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writes:I'm currently thirteen years old, and I want to control the amount of violence spurred at my house. My mother isn't the most caring mother, but I mind her just as well because she has taken care of me all of my life. She loves me and cares for me. My father is also not the most caring, but we mind eachother just as well. I'm the middle child and the self prescribed 'weirdly demented child' of the pack. My elder sister is more of a child than I am, though I must say that she is smarter. She treats my parents like dirt and I end up getting the hardest end of the stick because she places me in the same boat yet I'm obedient to my providers. I can't really say I know what love is, since I've grown up in a somewhat negligent household. My brother, unbeknown to him, is autistic. So he can get quite emotional, but then again so can my sister. I consider myself not one who is controlled by my emotions, so I guess it makes me more of a freak than I thought.Now that you've read (If you did) background, I can address the problem. My sister relies on my family to support her and do things for her. She thinks that she is the victim and the only one who deserves a break because she works the hardest. Now, I know I may be generalizing a bit but she's actually admitted this so I digress. My sister yells at my parents all the time, she regards them as being common slum in the streets. She likes to use me as a personal scapegoat and partial time maid.So my question is this:How do I stop her from destroying the house I live in? I don't want to take over - I'd mess up pretty fast. But how do I make my parents the ringleaders again?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 January 2009):
 I agree with the previous aunt. This is something your parents need to handle. If they they allow your sister to treat them with disrespect, then they need a wake up call. Sit down with them and talk to them. Perhaps they haven't really realized how badly they have dropped the ball. I would never allow one of my kids to rule the roost and upset the family, I certainly hope your parents can recover the reigns. However if they are truly out of control then perhaps you will need to speak to someone on the outside and see if some family counseling can be arranged. Good luck and keep us posted.
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reader, lovesalias +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Have you talked to your parents about the way you feel your sister is affecting the house hold? Maybe you should bring up the situation to a school councelor that can help you assess the situation better if you don't feel you can go to your parents. I dont recommend that you confront your sister though... I don't think she is capable of taking critisim very well and it may make matters worse. I think your best bet is to discuss this with your parents or a pastor or your school counselor. Good luck I hope this helps!
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