few mins before she herself had complained and fought with my sister for being disrespectful.afterward i went to lay down to relax and my mother called my other family members to complain about how i don't want to give her money and how my marriage is falling apart and that i'm slowly losing my mind . Mind you none of this is true and now everyone thinks i'm a spoiled bitch who only cares about money when this is not even about money. she even called my husband saying that i'm out of control and that if he does not send money soon i will get a divorce! After talking to my husband and clearing things up he was worried for my health because i could not believe my mother was doing this when its all not true . when i tried to explain to everyone the real situation they all refused to speak to me and said how could i do this to my mother ! then she comes in my room late at night and tells me if i'm calm now and says your father and i no longer want anything to do with you or your money and that i need to get a divorce.Then i lost it and said NO! why would i do that she said because my husband wont send more money i then said get out i don't want to deal with you right now leave and she did still making it seem like shes the victim crying . this is ridiculous! i mean all because she got mad that i didn't want to give her money to go shopping FOR CLOTHES i just recently gave her my car to sell for heavens sake ! My doctor told me that i'm becoming stressed and that the stress is causing cramps and because i'm in high risk i need to calm down . coming here was a mistake someone please assure me that i'm not insane and tell me what should i do ! should i pack up and stay with a friend instead or do i wait and just keep going on here ..?thank you for listening i'm sorry i wrote a lot
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reader, Godchild +, writes (20 October 2011):
Tell hubby to send more money so you can move to a friend or one of his family members until he comes home. Your peeps are out forself
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 October 2011):
 The best thing for you to do is to pack up and leave, this stress is not good at the best of times, but when you are pregnant it makes it worse as it is risking the life of your unborn child. You need to be relaxed and at ease. If you have a friend or someone reliable that you could go and stay with then please do. Obviously your family have no consideration when they are putting you through all of this stress. At the end of the day they are your parents and they should be supporting you, not asking your husband to send money over so your mum can go and buy clothes. It sounds to me like she is a very selfish woman. It is best that you get out of that house before it gets any worse. Good luck and all the best with your pregnancy.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 October 2011):
 You need to go to the friend's house and get out of the nuthouse.
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reader, neomum  +, writes (20 October 2011):
you are not insane but you do need to move out asap because if you don't you could lose the baby. Why are you not in your own home you can still do the bed rest and look after your self at home. you could ask a friend to help with housework and you can still do all your own meals. bed rest in pregnancy is normally no lifting and light duty's.
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and enjoy it while it lasts.
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