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I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).
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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
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We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 10 October 2009: True love is a stronger bond than any other. Just had to say that for those who read this and still don't believe in "true love"
Now since your in the place you want to be. Let's talk about Kevin's place. While his marriage is dissolving furt... (read in full...)
We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 1 August 2009: I'm sure you've heard the saying to "focus on what you have control over, not what you don't." What you don't have control over is the actions of anyone else.
Divorce can be extremely difficult emotionally, at times financially etc. He does not... (read in full...)
We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 16 March 2009: This is a wonderful story. I'm happy for you. Take care. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend older than boyfriend? Wasting my time?
Q. my boyfriends 17 and im 22 weve been dating almost a year now were pretty happy and planning on moving in together soon his family knows my age and doesnt mind at all however my parents and freinds do not know Im just wondering should i tell them ...
A. 15 March 2009: Years are just a number. If you're compatible and know he's the one for you, stick with your feelings and the direction they take you. If we listened to everyone who passes judgment, most of us would never get anywhere. ... (read in full...)
I hate my body! I am too fat!
Q. well for starters, i absolutely hate my body. i'll be 18 this summer which makes me feel even worse about the way i look. i feel disgusted when i look in the mirror, i mean i'm only about 113 pounds but i definitely dont look it. i keep trying to be ...
A. 15 March 2009: You want to be secure with yourself, but you keep bringing up other issues, such as your ex, how weight affects relationships etc. You're being secure with yourself needs to be for self worth, and not how doing something may affect relationships or ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend older than boyfriend? Wasting my time?
Q. my boyfriends 17 and im 22 weve been dating almost a year now were pretty happy and planning on moving in together soon his family knows my age and doesnt mind at all however my parents and freinds do not know Im just wondering should i tell them ...
A. 15 March 2009: I think if you want to be with him, why hide the truth. Hiding the truth says their is something to be embarrassed by. ... (read in full...)
We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 14 March 2009: There are computer search engines. Google for "people finder" and a list will come up. A PI you can use if you can't find him. It's not stalking, because all they do is utilize search engines which they pay for the service, and have access for any ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling insecure and in a bad relationship, help me please!
Q. Hello everyone. This is my first time writing to a computer and letting out my feelings that i have, im not sure where to start so here it goes. Im 40 years old, i have children and my husband has children from 3 other women and we have 2 toget...
A. 14 March 2009: First, your insecurity is yours, not his. You're in charge of these "thoughts without facts." You include him, by blaming him. I see this relationship as being bad because of how you both created it. You've set your boundaries to allow his just ... (read in full...)
My son's father is completely heartless. What should I do?
Q. Sometimes we live our lives base in ilusion, expecting thing or people to get better, but at the end nothing changes.....The sad story is that i fall in love with the wrong person, a man who has done evrything in his hand to make me believe i am ...
A. 14 March 2009: I agree with the other poster. You need to get out of there. You know a relationship can't be one sided, and it seems as if he uses you for what he wants you for. How long did you date before living together? What did you know about his intentions ... (read in full...)
A man of the cloth and dependent on him, but he's always lying!
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for a little over a year now. When we first starting dating I explained to him that I had major trust issues with men and I didn't tolerate lies and deceit in relationships. He promised me that he would always ...
A. 14 March 2009: Remember, relationships are not confusing, or too difficult, as long as those in the relationship are well grounded with who they are and what they're seeking. This relationship could be good, if both of you are acting to promote it as being a ... (read in full...)
We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 14 March 2009: You've been so afraid of what might happen, it's kept you from the one person you were meant to be with this whole time. I don't consider it destiny, you two may be soul mates. This explains a love that never disappears, even when with someone else. ... (read in full...)
A man of the cloth and dependent on him, but he's always lying!
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for a little over a year now. When we first starting dating I explained to him that I had major trust issues with men and I didn't tolerate lies and deceit in relationships. He promised me that he would always ...
A. 14 March 2009: So, If I were him, and using his excuses, I could sleep with a bunch of women and claim that I was proving you were better in bed? Give me a break. He's likes naked women, that's the fact. Generally, I'd say it's not bad to appreciate beauty, but ... (read in full...)
