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writes:Hey Agony Aunts..I don't know if i would categorize this as a relationship question but let me ask anyway. I have been stressed out of late and i have noticed a few subtle changes in me that i am worried about.My boyfriend of five years has always been good to me. However of late, i have noticed he has changed. Last week we had an argument and unlike other times he didnt flinch when he told me to go to hell(he never says that). Also he is not as willing to deal with a problem all he says is "I cannot take this anymore. Dont bother callng me at all." Then after some time he calls back to apologise and even though am still hurt and dont sound happy he gets mad again and asks why he is even bothering at all. So after having one of those arguments on sunday, i had a bad nightmare at night. I dreamt he had cheated on me and he told me its because i was not fulfilling him. He did not flinch at all and i was soo hurt i thought i killed myself. I really love him, he has never cheated on me ever and i dont believe he can but am soo scared. i cant get the images out of my head.We resolved our issues and apparently we are okay. However, something else happened last night. i woke up at 3am to find i had wet my bed. I have not done that since i was 7years and now am 19. It is freaking me out. I know av been stressed because of various other things like finding funding for college but i am really worried. I dont normally have nightmares and i thought it was normal but now am wetting my bed am more than worried. Unlike in the past when i dream of going to the bathroom when i wet my bed...i cannot remember anything about last night. just that i woke up because i was shivering of cold.What could be wrong with me? is my body giving me signs i should take into account? Please help me because am really worried.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses. I have made an appointment with the doctor for a checkup. About my boyfriend we have talked today and he seems to understand so i will need to do some more activities to help me get rid of the stress. Thank you at least am not abnormal, i was really freaking out.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 Obviously your relationship is worrying you at the moment because of all the arguing so it is going to stress you out, dreaming about him cheating is just your body trying to deal with the problems you have at the moment, it doesn't mean that he is cheating on you, but it seems you might be a little self confident that you are not enough for him by the way his behaviour is towards you at the moment, maybe you feel you are not good enough. Wetting the bed well yes stress over anything can make this occur or even if you are scared or nervous about your relationship. Try talking to your boyfriend about how you feel, maybe the both of you can sit down and come to some agreement on how to make the relationship better and more stable. Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 Always when you are experiencing anything different with your body it's wise to make an apointment to see a doctor. Once any physical problems can be eliminated you can begin to address the emotional problem causing any changes in your body. Stress can do really weird and varied things to a person's body but do get checked out.
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