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writes:My brother's gf will not let him go anywhere without her. When he is not with her he has to be on msn with her. She has put 18 pictures of the two of them in his room. She writes him letters that say she cant live without him and that he is the reason for her happiness. She also says she thinks about him every moment of the day and that he is her angel and she wants to be with him forever. He doesnt see a problem ith this but I think she my be obsessed in a way that is becoming dangerous. Does anyone have any advice as to how to approach her or if im just imagining this
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reader, steffi666  +, writes (2 February 2009):
ive learnt when it comes to family and the people they choose to be with, there more you tell them you think it a bad idea there harder they'll try to male it work.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Listen to the aunts...butt out. Your brother will let you know if and when he needs your help.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 February 2009):
Wow, she does sound like a girl with problems, but it is not your problem.
You don't need to get involved and cause problems, especially if your brother doesn't have a problem with it.
Next time you see her ask her about her other friends and her job plans and OTHER areas of her life that don't include your brother. Try and encourage her to get a life.
She may be keeping your brother a virtual prisoner, which is not great for him, but being a prison guard is a full time job too, so it's not great for her either.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, pastfirst +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Your brother's girlfriend definately seems obsessed with him, but it's absolutely none of your business!
It's between the two of them, and he seems quite happy, so just keep your nose out of their relationship.
He won't thank you for butting in where you're not wanted, and although you probably have his goodwill at heart, you cannot decide whom he should date.
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reader, rcn +, writes (2 February 2009):
 You don't want to approach her. Doing so may be like a competition. That you don't need and if your brother is blind to what is going on, it's going to be difficult to get him to remain on your side if you do this.
Abnormal levels of attachment are because of extremely low self esteems, where they need love from someone else to feel special and fill many voids they lack in their own sense of self.
This can be dangerous because they really don't appreciate being on their own, so ending the relationship will only cause harm to him or her to harm herself. Check in your area for a counselor or someone who has training in dealing with these abnormal disorders. It can end, and safely if done properly, but you'll need help in doing so.
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