Is divorce the only reasonable option when someone refuses to try?
Q. We met when I was 16. Since then we've been the best of friends, lovers, secret keepers, supporters of the other's dreams, family, and an occasional shoulder to cry on. If I had to sum it up I'd say it saved us both when we needed it. Our ...
A. 14 March 2009: First, what does her past look like, before you got together? I'm going to provide a general analyst, without her past, I hope this helps you.
Behavior, such as this, generally stems from traumatic experiences. Trauma is like a cyst, if not take... (read in full...)
I can't stand the way we talk to each other!
Q. Hey everyone I'm having a little trouble getting through to my fiance. We've been together for a long time, and i am currently prego with a baby girl due this June. Ok so here's the issue...i cant stand the way we talk to each other!!! It's usual...
A. 14 March 2009: Put your foot down. Do you understand you have the right to choose how someone treats you? So, you have a ring on your finger. Take it off, demand to be treated well, or it doesn't go back on. Of course you can't postpone the pregnancy, but ... (read in full...)
How can I change my life to be happy again
Q. Im at the point where i cant take anything no more and i want to know how i can stop from feeling like this. Well i have been through a lot of stuff mostly just being abused by men sexually physically and mentally and i have had enough. I live wit...
A. 12 March 2009: First ADHD can be frustrating, but really isn't an anger disorder. I think he may have an attached disorder or a subtype connected to his ADHD.
Some people have it worse than you, but that doesn't make what's happening to you any better, or okay... (read in full...)
What can I do to help him change his controlling behavior
Q. Question of love is not the issue. My bf seems controlling. If u dont see things the way he does even politics he gets upset, he doesnt yell he just hides for weeks. If he does something wrong (usually not intentional) and it hurts you - he tur...
A. 12 March 2009: Not without really ticking him off. You'd have to recommend counseling. The behaviors you described are narcissistic, and antisocial behavior disorder, which is the not taking responsibility for his actions, causing pain without empathy, etc. It's ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years, and immediately regretted my decision. What should I do?
Q. I was with my ex for 2 1/2 years. We had a good relationship.. barely ever fought. I think we both just started getting bored with the relationship and decided to go our separate ways. Right after we split I regretted the decision and tried to fix ...
A. 11 March 2009: What if he is playing the same game you are, by fearing the answer? You haven't told him, and it seems as if he hasn't told you. So, one of you needs to stand up and say what you want. ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years, and immediately regretted my decision. What should I do?
Q. I was with my ex for 2 1/2 years. We had a good relationship.. barely ever fought. I think we both just started getting bored with the relationship and decided to go our separate ways. Right after we split I regretted the decision and tried to fix ...
A. 10 March 2009: Why do you see feelings as being needy? You keep this wall in between, you'll continue getting further and further apart. You may end up loosing him for good, because you are afraid to tell him how you feel.
Love is not being dependent. Want... (read in full...)
My face feels numb when we have sex...what's causing this?
Q. When i have sex with my boyfriend i get a pins and needles sensation in my face. Like its numb. Not everytime. But often. I dont orgasm through sex so what is this? ...
A. 10 March 2009: I'd recommend a doctor's visit. This may be nothing, but you won't know until you get a checkup. That feeling, from what I understand, is cause by lack of blood flow, or oxygen. Schedule an appointment so you can know for sure. ... (read in full...)
Do I quit my marriage altogether? Confront him then quit? Help!!!
Q. I am a 24 year old, I have been married for just over 2 years and in a relationship with my husband for just over 7 years. We dated young and married young, but we were both experienced sexually with others. What I mean to say is that we weren’t ...
A. 8 March 2009: And you got married, WHY? I recently spoke with someone who just got divorced. She said, thinking back there were warning signs of what she should not have gotten married.
Seeing porn is an issue to you, but not to him. It being an issue with you ... (read in full...)
Am I a candidate for becoming a lesbian?
Q. Sometimes I spend 10 or 15 minutes standing naked before my full length door mirror admiring my beautiful body. I have shapely tits with perky nipples, a sexy ass, a flat stomach, shaplely legs with pretty little feet. It seems to me that I have a ...
