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writes:we love each other. and we both know it. but we fight ALL the time. like seriously, it's one thing after another. it's mostly cuz of him though. and i just can't take it anymore. he stresses me out so much and makes me feel like crap all the time. and i'm constantly thinking he's doing something behind my back when he tells me he would never. i honestly do love him and this is the first boy that i have ever loved. but some people say he treats me bad and i kind of think so too. i mean i know its between me and him but he really does.. and he thinks i treat him bad. i tell people what's going on and most say that i should just give up on him. but i'm in love.. and i know if i ever let him go i would be hurt. i want to be with him for a long time but this has gotta stop.. what should i do about it? cuz i can't seem to deal with it on my own anymore..x Reply to this Question
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reader, AperfectSchism +, writes (28 January 2009):
 Aw, I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out.
Maybe after he grows up a bit, he'll come back and try things out again differently. :)
Cheer up, okay? Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionForget it.. we broke up unfortunately :( but thanks so much. I appreciate it. I'm hurting and I wish I could just take all those fights back.. but I guess I can't. xx
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reader, AperfectSchism +, writes (27 January 2009):
The fighting could subside down the line, but only if you two are willing to work together - as a couple.
Perhaps the fighting is due to a lack of open communication? Do you tell each other everything without "sugar-coating" it?
I used to argue with my boyfriend a lot until I sat him down and told him that we both needed to be completely open and honest with each other NO MATTER WHAT.
(Everyone has their secrets and it's up to you whether you feel comfortable enough letting him know what they are. You don't need to tell him everything single thing you do or have done, but if it might interfere with the relationship in the future, it would be a good idea to talk about it.)
And above all, just be happy with the time you have together. :)
I hope this helped again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone. and AperfectSchism that really worked. but there was a lot more good things. like besides the fighting and stuff, our relationship is pretty good. i mean we do fight every day but not every second and when we don't fight it's like perfect.. i just love this boy so much. do you think the fighting could fade over time? cuz i'm not ready to let him go. i love him with all my heart and i've never felt this way before and i don't want to hurt myself cuz i know i'll regret it if i let him go.
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reader, AperfectSchism +, writes (26 January 2009):
I'm really sorry to hear that you're fighting with someone you believe to be in love with, that's tough.
I agree with some of the other replies and they are true.
You are young and have plenty of time to have a serious relationship, and it's difficult to let go of someone when you feel so attached to them, but its for the best (in this case.)
Try this, it might put you in the right direction: Take a piece of paper and make two columns, one labeled "Pros" and the other "Cons". Write down all of the things about the relationship that are good, then go to the other side and write down all the things that are bad - see which one outweighs the other.
Be honest with yourself, too. (You don't need to show anyone else the list!)
I hope this helps. :)
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Oh honey! Get out of this now.
Dont let this become a future map for your life. Dont let anyone make you unhappy and try not to do the same to anyone else.
You are so young and you have both your futures ahead, so dont put up with this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): You've heard this all before, but just leave him. Obvioiusly it's not love if you both treat each other bad. I'm not saying that all relationships have to be perfect and argument free because they don't, but you said the arguments come one after another... how is that good for either of you?You're aged between 13-15, you're young. Why not just ditch him and get with someone better? I'm sure you could find someone who would treat you right.Good luck xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 January 2009):
 It's very difficult to have a serious relationship when two people are still too immature to handle it. And I don't mean immature to be insulting, it's just a fact that teenagers 13 -15 are so very young, inexperienced, and just plain immature to really handle a serious commitment, so hence there is drama every 5 minutes. Boyfriends will come and go and that's how it should be, how else are you going to know what characteristics you find intriguing and what ones really turn you off? Dating different guys will insure that you will be able to recognise the perfect guy for you when you cross paths. Tell your boyfriend you need more space. Happy hunting!
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