A. 8 March 2009: Without a picture its difficult to answer this question. lol Joking.
Joking aside. You want to grand a worthy man. What makes him worthy? To be with you, does he have to perform certain tasks? Walk of fire. Fight the dragon. So what does it take?... (read in full...)
Cheated on for the 2nd time!
Q. My husband has cheated on me for the second time. Yes I'm hurt but I love my man. I filed for a divorce a couple days ago but we haven't signed off on the papers yet. We really don't want a divorce but he is still seeing this other female, what ...
A. 8 March 2009: Sign off on the divorce. What part of your marriage is seeing another woman allowed? If he loves you, and doesn't want a divorce, why is he with this other woman?
You may love him, but you need to protect yourself and who you are as well. Yo... (read in full...)
Desperate to have a baby and willing to have sex with anyone to get one
Q. I have a problem, and would love to get some advice/help with it. Thanks!! Okay! I'm single and want a baby so badly that I'm willing to have sex with anyone and then be a single parent. The only problem is, I don't want'a deal with the pa...
A. 7 March 2009: Your compensating for what your missing within your sense of self by having a child.
Having a child is okay, but for the right reasons. Is it the demand for being loved unconditionally that you're seeking? Is sounds as if your desire is abno... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 4 March 2009: So, what's going on. Seems like you have a lot of anger built up. You're a nice lady, and I enjoy chatting with you, and I believe during that time you've been warned time and time again to stay clear of this person.
The thing about people chan... (read in full...)
I lost interest in sex after pregnancy, help!
Q. I have been in a relationship for 5 years, with a really nice guy. We have a young child togethor, and have a trusting relationship, but my problem is,I have'nt found him all that sexually attractive for quite a while. I lost interest in sex afte...
A. 3 March 2009: Let me ask you something. After your pregnancy, how do you feel about yourself, and how you look. Quite often because of the body changes etc. how you may feel about "being sexy" can change the way you view sex, or how you may be attracted to ... (read in full...)
I want my sister's deadbeat boyfriend's friend to GO AWAY!
Q. Ok, so i started dating this guy that i met through my sister that isn't living her life right, who is dating a dead beat guy. the guy i met was his friend. i knew it was a bad idea but they said he was nothing like my sisters boyfriend. and he ...
A. 3 March 2009: Your heading in the right direction with how you think. I don't agree with having sex right after you meet them. Reason being, it often sets up the relationship as being sexual, and not really learning about who the other person is.
I believe you ... (read in full...)
She is sexually stressed! What can I do?
Q. I've been with a woman for 10 months now, and we love each other alot. Things have been going well, although last night she admitted that sexually she feels a little stressed out. Part of the reason, she stated, was that she has alot of problems...
A. 2 March 2009: Your welcome. I hope everything works out for the both of you. If you don't mind me asking, what mental illness are her family members diagnosed with? I haven't heard of many which are degenerative.
It's okay every now and again for the "jac... (read in full...)
Torn between my mom and my dad who has major issues.
Q. My mum found out that my dad had been cheating on her although their marriage,she told him to leave he came to stay with me and my wife as he had nowhere else to go,my wife did not want him at our house because of the things he had done so i spoke ...
A. 2 March 2009: If he loved her, he won't hit her. Love includes not wanting to see the other person in pain. I'm sure you've heard the term "tough love". That's what is needed here. So, she winds him up. An excuse to hit, NO.
There are waiting lists for ange... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets mad if guys flirt with me.
Q. My boyfriend gets jealous if other men hit on Me. For example, someone sent Me roses for valentines day and I didn't know from who. He got angry at Me. How is this my fault I still don't know who they were from. I went back home for 1 week once and ...
A. 2 March 2009: I agree with the other posters. There are red flags all over this situation. These behaviors display controlling patterns. Is it okay for him to have sex with another girl because he feels as if you are? Or maybe that would be an excuse to allow him ... (read in full...)
I want my sister's deadbeat boyfriend's friend to GO AWAY!
Q. Ok, so i started dating this guy that i met through my sister that isn't living her life right, who is dating a dead beat guy. the guy i met was his friend. i knew it was a bad idea but they said he was nothing like my sisters boyfriend. and he ...
A. 2 March 2009: I think you're over thinking it because you allowed him to stay with you, without really getting to know him first. So in a way, you were allowing this behavior into your life. So, I bet he was a drug user before he met you. Was he suppose to change ... (read in full...)
She is sexually stressed! What can I do?
Q. I've been with a woman for 10 months now, and we love each other alot. Things have been going well, although last night she admitted that sexually she feels a little stressed out. Part of the reason, she stated, was that she has alot of problems...
A. 2 March 2009: How long as she been acting as the glue to hold the family together? She isn't sexually stressed, her stress is affecting her sexually. Totally different symptoms. Their is a "dysfunction" which is a sexual anxiety, where the act of sex produces an ... (read in full...)
He found out I lied about my virginity 12 years ago!
Q. I have been married for 12 years and had lied to my husband that that I was a virgin when we got married I was sure that he would never find out as he was a virgin himself. Everything was fine until last month when he met a few old friend at a local ...
A. 1 March 2009: How has the last twelve years of marriage been? Did you marry for love? If so, he loved you for you at the time of getting married.
You two need to sit down and discuss this issue. I don't agree with your dishonesty before, but since it happ... (read in full...)
We're underage but want to have sex, where can we buy condoms?
Q. i'm under 16 and i want to have sex with my bf the only problem is we need some condoms and we dont no if we are aloud to buy them and where ...
A. 28 February 2009: I'm not familiar with your area, so this would be a good question to ask a parent. ... (read in full...)
Is her life better without me in it? Is she just unsure?
Q. I'm following up a previous question of mine (posted 2/23 asking for objective advice/serenity)... I am unable to make a decision; I've been spinning my proverbial wheels for about five months with regard to what I can/should do about my ex-girl...
A. 27 February 2009: I believe you are desperately ruining any chance you may have with her. I provide counseling to many people, some of which have low self esteems. They keep telling themselves they are worthless, etc. For that reason, directly telling them they are ... (read in full...)
Sad..confused..not used to these feelings!
Q. Hello All... I feel like I'm falling apart here and have no control over it. I was married for 3 Years.. split in April.. 3 months later I was officially divorce legally. Now almost a year later and I still have feelings for my ex. A person who the ...
A. 27 February 2009: So, apparently this other man didn't read into all the BS she was saying?
You'll need to keep in contact with your child. Just because you can't deal with her, doesn't mean the child should suffer. Reading this, to a certain extent, it's going to... (read in full...)
If he loves me, how can he hit me?
Q. Im in a abusive marriage I love my husband but I can't do it anymore im to the point I hate him I don't want to have sex with him I pray that things will get better but he gets worse what should I do he says he love me but how could hit me...
A. 26 February 2009: I want to know, how do you love yourself and choose to stay with someone who's hitting you? At this point it doesn't matter what he says. What does matter is (1) he hit you (2) you don't deserve it (3) you need to be somewhere safe. I recommend ... (read in full...)
He says he wants to leave..he's not happy
Q. I have been with this man for 14 years now, we have a 9 year old son. We have had our ups and downs, but have remained strong. I have had a problem feeling insecure due to a weight gain. I never wanted to go anywhere because I felt that I was so ...
A. 26 February 2009: I'd ask him. You don't need to be waiting around and wondering what might be going on. Sometimes we make changes, or mentally withdraw due to circumstances. Many of us have experienced a person fall, and it's easier to fall than it is to get back ... (read in full...)
We fight a lot, he broke up with me and now wants me back
Q. Hello again, My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year and 2 months we usually fight over really insignificant things but this time we had an arguments and he broke up with me saying that we fight alot and that thats not how a relation...
A. 24 February 2009: So you want him for the rest of your life, but you don't know if you can trust him. If I was in a relationship where anger was present often, I'd bail too.
It sounds like you're pushing him away. Make him wait too long, you will loose him for ... (read in full...)
I want to be with him but I feel unhappy about our secret relationship...
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating this guy for a year and change. His whole family is not fond of me especially his mother. This is because I dated her other son prior to this one for about half a year. I found out that he cheated on me so I broke it...
A. 24 February 2009: I could see where he may feel "you're" unstable in this relationship. So, he contacted someone. You were broken up. He didn't forget you. He may have been seeking communication to get his mind off your breaking up with him.
I think you need to step... (read in full...)
How to handle my husband's trust issues?
Q. I am 27 years old, with three kids and a husband of 6 years. We have been together fo 10 years this April. Well, about 4 yeas ago i left my husband for several reasons the main was i was tired of being taken for granted. I stayed gone for about 3 ...
A. 24 February 2009: Does he know you were seeing someone for the three months? Do you notice any other changes in him, such as being withdrawn etc.? Has there been any change in your routine that may be reason why he might assume something is going on?... (read in full...)
How can I leave my past behind?
Q. Recently i started dating an ex of 8+ years although i was in a long term relationship with another man of 7+ years. I allowed myself to get in this situation as i always had a weakness for my ex and he said all he things i wanted to hear(he was ...
A. 24 February 2009: You are missing what is sacred. You're taking care of one man then two, then one and you miss taking care of yourself. Is your engagement sacred, or is he just available. I'd have to question your reasons, because you were willing to cruise with the ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel bad about wanting to leave him!
Q. I have been in a a strange relationship for almost four years now. I stated to him 2 weeks into it that I did not want to be with him and he cried. I felt so horrible for making him cry that I capitulated. Since than I would have to say I have ...
A. 23 February 2009: Being in business,do you have a partnership agreement? Anytime, holding an equitable stake, a contract is needed to protect your investment.
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I want to leave but maintain a friendship for my son's sake.
Q. I am a 24 year old female, I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we have a 7 year old son! I moved out with my mom for about 4 days and came back for all the wrong reasons! I have been back for 3 days and still want to be on my own but he ...
A. 23 February 2009: Realize 10 years is a long investment with anyone. It may be easier for you to walk away than it is for him. By reading this, you are in a situation that quite a few people are. You finished school, and they forgot to teach either of you how to have ... (read in full...)
Depressed in love and scared.
Q. So I am currently going through depression and anxiety. I have grown up with a crappy view on relationships and men (sorry guys). I have this amazing boyfriend. He is so great but I have all these fears of love fading and pretty much any fear a ...
A. 23 February 2009: What meds are you on, and what is the diagnosis for your medication?
Phobias are normal, it's also normal for your brain to protect you from getting hurt. It sounds like you've been hurt, so it's hard for you to extend trust or open yourself up t... (read in full...)
Could the pharmacist have been mistaken, or does he make sense?
Q. Today I went to the drugstore to get the morning after pill. Now, I am on birth control too, but I wanted to get it just to be safe. But when I got to the pharmacy and explained everything to the pharmacist, I got the strangest look when I mentioned ...
A. 23 February 2009: I'd advise against it. Being on one pill and taking another, can render either one ineffective. Warnings are on many bottles, "don't take X, X, or X, while taking this product." I'd think the same applies when mixing birth control. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for your wished. We're still doing well. I have my guitars. I can play them anytime, and they don't say no or talk back. lol
Did you see how the United Nations were forced to stop aid to the Asian country who the cyclone hit? They atte... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: your welcome. I get lonely from time to time as well. Then remembering the actions and hurt people do to others snaps me right out of that thought of being with someone. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 May 2008: So you called him, and now know the truth about it not working out. What do you feel you need to do now? I suggest focusing on you. The problem I've seen is you're dependent. It seems as is you need someone there to "make" you happy. To help you ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 April 2008: No, I don't recall that song, but when I was a teen, I'd watch the "Flying Circus." It was late night, had to sneak down to the tv to watch it, or mom and dad would get up (busted).
I know some times I ramble. I get on a thought pattern and just... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 26 April 2008: Rape is an action that should not exist. One of the most damaging actions that can take place, weather in family or not. Ten years is crap. I guess that depends. I saw a show last night on prison, where many sexual criminals are killed before being ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 April 2008: Reading that letter I thought about two areas of concern. First, it's designed to cause guilt. Second, it's written without taking personal responsability for his actions. Every part of his apology was directed toward placing blame on people, or on ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 April 2008: We didn't get hired for filming. I think we applied too late. That's okay, still had a great time with the kids.
If he does show up, kick him in the ________, and tell him you think you just saw a ghost run by and nailed him in his twins. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 March 2008: Its hard when feeling alone. Then we ponder on could of would of should of. I use meditation as a form of relaxation and for stress relief.
What needs to happen in learning to really let go. Healing can't begin as long as you have this tight grip... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 11 March 2008: You're right, he's not a good person. Sending his a card, all though a polite gesture, is still holding on. I wish my ex's happy birthday, but we're also on good speaking terms without any intention past a birthday wish on either side.
Wish us luck... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 March 2008: You know you are going to be okay. Reason being, your persistant in doing so. The problem in domestic violence is when does all this begin. Lets look at my story in where I was living in an abusive relationship for a year, I was not the abuser.
M... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 3 March 2008: She said she'll make you a big cookie. She's a good kid 13, and my little drama queen. She cooks when she visits because I tend to start fires, burn things. I burnt off my eye brows bbq'ing. She said I'm grounded from cooking.
Look at what he's done... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: You did good. You let him know you're not a toy he can just toss asside when he wants a variety. I'm proud of you for standing up to him and not caving in. (my daughter said you deserve a cookie.)
Standing up for yourself is a huge step in taki... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: As I've said before, this broken feeling that doesn't seem to disappear is not because of the guy who wasn't nice. Quite often we use the affections of someone to fulfill a void feeling within ourselves because another area of our sense of self ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 March 2008: I know it's not easy, and it's not going to be quickly fixed. Your feelings are out of need or desire. What I'm trying to get you to realize is to build your personal happiness. These feelings you have are wanting someone to "make" you happy. No one ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 25 February 2008: It fairly humerous when someone gets together with someone who's cheating is starts out as the other woman, then when it happens to them, they just can't figure out why he wouldn't treat them different than they did the last one. Can people change? ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 19 February 2008: Dang girl 40 smokes a day. I can't say much, on stressful days when I smoked, I'd do around that. You're right, being in an emotionally abusive relationship it's sometimes difficult for the person in it to see. These guys use subtle changes, then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: I know you're in pain and hurting. If I could waive a wand and erase it, I would. I'm not sorry I went through what I had. If I never experienced it, I probably wouldn't be her talking to you. I didn't begin learning about behaviors becuase I ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: U where wrong, give my watch and hat to the cat???? Now you're not in the wrong, just like the cat can't wear a watch, unless it's got some muscular legs.
Do you understand what manipulation and intimidation is? It's an act. A conscious choice to u... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 15 February 2008: Your mom is correct, but tell her from me that if it's true love and meant to be, then your treated as if you are.
Take care, and if you need anything let me know... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 14 February 2008: Sorry you're having a hard time. Remember this is your life. He wasn't respecting it or who you are. It's not a matter of wanting to date, or be with someone, it's the principle of you being treated well, and not accepting anything less than that. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 13 February 2008: Your welcome, I hope everything works out for you. Anytime you need to chat, just let me know. Take care.... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 12 February 2008: I have to agree with the other poster. The guy who asked you out, go have dinner or coffee. You need to get out for a little while, it will do you good.
Take a nice walk or just sit outside with something to drink and just enjoy the beauty arou... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: It's all about keeping personal strength. You have to remind yourself that you are a better person than to accept being mistreated by others. The name of my CD is "Everybody's Somebody's Child" That idea stems from treating others as you would ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: Thank your for the kind words. Take care of yourself, and feel free to ask anytime you need someone to talk to or advice. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 February 2008: Remember the story of the "boy who cried wolf". He lied to you prior too. You knew he had lied, so where did his credibility go with you believing what he says? I'm in law as a profession. With a judge if one lie is proved, the judge can then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: I know it hurts. If it didn't it would be a happy ending. Not everything ends happily, but even those that don't we learn something from them. I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for the good time and the bad times. I have learned so much off ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Thank you for the compliment hlskitten.
Now you're right, you don't deserve to be treated that way. He wants to talk about respect, but doesn't carry respect for you. I don't recall anytime when putting his pen in another girls ink was consider... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Sorry to hear about your pain. It's for reasons like this I remain single and plan to do so "till death do I part", unless someone comes a long that I just can't pass up. lol Now when he says he misses you tell him "I bet you say this to all the ... (read in full...)
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